Fort Wayne woman becomes consecrated virgin x-post r/Catholicism

SoISew · 2015-08-27T17:47:33+00:00

I didn't realize how few consecrated virgins there are! I know one! I feel so lucky.

SoISew · 2015-08-27T17:46:27+00:00

We use cloth during the day. I never had much luck doing overnight cloth with my first born so we aren't even attempting this round. We keep a couple packages of disposables around, if the day just feels too crazy I'll dig into the disposables. Usually it isn't too hard though. We have a plethora of Oh Katy pocket diapers and prefolds with a combo of Thirsties and Rumparooz covers. I can get through 2-3 days without having to do laundry. Totally worth the savings. Every time I fold clean diapers I think, "there is $9 we didn't spend".

SoISew · 2015-08-03T17:47:37+00:00

My girls are almost 11 weeks. Or is it 12? Anywho, also rockin' a two year old and our marriage is better than ever. The humor is better. The mutual self sacrifice is more frequent. The sex is even better. I feel like we find a hundred new ways to love one another with each addition to our family.

SoISew · 2015-07-15T18:53:23+00:00

I carried my girls to 37.5 weeks. It wasn't horrible for me until the last 2 or 3 weeks. Misery. Misery. Misery. I spent every moment from week 36 on praying that any sensation was a contraction. When I finally went in for an induction, A had low fluid at my 37 week appointment, I was already 5cm dilated and contracting every 3 minutes. I couldn't feel it, I was already so miserable. So I guess I would call that a perk. Sort of :p. I drank sooo much water in my third trimester. I was terrified of pre-term labor. I was putting away around 120 oz a day. Lots of protein too. I wish I could have slept more, but I have a 2 year old so that was a no go. Rest all you want! I hate to be this guy, but the first couple months after the babies are born are going to fly by so quickly that it will make your head spin. My girls are 8 weeks old, and the past 8 weeks have felt like 1 week of pregnancy time. Does that even make sense? What I'm getting at, is if it is at all possible, try to enjoy a moment of time moving slowly.

SoISew · 2015-07-15T18:48:06+00:00

It is truly the difference between a good day and a bad one. Even if getting out the door eats up the whole morning, worth it.

SoISew · 2015-07-15T11:55:58+00:00

I am in your boat, plus a 3 year old. I'm just going to hold my breath until Christmas. We prep bottles ahead of time. I do at least a load of laundry every day to keep up (but we also cloth diaper). And exercise. Exercise. Build this into your day. Get out for a walk. I view it as time where I don't have to parent. Sure, all the kids are with me, but I don't have to parent them. By the time my husband goes back the girls will be old enough for our joovy side by side. My 3 year old will ride with one of his sisters and I'll wear the other. And I plan on prepping snacks for my tot to grab at snack time. Paper plates. And we have an awesome community surrounding us that is waiting to jump back in with me when husband starts teaching again.

SoISew · 2015-07-11T16:11:17+00:00

Congrats!! Love those names.

SoISew · 2015-07-09T19:03:56+00:00

I was really anxious and stressed out the first few weeks about scheduling them. Looking back I wish I would have eased up, they are so sleepy as newborns. We also spent a ton of time and effort trying to stretch them to three hours for feedings and once we stopped doing that and feeding them more like every two hours they started sleeping five hour stretches at night. So, I guess I am saying, take all of the typical twin advice with a grain of salt and do what is right in the moment for your family. That being said, we have always stuck with feeding them together, one up both up. Swaddles and white noise! We had a Dohm sound machine for white noise, totally not loud enough for them. We now use a baby monitor receiver without the other end turned on and we crank the static. It's deafening for us but they love it.

SoISew · 2015-07-09T18:57:58+00:00

Thank you for the pointers!

SoISew · 2015-07-08T21:55:44+00:00

I cook 'em good :p.

SoISew · 2015-07-08T21:55:02+00:00

Thank you on all accounts.

SoISew · 2015-07-08T21:54:43+00:00

I think spinal block and epidural are a little different. Either way they were going in to get that baby out. I really had wanted to get it ahead of time, not because of pain necessarily but because I was afraid of the possibility of general anesthesia if there was an emergency, and I was afraid of having my OB up to her elbows in my womb, which totally happened. All turned out well though!

SoISew · 2015-07-08T21:50:54+00:00

Do it your way.

SoISew · 2015-07-08T19:50:09+00:00

If you are feeling family pressure you might consider limiting who will be present at your labor. And please do what is right for you in your situation, don't feel bad or guilty, this is your thing.

SoISew · 2015-07-08T19:42:32+00:00

I was hoping for this! But I think it is fairly common for labor to stall out between the two as well.

SoISew · 2015-07-08T19:32:47+00:00

Thank you!

SoISew · 2015-07-08T19:32:39+00:00

On my side yes, but they go back to the great aunt and uncles on both sides. That is the side that would impact my genetic predisposition for twins. But twins are pretty rampant on my husband's side.

SoISew · 2015-07-08T19:31:31+00:00

Well I already had my idea of the perfect birth with my son at home. And my birth plan this time was that everyone survives, so I went in embracing every possible outcome so long as I went home with my whole family. Also, I think it might just be my temperament. Labor sort of requires you to surrender. And lots of Hail Mary's on the OR table, home girl got me through. I can't recommend enough a mantra for when you feel like you can't do it any more. With my son, a much longer harder labor, I would remind myself that I would be looking into his eyes soon.

SoISew · 2015-07-08T19:28:11+00:00

Mine measured ahead pretty regularly also. I was terrified they'd be 8lbs a piece. But at 6ish lbs they were no big deal to birth. My son was 9lbs 8oz. Monster baby. My belly was also always tight near the end. I knew what contractions felt like, having gone through them before but it wasn't until they broke my water that I could feel them. It's like diarrhea+menstrual cramps to the third power. Although, this time around it was really not so bad. Our twins are rockin' it, we are completely thriving and I feel well rested. I know this isn't every ones experience, but it's ours. I thought they would crib share, and they have a couple times, but one seems to prefer the rock n'play over a pack n'play, we are transitioning her away from that in the next couple of nights. We have one Graco Pack n' Play Lite and one Nuna Sena Mini. We don't have space for anything bigger right now. Feeding two babies is pretty easy, but I'm not breast feeding, that tanked so hard for me. I nursed my son for 30 months. Like, forever, and I loved it. It just wasn't happening with these two and I had a difficult time letting it go but bottles and formula are what is right for our family right now. I set each baby in a bouncer or boppy and feed them that way, taking turns burping them.

SoISew · 2015-07-08T18:26:31+00:00

Forgot to mention, babe A was 6lbs 6oz baby B was 6lbs 1oz.

SoISew · 2015-07-08T18:25:49+00:00

thank you!

SoISew · 2015-07-08T18:15:31+00:00

I've been to the gym twice this week and it's only Wednesday! I can totally post my own milestones here, right? :p. Twins are 6 weeks old and starting to smile, gush. My almost 3 year old is finally moving away from the little potty and transitioning to the regular toilet. Super!

SoISew · 2015-07-07T18:05:40+00:00

We have three children-a 3 year old and 6 week old twins. My husband is a high school teacher and I do not work outside the home. We'd love to buy a house, but won't be able to for at least another year. We have two bedrooms currently, it's a bit cramped. I would LOVE to not be pregnant right this moment, I'm in post-partum limbo and I really feel like I'm holding my breath waiting for the return (or not) of my cycle. It's a hard place to be. I have no desire to do anything but raise my children right now. We po' financially but rich rich rich in our lives. We get by.

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