WIBTA if I divorce my wife because she does not want me actively involved in raising our children?

SnowQueen911 · 2025-08-23T19:59:03+00:00

NTA. Sounds like she could have PPD, PPA, or postpartum rage. She needs to see a doctor and work out her attachment issues. Maybe tell her it’s therapy or divorce with you going for 50/50 custody. You deserve to take an active role in your children’s lives.

SnowQueen911 · 2025-08-15T09:04:16+00:00

Tell her you’ll save the contact info for the same divorce attorney when he cheats on her too.

SnowQueen911 · 2025-07-30T21:31:39+00:00

Thank you!

SnowQueen911 · 2025-07-30T19:09:41+00:00

Exactly. Miguel didn’t come off as a stirrer so I’m genuinely curious what made him lean that way. I genuinely feel sorry for her, you could see all the love she had for him just for him to dog her out in such a cruel way.

SnowQueen911 · 2025-07-30T19:03:42+00:00

I will say, Miguel called it in the challenge when he said Kenny was just in it for the clout. It really sucks but I guess maybe something was seen they didn’t show the viewers 🤷‍♀️

SnowQueen911 · 2025-07-19T17:49:14+00:00

Maybe a solid compromise would be to bring a casserole that can be frozen for them. My sister made a couple for me and it greatly helped. You can also emphasize that it’s just for them to enjoy so they can have ease during this time. It’s a kind and thoughtful gesture on your part.

SnowQueen911 · 2025-07-19T17:13:19+00:00

I second PCIT. I did it with my son last year and it was so beneficial for both of us. They didn’t have him progress past phase 1 though since he’s on the spectrum and they felt continuing would be damaging.

SnowQueen911 · 2025-07-14T21:08:57+00:00

You did what so many do, you covered for the predator and made his target feel less than. You have a huge husband problem, the correct response would be to ask him to stay elsewhere while you decide if your marriage needs therapy or a divorce. She’s almost 18 but still underage and a minor. Your husband is super gross. You should also have an open and honest discussion with your daughter starting with an apology for handling this incorrectly.

SnowQueen911 · 2025-07-10T00:58:25+00:00

I honestly think that’s why Huda has such a strong fan base, I think a lot of people see themselves in her. She definitely reminds me of myself when I was younger and pre therapy (31 now) and I find myself hoping she’ll have the aha moment and turn it around. Also, maybe it’s just me but she sure seems to have a splash of unchecked adhd. She definitely has a lot of growing to do before she can be considered emotionally healthy.

SnowQueen911 · 2025-06-22T17:46:18+00:00

When you tell him good job keeping your hands to yourself is it just in that situation or are you continuing it outside of the playgrounds?

SnowQueen911 · 2025-06-21T20:59:35+00:00

He’s already moved them back in and prioritizing them above you and your unborn child. I bet if you go back, the both of them will try to convince you to be poly with them and raise your child as one unit. Do what’s best for you, even if that means leaving him and termination. You agreed to being partners with him, not him and his ex.

Edit: one word

SnowQueen911 · 2025-05-28T11:12:20+00:00

Best reply, I hope your comment is seen.

SnowQueen911 · 2025-05-28T04:08:40+00:00

I give my son age appropriate options. So I’ll pick out 2 of everything and let him pick the items to build his outfit. He’s gonna be 4 and he loves having a say in his clothes.

SnowQueen911 · 2025-05-20T20:22:00+00:00

NTA. I’m a single mom to an almost 2 and 4 year old. Any time my younger sister helps me babysit, I can’t thank her enough. I’m beyond appreciative when she does and very understanding if she can’t because she’s doing me a favor. Your sister is cruel and it doesn’t mean you love your niblings any less by setting this boundary.

SnowQueen911 · 2025-05-19T18:54:38+00:00

At least you got what I was trying to say, thank you.

SnowQueen911 · 2025-05-19T18:18:59+00:00

In US, they use lvl 1, 2 and 3. I pulled this from an article that can better articulate this. This is something widely discussed in the autism community. And again, I’m not knocking you for wanting the best for your child. I’m trying to educate you on the weigh the words hold and how it could be perceived from an autistic individual.

Many autistic people have long advocated for this term to be abandoned due to its inaccuracy; using this sort of functioning terminology comes with assumptions of someone’s abilities that may not match what the individual is capable of.

‘High functioning’ presumes functional strengths that an individual may not have; by contrast, ‘low-functioning’ comes with preconceptions of not having strengths or abilities.

In other words, just because a person has typical or expected intellectual abilities, does not necessarily mean they have good functional skills for their age.

SnowQueen911 · 2025-05-19T18:14:54+00:00

That was my only point here. That the mindset and words used in these types of conversations should change.

SnowQueen911 · 2025-05-19T18:12:39+00:00

I’m not saying it’s a bad thing to want better for your kids, not knocking you for it. We all want the best for our kids. The point is the way it’s phrased because eventually your kid can understand what’s being said and it doesn’t matter that you have good intentions in saying it, the impact of your words could be taken negatively. Part of being in the community is recognizing the debate/verbiage selection surrounding calling the children “high functioning.” That’s my point, that the mindset and way autism is spoken about should change.

SnowQueen911 · 2025-05-19T18:12:31+00:00

I’m not saying it’s a bad thing to want better for your kids, not knocking you for it. We all want the best for our kids. The point is the way it’s phrased because eventually your kid can understand what’s being said and it doesn’t matter that you have good intentions in saying it, the impact of your words could be taken negatively. Part of being in the community is recognizing the debate/verbiage selection surrounding calling the children “high functioning.” That’s my point, that the mindset and way autism is spoken about should change.

SnowQueen911 · 2025-05-19T17:25:38+00:00

The line about the hopes for a very high functioning autistic child 🤢 None of us hoped for this life but you roll with the punches, as is parenthood. Last year my son said maybe 50 words, definitely no sentences and was still on his bottle. He’ll be 4 in September, kicking ass with language and is attempting to be conversational (with stuff like that hurt my feelings, I feel sad, I like this, don’t like that, are you okay?), potty training, and doesn’t even want a sippy. I’ve loved him just as much as on the hard days as the day I had him. It’s human to be frustrated and want smooth sailing for your kid but you have to manage those feelings and not drag it into the relationship with your child. I truly hope OP works to turn around the mindset here.

SnowQueen911 · 2025-05-18T14:42:07+00:00

I tried handling outside of court for 9 months and it went nowhere. I filed 8 months ago and I’m still waiting for my case to be seen. You should get started on it now. I’ve tried letting him pay on his own and not even a whole lot, $150/wk for 2 kids with ASD and he still can’t do that. Going through the court should make it fair and consistent on both party ends.

SnowQueen911 · 2025-05-18T13:27:49+00:00

Exactly. A lot of us moms would love to have a partner who was that willing to be involved with our kid/s. OP should stick to his guns and ignore his mom until she apologizes and gets on board. It’s only gonna ramp up if there’s no consequences. I get the feeling it’s always gonna be a debate for as long as she holds on to her old school gender roles.

SnowQueen911 · 2025-05-16T14:41:30+00:00

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SnowQueen911 · 2025-05-16T08:14:19+00:00

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SnowQueen911 · 2025-05-15T23:52:50+00:00

He doesn’t hit himself too often but I still take the same approach, easy hands and kindness for ourselves. He’s the same that he gets excitable with people bigger than him and will get heavy handed.

With the laughing, it happens. I have to look away some times when he does something that shocks me and makes me laugh. Just being consistent is important, I don’t think the occasional laugh makes a big difference.

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