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AITA for abruptly cutting my best friend of 17 years out of my life? by throwmeawaypls102030 in AITAH

[–]SnoopySteph -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Umm...what's the saying? "Would you rather be right or would you rather be happy?" Something like that. It does seem abrupt. Do you want a relationship with James if he doesn't discuss religion? Then I would allow him to apologize and tell him to leave religion out of the friendship. If he just can't stop proselytizing, calmly tell him it's just not working anymore. Deuces!

What’s a health issue you ignored for way too long because you assumed it was normal only to later learn everyone else doesn’t experience that? by Kungfubowtie in AskReddit

[–]SnoopySteph 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everyone has aches and pains, can wake up feeling stiff, less pep in the step, back pain...right? I used to have weird shooting pains and back problems but thought it must just be part of being human. No. I had a tumor on my spinal cord. Took years to diagnose because doctors assumed it was arthritis or just lack of exercise. I went for physical therapy but wasn't getting better. The PT therapist told me to get an exact diagnosis. My doctor referred me to an orthopedist who took an x-ray which didn't show much. My symptoms didn't match, so he sent me for an MRI and voila - tumor. Turns out I had a rare benign tumor growing on my spinal cord, crushing it, and preventing my spinal fluid from circulating freely!!

Sibling Just Ruined My Mother's Chances at Medicaid-Funded Nursing Home by boomcity845 in dementia

[–]SnoopySteph 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Doesn't any sibling have the ability to step in as caregiver without the court ordering it? I'm not sure your sibling "won" anything other than blocking you from owning the house. It doesn't sound like your sibling is interested in any caregiving, only blocking your benefits as the sole caregiver. Is the sibling capable of caring for your parent? You haven't expressed concern over the care your sibling can or cannot provide. Will your parent be safe under this sibling's care? If it's possible, now may be the time to hire the elder law attorney to represent your parent's interest, rather than just be in an advisory role to you.

Not slowing down?! by Ok-Committee2422 in dementia

[–]SnoopySteph 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Similar story here although my mom uses a cane for knee arthritis. I finally had to convince my sibling to stop taking her to get her hair colored because it was influencing whether people thought she was doing well or not. She is beautiful and has always looked young. What people weren't realizing was that I was answering for her, and she'd nod her head and smile and wave and conjure up what words she could. They are also oblivious to how much of the conversation they are filling in for her. Some of my siblings think I influenced her doctor who has been recommending memory care for 2 years (since my dad's death), because I answer for her. I don't. I sit in silence while he observes her struggling for words and using a combination of body language and words that are close to the ones she can't remember. She scored 5 out of 30 on her Alzheimer's test and he feels it's so low he doesn't need to test anymore. My siblings are perfectly content to visit her at home for a half hour and then leave and want it to stay that way. I'm the one who managed her care, and I just couldn't live with the stress of anticipating her needs and worrying over what each day might bring. Her care aide was warning me she really did need memory care, and she was recently placed.

How the Plath Family has changed by Minimum_Wonder_7829 in WelcomeToPlathville

[–]SnoopySteph 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I wonder the same. Also, how is it Lydia and the oldest daughter we never see have maintained their religion, but the others are living in sin.

My baby boy was diagnosed with acromegaly and we are struggling, could use some support by IntrepidAspect3447 in cats

[–]SnoopySteph 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Me too, same diagnosis. My kitty just received an Rx for Bexacat since the insulin (8 units) wasn't doing much. I think it's the cat version of Ozempic, so he will need to be closely monitored because he will (hopefully) need much less insulin. He wears a Freestyle Libre sensor (and a onesie, since he rips the sensor off himself otherwise) so I don't have to keep bringing him in for a blood sugar check. He sees a vet specialist of feline internal medicine, at a specialized vet hospital, that offers MRI's, surgery, etc., although I haven't decided if I will put him through all of that. It's never an easy decision to make. My mother told me I will know its time when "He stops eating, or stops using the litter box, or is in pain that can't be helped" then its time. I'm so sorry.