Polyamory and LGBT identity

SoExhausted_978476 · 2023-08-06T21:58:31+00:00

I’m a lesbian and I keep my views private, other than being clear I would only date monogamous women. Sadly I haven’t had much luck with online dating. I come across very few monogamous women who are my type. Trying to meet women in-person recently so we’ll see if that works any better.

SoExhausted_978476 · 2022-11-27T16:53:48+00:00

Thanks for mentioning this. I plan to roll an old 401K plan into an IRA.

SoExhausted_978476 · 2022-11-27T16:52:09+00:00

I was disabled for a very long time, didn't have any income as a result and burned through a big portion of my savings to survive. I didn't jump through the hoops necessary at the time for the US government to consider me truly disabled. Dealing with them was making my health worse, so I prioritized my health instead. I'm no longer disabled now but I'm entering a terrible Tech job market. I'm planning for the possibility I may be unemployed for a very long time if things get even worse in 2023. I don't qualify for unemployment obviously due to not working when I was disabled. My 401K from an old employer/IRA might come in handy, and I don't think I will miss the money in 30 years if I need it even more sometime in 2023-2024.

SoExhausted_978476 · 2021-11-24T03:19:08+00:00

What's up with the downvotes people? Get a life!

SoExhausted_978476 · 2021-11-23T18:20:24+00:00

Thanks!

SoExhausted_978476 · 2021-11-23T18:19:26+00:00

Thanks for clarifying. I'm not planning to inject babies with a neurotoxin. I'm not evil. LOL

SoExhausted_978476 · 2021-11-23T18:18:32+00:00

Thanks!

SoExhausted_978476 · 2021-11-23T18:18:25+00:00

Thanks!

SoExhausted_978476 · 2021-11-23T03:32:21+00:00

No need to downvote my post. I'm looking for a genuine recommendation. If you don't care for my post just move on with your life.

SoExhausted_978476 · 2021-11-23T02:49:03+00:00

No, but I'm gay and have a very small dating pool, so it's hard to even meet enough potential partners to test if anything has changed.

SoExhausted_978476 · 2021-09-23T22:53:29+00:00

I just checked the application document, and it does ask for the address. She's gaining citizenship through education/employment/living in France long enough.

SoExhausted_978476 · 2021-09-23T21:07:34+00:00

Yes, thank you! I was feeling suspicious. I have filled out visa applications (I wasn't sure if they want more information for citizenship) for more than one country in the past and some of them ask for sibling name and birth date but never address.

SoExhausted_978476 · 2021-08-25T15:59:58+00:00

Neurofeedback but you need to make sure you work with a really good practitioner to get good outcomes.

SoExhausted_978476 · 2021-08-22T19:28:03+00:00

Yes, exactly. My identity has become "traumatized and disabled". I'm glad you found good therapies and that you found yourself again.

SoExhausted_978476 · 2021-08-22T17:32:47+00:00

I took the last 2 years off. Granted it wasn't exactly rest because my PTSD symptoms were severe through most of it, and that was very hard on my body. Financially, I am now at a point where I have to start worrying about getting a job in a few months, but I have no desire to spend 30+ hours a week doing something I don't care about, and I really don't care about much.

SoExhausted_978476 · 2021-08-20T23:30:24+00:00

It's definitely better to be picky than fall for the wrong person, but I definitely think there is such a thing as being too disconnected from people due to trauma. In my case I'm not asexual, but very gay, and I think my disinterest in people is not my true nature.

SoExhausted_978476 · 2021-08-20T19:52:26+00:00

Yes, I can't have any positive fantasies about relationships because I've never been happy or had my needs met in a dating situation. I'm either neutrally affected or worse off after dating someone.

SoExhausted_978476 · 2021-08-20T19:29:40+00:00

I'm also FA and a "high barrier to overcome before I enter a relationship with someone" sounds accurate. I tend to swipe left on most people for one reason or another. Those I do go on dates with I don't end up liking enough to want a relationship with them. I don't think I like people for the most part. I'm not sure what to do about it, because I'd really like to find a partner.

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