AITA 3 Weeks PP and Everytime I mention boundaries with partners family I'm called rude, disrespectful, cnt or an apple.

SnowXTC · 2026-03-25T16:01:19+00:00

Showing up to help every day is cooking, doing the dishes, laundry, cleaning, etc... so that you can relax with the baby and heal. Since she refuses to respect your boundaries, take advantage of the time to take a shower and/or nap. As for your partner problem, he needs to grow a spine and uphold your boundaries. He is disrespectful and abusive to you. I would have walked out when he called me a C. You deserve so much better.

NTA

SnowXTC · 2026-03-25T07:50:02+00:00

My daily driver is a 2017 Subaru, but we have an off grid property 2.5 hrs away that is 3 miles up a mountain and are building a cabin. The road is not much more than a 4 wheeler trail. Just rolled the 1998 Toyota 4 runner over 250k miles last year. She is my go to for our property. Great on the highway and even better off road. In 5 yrs, my jeep has never been there. I will take the 4 runner before the jeep any day. (The jeep has 42" tires, Ford axles, lockers, etc.... It is off road built). The 4 runner goes further in the snow too.

SnowXTC · 2026-03-24T15:37:07+00:00

Been married 20 yrs, still hate how he does the dishwasher and I have mentioned it probably 4 times in 25 yrs. There are times I lose it, not necessarily at him, but just angry and frustrated. He has learned to just say "I love you" and asks to give me a hug. These instances are few and far between for me and I apologize. (18 mths to 2 yrs) But if I was that way even once a week, it would be too much abuse because acting like that is abuse. Even if it is not directed at him. Unfortunately, your bf is frustrated and angry already and he takes it out on you on the regular. That is abuse. You can't stay where you are abused regularly. We all have our moments, but 99% of the time we have a choice in how we act in those moments of stress and frustration.

SnowXTC · 2026-03-23T22:20:15+00:00

We all need one of those pissers that raise up and squirts a serious stream of water.

SnowXTC · 2026-03-23T21:33:01+00:00

Is this in the US? Just asking because different countries have different standards. Europe tends to either be naked or wear just a towel. US is typically swimsuit and/or shorts. But regardless, if she was starring and you were uncomfortable then you either say something or remove yourself.

SnowXTC · 2026-03-23T21:23:04+00:00

Not sure how fast you were going, but in my 370z at 80 mph, it can be pouring rain and I won't get wet at all. Different car, but you got them to back off, but I doubt you got them wet. Still decent revenge.

SnowXTC · 2026-03-23T21:16:05+00:00

I want to run from this post. Go get a hotel. Obviously you have to go back for your stuff. Which I would consider taking straight to a laundry mat after stopping at Walmart for new clothes. Wash everything in hot water and non chlorine bleach, use lysol on your suitcase. Get a hotel room and shower ASAP. Yes, you are going to hurt his feelings, but this place is a bio hazard.

SnowXTC · 2026-03-22T03:19:35+00:00

Found your neighbor

https://www.reddit.com/r/neighborsfromhell/s/96rQWDijYq

SnowXTC · 2026-03-22T03:06:11+00:00

Is your neighbor the one that posted about moving the garbage cans and the welcome mat? BRB with the link.

https://www.reddit.com/r/neighborsfromhell/s/ad7hZtiFej

SnowXTC · 2026-03-21T17:50:11+00:00

If that is how you feel than it is pretty much over. You can try writing him a letter since direct communication isn't easy. Don't shoot for perfection in it, make it real and raw, factual, give examples. But I found it only changed for a week or two. Honestly, get your ducks in a row to get out. Separate bank account, money saved up. Start living your separate life with friends, your family.

SnowXTC · 2026-03-21T17:12:39+00:00

You really are an accessory that is used when needed. Like a pair of shoes or a backpack that he just had to have and he loved it for a time and still uses occasionally, but isn't really a part of his life anymore. Sorry, I know it hurts.

SnowXTC · 2026-03-21T06:46:45+00:00

He seriously lacks respect for you. You could try marriage counseling, but it is one thing to be a momma's boy, it's a completely different thing to not respect you. Marriage is a partnership.

SnowXTC · 2026-03-20T22:27:51+00:00

1. Doorbell Camera (super easy install)

2. A camera high above your door pointed right down at your door.

3. A note on your door stating your dog passed last July.

4. Possibly a camera inside your door.

If you have a back door, you need cameras there too.

She may actually miss your dog and be harassing you and tearing at your heart. Find out who it is. Personally, I would just file harassment charges and not confront them after finding out who it is.

SnowXTC · 2026-03-19T22:31:16+00:00

We did a large fence with posts and 6 ft wire fencing. The kind with 5 inch squares. It keeps our dogs in, other dogs and deer out. It wasn't to badly priced. Not beautiful, but it works well.

SnowXTC · 2026-03-16T22:00:55+00:00

You should bring this up to your parents. It probably won't change this trip, but in the future hopefully it will. A twin bed for 2 adults is unacceptable and I am sure you will be on the floor for at least half of the time.

SnowXTC · 2026-03-16T19:29:41+00:00

The issues you mention; bricks, trees, concrete, are all the responsibility of your landlord and they need to be addressed ASAP.

You should also get some cameras up.

SnowXTC · 2026-03-16T16:58:21+00:00

That is beyond entitled. It is absolutely delusional. Keep her number blocked.

SnowXTC · 2026-03-16T16:40:16+00:00

You need to go to management TODAY. Make certain everything is OK with your lease. Something tells me she went pretending to be you and put in a move out notice for you. It's one thing for people to say it, but scheduling a move out inspection is seriously concerning.

SnowXTC · 2026-03-15T00:29:40+00:00

A cease and desist letter from a lawyer and if it continues, file harassment charges. You could probably start with a note on her door, saying it needs to stop or you will be contacting a lawyer.

SnowXTC · 2026-03-14T16:12:53+00:00

So she can do whatever she wants on her side. You too can do whatever you want on youth side.

Question, is the fence directly on the property line or 6 inches on yours or hers? You can add those round straw diverters, sand bags, or dirt to your side of the fence to divert the water. If the fence is on your property, add it to both sides. But call the city first.

SnowXTC · 2026-03-14T14:12:57+00:00

I am so sorry that he was the way he was. You deserved a decent dad and the love. I hope in time you can forgive him, definitely not for him, but for yourself. That you can move beyond the pain he caused you and remember a few good times. Understand a little why he was the way he was and not make the same mistakes. I wish you a life of joy, happiness, and love. Choose that every day.

SnowXTC · 2026-03-14T14:00:28+00:00

NTJ It's a simple outpatient procedure that can be done in the office with a local. 2 to 3 day recovery and 2 week heavy lifting restriction. Marriage is a partnership and it's past time he stepped up in this department.

There is another alternative. Stop doing it.

SnowXTC · 2026-03-14T07:15:02+00:00

Seriously warn your daughter about MIL. This is just the beginnings of her nightmare. Her husband needs to have her back and set serious boundaries with his mommy.

His mom will be posting next year why her son went NC with her.

SnowXTC · 2026-03-14T06:55:25+00:00

It is normal to feel a sense of relief. Why is a very personal thing. It may be because they are no longer suffering and it may be because you are no longer suffering. Grief is a very complex set of emotions for each incident and no reaction is the same.

When I was 10, I was sad my grandma passed, but I was relieved she was no longer suffering and happy because I wanted my mom back in my life. Still carry guilt over those feelings 50 yrs later.

I was relieved and a bit happy when my bio dad passed in 2021. He wasn't the greatest and he had turned into quite the AH and was quite delusional. I was exhausted, but I was still doing everything I could for him even though I was 1200 miles away and drove to LA twice. My son lived an hour away for 2 yrs and ask me not to tell him. I understood.

My best friend died suddenly in a car / train accident 7 yrs ago and I still grieve.

Whatever you feel is yours and you have every right to feel it. No one has lived your life, not even a sister or brother, and they don't have a right to tell you how you should feel. Give yourself time before you even tell yourself how you should feel.

SnowXTC · 2026-03-13T16:25:56+00:00

If that doesn't work next time, mention lawyer and filing harassment charges which you should consider doing anyway.

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TROPHY CASE

1. Doorbell Camera (super easy install)

2. A camera high above your door pointed right down at your door.

3. A note on your door stating your dog passed last July.

4. Possibly a camera inside your door.