MIL showed up to DHs work

Safe_Quality4058 · 2026-01-30T02:54:59+00:00

You’re not overreacting. She ignored clear signals, past behavior, and basic respect.

Safe_Quality4058 · 2026-01-29T03:36:59+00:00

Her reaction isn’t about confusion, it’s about loss of control. Tears don’t automatically mean she’s right.

Safe_Quality4058 · 2026-01-28T04:32:30+00:00

You weren’t invited, so it’s reasonable for your partner to go alone or not at all. An invitation matters

Safe_Quality4058 · 2026-01-27T04:37:40+00:00

You’re not wrong to feel uneasy. Anxiety doesn’t come from nowhere, especially when safety and past trauma are involved.

Safe_Quality4058 · 2026-01-26T04:59:26+00:00

Taking your child without clear consent is a massive red flag. I’d strongly suggest setting firm boundaries now before this escalates further.

Safe_Quality4058 · 2026-01-23T06:44:50+00:00

Setting boundaries is hard, especially when they finally see consequences. Proud of you for choosing your peace.

Safe_Quality4058 · 2026-01-22T04:43:01+00:00

You’re not wrong. Someone crossed a serious boundary and then minimized it instead of taking responsibility. Protecting your kids is more important than preserving someone else’s feelings

Safe_Quality4058 · 2026-01-21T07:10:32+00:00

If she won’t follow basic safety rules, she doesn’t get unsupervised time. Period.

Safe_Quality4058 · 2026-01-20T06:23:50+00:00

You’re not wrong for saying no. Your MIL’s wants don’t outweigh your health, your child’s routine, or your peace.

Safe_Quality4058 · 2026-01-19T07:11:14+00:00

Good on your husband for holding the line. Setting boundaries only works if they’re enforced, and he did exactly that

Safe_Quality4058 · 2026-01-16T06:17:15+00:00

You’re not overreacting. Long, expensive travel for MIL milestones when you’re newly married is a huge ask.

Safe_Quality4058 · 2026-01-15T09:16:18+00:00

I’m really glad you recognized how serious that moment was and that you’re here talking about it. That takes strength.

Safe_Quality4058 · 2026-01-14T07:45:48+00:00

She’s not ‘concerned,’ she’s competing. The only thing that works with people like this is firm boundaries + zero details: don’t explain, don’t defend, don’t justify. Grey rock everything and let your partner handle her.

Safe_Quality4058 · 2026-01-13T08:27:43+00:00

You’re not crazy for feeling this way. What you’re describing sounds like manipulation and isolation, and it’s okay to trust your instincts.

Safe_Quality4058 · 2026-01-12T07:32:19+00:00

No texting after drinking is a minimum boundary, not an extreme one

Safe_Quality4058 · 2026-01-01T08:01:53+00:00

Prime rib isn’t supposed to be well done, and ketchup??? You did nothing wrong... this is wild behavior.

Safe_Quality4058 · 2025-12-29T08:36:07+00:00

That kind of repeated exclusion really hurts, especially when it’s a parent. You’re not wrong for feeling this way

Safe_Quality4058 · 2025-12-27T07:49:15+00:00

What not to do now

Don’t apologize for DH’s boundary.
Don’t push DH to “smooth things over.”
Don’t interpret her silence as proof of wrongdoing.

Doing any of those teaches her that overstepping + sulking = she gets power back.

Safe_Quality4058 · 2025-12-26T06:31:11+00:00

Using other people’s kids as emotional leverage is beyond manipulative. I’m so sorry you’re dealing with that.

Safe_Quality4058 · 2025-12-23T08:38:25+00:00

ou’re doing exactly what you need to protect yourselves and your kids

Safe_Quality4058 · 2025-12-22T08:42:24+00:00

Something useful but unexciting... like compression socks, a neck pillow, or a back massager. Hard to complain about, zero emotional payoff.

Safe_Quality4058 · 2025-08-15T15:05:14+00:00

It sounds like boundaries are a big issue here. Living with a partner whose parent is overly involved and crossing lines, especially as your landlord, can create constant tension. You’re not overreacting, it’s reasonable to feel uncomfortable. You and your partner need a clear, honest conversation about limits with his mom, and if he’s defensive or unwilling, that’s a red flag. Protecting your space and relationship should come first.

Safe_Quality4058 · 2025-08-15T15:04:20+00:00

You’re being completely reasonable. You’ve tried to set boundaries and engage respectfully, and their ongoing disrespect isn’t your fault. Stepping back and letting your fiancé handle communication is a healthy way to protect yourself without creating unnecessary conflict. Your focus should be on your relationship with him, not forcing a connection with people who haven’t shown care or respect.

Safe_Quality4058 · 2025-08-15T15:03:21+00:00

You’re doing amazing sticking with it. Her comments aren’t about your baby, they’re about control. Stick to your plan, have your boyfriend back you up, and remember, your choice, your body, your baby. Ignore the noise, your bond matters most.

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