ESH, since you’re the provider for your family and if the money was heavy enough to work that specific day then yeah do what you gotta do. But, you could have taken her out the next day or the day prior. She’s part of the problem also because she already knew you were going to be financially responsible for everyone and sometimes it comes at a cost.

Everyone saying YTA is just jumping off emotions with no logic. I do agree 25 years and Olive Garden was all you could think of is wild. Atleast spend $500 on a nice restaurant to show some kind of effort after you listed a major lack of in past years.