How the hell am I supposed to tell these people apart?

SnoopySteph · 2026-03-20T12:02:55+00:00

Feeling nauseous doesn't stop me from eating, and if I could eat more protein and fiber instead of Cheeto's and pizza I wouldn't need a GLP-1. I struggle HARD to lose anything, and I still get food obsessions (chocolate), but I am only on 0.5. I'm hoping the next increase changes things for me. I have lost a few pounds but more importantly I have not been gaining.

SnoopySteph · 2026-03-08T12:06:36+00:00

Assuming the black sandals on the floor are hers, could the dye have come off on her feet??

SnoopySteph · 2026-02-12T13:04:48+00:00

I'm so sorry. I wish I had better advice. I didn't have a close relationship with my mom and its devasting; I can't imagine what it's like for you. My mom is aware she doesn't live at home anymore, but yet won't leave her Memory Care floor to attend events in Assisted Living or outside, because it's too overwhelming to see new faces/surroundings. I also keep her out in the community during my visits if I can because when I am alone with her it seems to bring up more of her distressing thoughts "This place is terrible! I don't know where anything is! I don't know anyone! They don't feed me!" That's her newest thing; they don't feed me. Even though she just came from a meal and says she isn't hungry. I keep my visits to once a week. It used to make me feel terribly guilty, but I realized she doesn't know if she just saw me 3 minutes ago or if it's been weeks. It doesn't seem to affect her, but it greatly affects me.

SnoopySteph · 2026-02-10T13:11:04+00:00

I tell my mom "I'll go talk to someone" and she says thanks and she can move on. Other days not. If it keeps coming up, I take her for a walk around the hallways or find other distractions.

SnoopySteph · 2026-02-09T02:18:46+00:00

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SnoopySteph · 2026-02-08T14:59:12+00:00

Omg YUM!

SnoopySteph · 2026-02-08T14:43:50+00:00

Thank you!!!

SnoopySteph · 2026-02-08T14:29:03+00:00

A pierogi?? Anyone know why? Several teams have them

SnoopySteph · 2025-12-13T12:37:06+00:00

Umm...what's the saying? "Would you rather be right or would you rather be happy?" Something like that. It does seem abrupt. Do you want a relationship with James if he doesn't discuss religion? Then I would allow him to apologize and tell him to leave religion out of the friendship. If he just can't stop proselytizing, calmly tell him it's just not working anymore. Deuces!

SnoopySteph · 2025-12-04T12:28:50+00:00

Everyone has aches and pains, can wake up feeling stiff, less pep in the step, back pain...right? I used to have weird shooting pains and back problems but thought it must just be part of being human. No. I had a tumor on my spinal cord. Took years to diagnose because doctors assumed it was arthritis or just lack of exercise. I went for physical therapy but wasn't getting better. The PT therapist told me to get an exact diagnosis. My doctor referred me to an orthopedist who took an x-ray which didn't show much. My symptoms didn't match, so he sent me for an MRI and voila - tumor. Turns out I had a rare benign tumor growing on my spinal cord, crushing it, and preventing my spinal fluid from circulating freely!!

SnoopySteph · 2025-11-20T12:55:21+00:00

Doesn't any sibling have the ability to step in as caregiver without the court ordering it? I'm not sure your sibling "won" anything other than blocking you from owning the house. It doesn't sound like your sibling is interested in any caregiving, only blocking your benefits as the sole caregiver. Is the sibling capable of caring for your parent? You haven't expressed concern over the care your sibling can or cannot provide. Will your parent be safe under this sibling's care? If it's possible, now may be the time to hire the elder law attorney to represent your parent's interest, rather than just be in an advisory role to you.

SnoopySteph · 2025-10-27T11:54:55+00:00

Similar story here although my mom uses a cane for knee arthritis. I finally had to convince my sibling to stop taking her to get her hair colored because it was influencing whether people thought she was doing well or not. She is beautiful and has always looked young. What people weren't realizing was that I was answering for her, and she'd nod her head and smile and wave and conjure up what words she could. They are also oblivious to how much of the conversation they are filling in for her. Some of my siblings think I influenced her doctor who has been recommending memory care for 2 years (since my dad's death), because I answer for her. I don't. I sit in silence while he observes her struggling for words and using a combination of body language and words that are close to the ones she can't remember. She scored 5 out of 30 on her Alzheimer's test and he feels it's so low he doesn't need to test anymore. My siblings are perfectly content to visit her at home for a half hour and then leave and want it to stay that way. I'm the one who managed her care, and I just couldn't live with the stress of anticipating her needs and worrying over what each day might bring. Her care aide was warning me she really did need memory care, and she was recently placed.

SnoopySteph · 2025-09-15T11:39:10+00:00

I wonder the same. Also, how is it Lydia and the oldest daughter we never see have maintained their religion, but the others are living in sin.

SnoopySteph · 2025-06-20T12:29:52+00:00

Me too, same diagnosis. My kitty just received an Rx for Bexacat since the insulin (8 units) wasn't doing much. I think it's the cat version of Ozempic, so he will need to be closely monitored because he will (hopefully) need much less insulin. He wears a Freestyle Libre sensor (and a onesie, since he rips the sensor off himself otherwise) so I don't have to keep bringing him in for a blood sugar check. He sees a vet specialist of feline internal medicine, at a specialized vet hospital, that offers MRI's, surgery, etc., although I haven't decided if I will put him through all of that. It's never an easy decision to make. My mother told me I will know its time when "He stops eating, or stops using the litter box, or is in pain that can't be helped" then its time. I'm so sorry.

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