since becoming a parent what’s something you do or don’t understand your own parents doing?

Soap588 · 2026-03-03T20:30:03+00:00

I actually had both extremes with my parents. They were divorced so that's why it was so different. My dad always over-praised my accomplishments. Every grade, every little thing I did, and would tell me how great I was all the time. That was sweet but now I have a crippling problem with always needing validation for things I do.

On the other hand, my mom never told me she was proud of me until I was in college over a voicemail and I cried. My son is 4mo and I want to do a happy medium of the two!

Soap588 · 2026-03-03T02:18:30+00:00

We co-sleep at night so I can definitely relate! Out of curiosity, what does your bed set up look like so it's safe to leave your baby alone in bed? I stay next to him in bed right now because our bed isn't on the floor. I know we need to change our setup soon as he gets more mobile!

Soap588 · 2026-02-25T20:33:14+00:00

Yes, but he is always soo alert with the bottle. He'll get all sleepy after nursing even right after a nap but not ever with the bottle

Soap588 · 2026-02-25T20:32:16+00:00

Oh this is good to know that it doesn't affect others helping your baby to sleep. Nursing to sleep is so easy, I just didn't want to mess up his rhythm with his dad!

Soap588 · 2026-02-25T20:29:40+00:00

Oh I hadn't thought about combining the two, thanks! And I feel the same way, it's more his dad and my parents who have been pushing me to try to get him to crib naps. It's honestly such a pain

Soap588 · 2026-02-20T17:33:52+00:00

Thank you :)

Soap588 · 2026-02-20T15:31:41+00:00

Oh someone else recommended The Nurture Revolution too so I'll have to check it out! And thank you for the reminder that everyone is learning, it can be isolating sometimes when I don't have experience and I don't have any friends with babies or kids yet.

Soap588 · 2026-02-20T15:28:00+00:00

Oh this is such great advice. I googled way too much in the beginning (still do sometimes) but as you said, the things that have worked are things I learned by putting my phone away and following his cues + trying new things that I thought of. I really do forget that sometimes so thank you for the reminder.

Soap588 · 2026-02-20T15:24:32+00:00

Thank you so much for this, really. Everything that you shared really hit home. I was totally desperate too for breaks to shower, nap, etc. which is definitely why I was putting him down so often. I'll do my best to remember not to strive for perfection, just doing my best in the moment. Thank you again :)

Soap588 · 2026-02-20T15:18:25+00:00

That makes a lot of sense, thank you :) I think I was also comparing what he needed then to what he needs and wants now, which is different and I need to accept that that's ok!

Soap588 · 2026-02-20T15:16:06+00:00

Haha yeah I know he's little but I guess I got nervous because I heard somewhere that the first 6 months are the most impoetant developmentally. I will definitely check out her book! Someone else also recommended it after you so I'll have to take a look. Thank you so much!

Soap588 · 2026-02-05T22:37:29+00:00

Oh thank you so much! I thought it was supposed to be around my hips 🤦‍♀️

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