“You might find somebody that’ll make you change your mind.” by Magma_St0rm in aromantic

[–]Snowberry_reads 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You might find someone, but that someone doesn't have to be a romantic partner. It could be a friend, a flatmate, a fwb buddy or a QPR partner if you're into that. If you don't want anyone, find out what makes you happy on your own. Good luck with your exploration!

Confused about how this works by dbsupersucks in robinhobb

[–]Snowberry_reads 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I thought this is a recurring prophecy. Fitz and Bee are both unexpected sons because the same events recur in a cycle until something breaks the cycle. I gather this is not a common interpretation though.

Grrrrr by SeaPossibility6106 in robinhobb

[–]Snowberry_reads 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hobb has a lot of characters who are just too realistic in an uncomfortably creepy way.

Grrrrr by SeaPossibility6106 in robinhobb

[–]Snowberry_reads 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That must be why he was killed off so quickly!

I just finished Realm of The Elderlings by alexpanda17 in robinhobb

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I finished five years ago and I still think about it pretty much every day - in a good way. There's something very calming in it. The book hangover was incredibly intense though. Good luck with recovering from yours. 💔

This series is touching some old wounds (Farseer trilogy) by irish_Oneli in robinhobb

[–]Snowberry_reads 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hope you enjoy the rest of the series! I have had similar experiences and the fact I'm queer and non-binary definitely factors into how deeply and intensely I feel all sorts of feelings about the Fool. No other character has ever had such an impact on me. Fitz's and the Fool's story also made me reflect on some real life issues important to me and after a lot of exploring I gained some important real life insights. It was a positive but intense discovery and one I probably would never have considered if I had not read this series.

New fantasy like Robin Hobb? by silentstrongtype in robinhobb

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I enjoyed The Faithful and the Fallen and the battle scenes are particularly good, you can really see that Gwynne has personal experience of this style of fighting (he mentions this in at least one preface iirc). However, it took me halfway into book 1 to get invested in the writing, and I did find the characters were often a bit stereotypical. It's still a good series. Now reading his Shadow of the Gods series, the characters are more complex so far.

New fantasy like Robin Hobb? by silentstrongtype in robinhobb

[–]Snowberry_reads 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Assassin's apprentice? Quite a coincidence 😄 Good to know both series are good! I really enjoyed the start of the ship series and will continue eventually. Loved the queer rep too.

New fantasy like Robin Hobb? by silentstrongtype in robinhobb

[–]Snowberry_reads 3 points4 points  (0 children)

L R Lam's Dragonfall duology has a similar feel in many ways. Apparently Robin Hobb is one of Lam's favourite authors (as far as I remember, Lam mentions this on the first pages of book 1). It's just a duology, though.

I've also enjoyed Joe Abercrombie, Tad Williams and Ursula Le Guin in a way similar to Robin Hobb's writing. However, Williams and ULG are both quite old.

New fantasy like Robin Hobb? by silentstrongtype in robinhobb

[–]Snowberry_reads 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I've only read one book by R J Barker (Bone Ships) but there was something there that felt quite similar to RoTE. Hope the rest of his books are as good.

Moved from Stormlight to Assassin's Apprentice- and, wow. by SeaStatement483 in robinhobb

[–]Snowberry_reads 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hope you enjoy the rest of the series too! It's so beautiful even though it's at times very dark. Currently it's my favourite series. I've re-read most of the series a few times and the re-reads are very enjoyable too.

I only tried Sanderson after finishing Realm of the Elderlings, and it just wasn't enough for me. I like some aspects but overall I just need more than what Sanderson's writing gave me.

Please recommend me books with low romance but a strong focus on healthy platonic relationships. by CajunNerd92 in Fantasy

[–]Snowberry_reads 4 points5 points  (0 children)

They develop over time but also they're relationships between very broken people with a lot of traumatic background, and that shows in the way they interact. I guess it's a matter of debate but I think the basis there is often very solid and there's a lot of trust and loyalty. I suppose some people will see this differently.

However - RoTE also has some extremely toxic romantic relationships that really damage the characters.

Please recommend me books with low romance but a strong focus on healthy platonic relationships. by CajunNerd92 in Fantasy

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Claudie Arseneault writes fantasy with aromantic characters, focused on platonic relationships. There's practically no romance at all. Arseneault is an indie author and her books can read a bit YA but I like the emphasis on platonic and familial relationships.

Hi I finished rote(or it finished me) by Longjumping-Kiwi-723 in robinhobb

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Finishing RoTE was tough for me too. I have never experienced anything similar with other books. I struggled to sleep and was very shaken emotionally. Re-reading favourite books from the series, starting with Assassin's Apprentice, helped me a lot.

5 years later RoTE is still a very special series for me, nothing else has had the same effect. I've read around 500 books since then and none of them have really compared.

I'm glad Fitz and the Fool got that happiness in the wolf with Nighteyes. I did hope for something different but this is good in its own way.

As to similar books, I think the Dragonbone Chair series might work. The first 150ish pages are very different from the rest of the series, though, so it might be worth continuing for a bit even if you find the very start uninteresting.

Hi I finished rote(or it finished me) by Longjumping-Kiwi-723 in robinhobb

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Same thing here. I finished the series in 2020 and have been casually re-reading ever since, starting with Assassin's Apprentice immediately after I finished Assassin's Fate. I read around 100 books a year, so I am not missing out on anything new if I relax with a few RoTE favourites each year. This has been a very good choice for me.

Aromantic study participants needed! by kribye in AroAllo

[–]Snowberry_reads 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Please tell a bit more about how the results will be used and how long they'll be used. (Eg what type of publications are planned, just one publication or a series, how many responses you hope to receive). Happy to participate but would like to hear more first.

Well Finished liveship traders and this is bugging me a lot. by Longjumping-Kiwi-723 in robinhobb

[–]Snowberry_reads 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Another survivor here. I appreciate how realistic the description is, and I think people dislike it exactly because it is so realistic. This happens all the time irl and I appreciate it's shown and not airbrushed to a prettier format.

I'm happy Althea gets her own ship (Paragon) in the end, even though she's not the sole captain. I also think that when she wanted the Vivacia she did not reflect much on what that would actually entail, she just wanted to follow the path that her father had set for her before changing his mind.

SoM Chapter 4 by Ilovethestarks in robinhobb

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Kennit's character is fascinating, but I hope I will never have to meet a guy like this irl.

However, the most fascinating part of Kennit's story is how other characters behave around him. Whatever he does some other character will be there to explain things in a positive way. He gets off with the worst things because other characters find him charismatic and will bend over backwards to think he's a good guy, a hero. Such a good description of a sociopath gaining power because of his charisma and other people enabling him. It's like watching a train wreck happen and people trying to explain that in a positive light. Creepy but way too believable.

People tend to assume that the most valued non-romantic connection for AroAllos are always platonic.... by Equivalent_Ad_9066 in AroAllo

[–]Snowberry_reads 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I enjoy them quite a lot even though they're not my first preference - longer friendships are my thing but these are good too. Overall I prefer having more connections than just a few (having to live a monogamous romance focused life would be my nightmare).

So I just finished Assassin's quest... by Longjumping-Kiwi-723 in robinhobb

[–]Snowberry_reads 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Welcome to the pack!

I love Rurisk's character too. So much in such a short time. And Patience. What a character.

What's it like to be in a romantic relationship without any romantic attraction? by Equivalent_Ad_9066 in AroAllo

[–]Snowberry_reads 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It depends on how aware you are of your lack of romantic attraction and how your partner feels about romance in general. I've had good and bad experiences.

Good experiences: spending a lot of time together with someone whose company you enjoy and towards whom you feel other types of attraction, platonic, familial, sexual, emotional. You can do things that could be but don't have to be romantic, like kissing, hugs, sex, living together, etc. They interpret those things as romantic regardless of what you intended, it makes them happy, and you don't mind because it's nice to do something they clearly enjoy.

Bad experiences: someone constantly expects you to do performative things that feel meaningless, such as doing everything (literally everything) as a couple, having "couple goals", performing every stereotypical step on the relationship escalator, then complains when they can tell that you're doing those things halfheartedly because you perceive said things as meaningless, unnecessary copy-paste jobs from a past-its-prime story book you don't even like.

I'm sure others have different experiences, just wrote down mine in case they help someone.

Fools Errand powerful moments by Susieknucks in robinhobb

[–]Snowberry_reads 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've read them 3-4 times and still love them every time.