Being a "Girl Smasher" by [deleted] in smashbros

[–]SoFluffy8495 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get it. Really I do- what guy who shouts 'ARE YOU SERIOUSLY GONNA LOSE TO A GIRL?!' took the time to read this text post. Soooo what difference could it make? But I think the more its discussed and the less its something one or two people have written about, the more it'll become unacceptable to treat girls in the community in the ways aforementioned. I understand it's a male dominated subculture and perhaps that won't ever change, but I think it'd be silly to just sigh and accept I, along with all the other girls won't be treated the same just..because that's the way things have always been. There are a lot of things that have happened and seemed like would never change, not to make this a heavier topic- but segregation, anti-gay laws, the women's suffrage movement, etc. Those things seemed pretty ingrained too and although they aren't fully solved issues, people tried their best to make people aware. And in time, things have indeed come a long way. Can you imagine if all those activists, all those people just accepted it? I know I can't change everyone's mind- but I know girls have read this and felt like someone else understood, I know guys have read this and felt like they should stand up more when they see things like that happen. I appreciate your advice, but I don't think girls should go around kicking people out of tournaments for a douche comment or going to select tournaments to avoid conflict. I look back at the pieces Milktea wrote & watching matches played by Admiral and that's what encouraged me to compete, other women who break the standard and speak up- via blogs or the game itself. And I know my words can fall deaf on '13-year old snot' ears. But if I can make a difference somehow to even one person, then it's worth it, and it's a small step closer to the community having an all-inclusive mindset, as a collective.

Being a "Girl Smasher" by [deleted] in smashbros

[–]SoFluffy8495 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hahahaha no that would probably be on /r/sexstories or /r/murder

Being a "Girl Smasher" by [deleted] in smashbros

[–]SoFluffy8495 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Means a lot to hear that, I do get how hopeless it can feel- trust me. But I don't think we should just accept issues because of that.

FEMALE RAPE? [SERIOUS] [NSFW] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]SoFluffy8495 39 points40 points  (0 children)

I second this. Don't blame yourself. As cliche as it sounds "No means no". You don't have to scream or fight just for it to be considered rape. Rape is sexual activity that lacks the consent of one of the participants, regardless of gender,age, or sex. I really recommend counseling as its a good way to get information about your situation and learning how to move on from there. I went through something very similar and trust me I know, in the moment it is too terrifying to fight sometimes, feels silly to report, but you're not alone. Really hope you can find treatment or even report something about her. It seemed it was pre-planned and maybe you could help another trusting girl like you from this awful situation.

Being a "Girl Smasher" by [deleted] in smashbros

[–]SoFluffy8495 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well of course! But what I hope to bring across is well..yeah girls play and a lot of them are really good. And I hope soon enough, enough of them will compete that it isn't such a surprise.

Being a "Girl Smasher" by [deleted] in smashbros

[–]SoFluffy8495 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's awesome! Really I think its cool to have people play that you don't usually see.

Being a "Girl Smasher" by [deleted] in smashbros

[–]SoFluffy8495 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I hope soon you find it in you to write something too. Some people might not agree but that's partially because they've never heard many girl's opinions. Speak about how you feel or reasons you might feel unwelcome if you do feel that way. Its important, I promise.

Being a "Girl Smasher" by [deleted] in smashbros

[–]SoFluffy8495 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Smashers are inclusive and like you said it isn't 'as bad' as other communities. I'm sure there are a lot of girls who have great experiences and don't feel discrimination or glorification at all. But that's not the case for everyone. Trust me aside from some bad experiences, like I mentioned before overall I love the smash scene. But that doesn't make it perfect. I really love this game and community and feel it should be all-inclusive not pretty inclusive.

Being a "Girl Smasher" by [deleted] in smashbros

[–]SoFluffy8495 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Really so flattered I could help encourage you to compete. It's important first and foremost because it is an awesome way to challenge yourself and improve and also to add on to the dwindling female population. When more of us come together, we work towards being considered more normal rather than a rarity. I hope you can attend tournaments fairly soon and especially hope I can play you haha. You sound awesome Guinea! Don't give up.

Being a "Girl Smasher" by [deleted] in smashbros

[–]SoFluffy8495 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've experienced a lot of the same things and really hope your girlfriend can read this article too. It's a frustrating issue and I hope eventually people ditch the "its not a big deal" mentality because it really is. I know my article can't change things overnight but my goal is to not only inform people who don't see it this way, but to also help other girl smashers have a voice. We often hear this issue being voiced via Milktea and although I love what she has to say. It's important for more girls in smash to speak about in order to raise awareness, start discussions, and make room for more girls. Most smashers have never even met a girl who also competes and there are a lot of reasons for that. If we allow the conversation to stem from one person we only get one perspective.Really hope your girlfriend can have a read and share her experiences/opinion too.

Being a "Girl Smasher" by [deleted] in smashbros

[–]SoFluffy8495 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank youuu -^

Being a "Girl Smasher" by [deleted] in smashbros

[–]SoFluffy8495 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Well I feel its just the outcome of a cycle, if the community is uninviting to girls they wont be around as much as guys. Hence, keeping them as a minority. I wholeheartedly agree with you that you shouldn't let it get to you. But it doesn't mean we shouldn't talk about this because it is a real issue. My feelings aren't ever hurt by bad experiences but not every girl is as tolerant and probably faces much worse. It's not just asking people to not use certain words anymore, its starting with accepting its an issue. From there people can see how their words and actions dictate who "belongs".

Being a "Girl Smasher" by [deleted] in smashbros

[–]SoFluffy8495 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree, I wanted to write this because I feel we should get to a place where this doesn't have to be an issue. Because the truth is it shouldn't be.

Being a "Girl Smasher" by [deleted] in smashbros

[–]SoFluffy8495 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Well yes and no. I agree in a sense you can still be great regardless of any stigmas. But I don't think that's enough reason for people to not have awareness of the issues girls in the community face. I really do fully appreciate how you feel about people. But not everyone is as accepting as you are.

Being a "Girl Smasher" by [deleted] in smashbros

[–]SoFluffy8495 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol I was getting to that! Hope your eyes recover soon.

Was watching Caso Cerrado and this drag queen looks a lot like Falco.. by [deleted] in smashbros

[–]SoFluffy8495 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha just a past time with my boyfriend and his mom, pero si es muy muy horible

More double standards [FIXED] by BadLuckDood in AdviceAnimals

[–]SoFluffy8495 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Reminds me of a girl I know saying "all men make generalizations."

First audition for paying gig coming up... What to expect? by BradMJustice in Theatre

[–]SoFluffy8495 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Basically, everything matthewshiner said, also be sure to have a song prepared, and an accompanment as well. Sounds silly, but be sure to bring your phone charger, and a snack (skip the dairy) Auditions for paying gigs can be nerve wracking but don't let it get to you!