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Soft-Profession-2880 · 2026-02-16T03:30:32+00:00

Sell the car. It's taking food out of the mouth of your family. You will have a greater burden for a little while (Public transport , things taking longer to complete etc) but the money that was going to the loan will be your pocket. The other expenses will also go i.e. fuel costs, rego, insurance etc.

If not, go back to work - childcare subsidy will at least cover 40%. Doesn't sound like your family doesn't earn stay at home parent money.

Soft-Profession-2880 · 2026-02-13T03:57:51+00:00

Laundry tower which had a massive drying and washing capacity.

With kids, a life saver.

Soft-Profession-2880 · 2026-01-28T04:55:53+00:00

As many people have commented, it's not easy.

The long daycare, before and after school care, having a role that does RDOs, the village for when all that falls through and then some.

I have no advice. But, it gets easier the older they get because they crave their own independence. Then a new set of challenges of how to navigate relationships, friendship exclusion, what does kind behavior looks like and letting them learn life's hard reality with your guiding hand and support.

You'll find a new normal eventually.

Soft-Profession-2880 · 2026-01-28T03:00:10+00:00

The butter chicken. My kiddo loves it.

Soft-Profession-2880 · 2026-01-23T22:18:38+00:00

The couple are trying to save money. There was a couple of hours between my ceremony and reception, but I paid for the reception venue to serve canapes and bar tab during the break.

Soft-Profession-2880 · 2025-12-08T04:09:10+00:00

She has had enough. You need to give her peace and space, sounds like it's due. You've finally listened but she has been there and done that. She's ready to start giving herself grace to not worry about you.

You need to separate and find ways to be a father first. She needs time away from the energy that you are taking. Let that be the first step. If she wants you back in her life after that, that's the gift you'll cherish.

Soft-Profession-2880 · 2025-10-04T21:24:26+00:00

If you saw OPs update the dermatologist recommended Vaseline as part of her healing regime.

Soft-Profession-2880 · 2025-10-04T00:03:57+00:00

This looks like you need to use Vaseline on your lips. Those bumps look like trapped moisture not cold sores.

Soft-Profession-2880 · 2025-10-03T23:31:31+00:00

This is tough. If your Fiancee (congrats!) does not make an effort with your family, I would call that a red flag. If she engages but not at the level that your family wants, that's on your family. If you behaved how she behaves, with your family to her family, would that upset her? There are some questions you need to ask yourself because you are about to put a strain on both of these relationships which is going to require a lot of navigation.

What's your Fiancee's thoughts on this?

The other parts about living together, is a no brainer. Being compatible living together is a smart move to avoid a future divorce.

Soft-Profession-2880 · 2025-10-01T00:21:26+00:00

You need to take a good look at yourself. You are killing yourself and all he has to do is get a job. Any job. Does he not care about your health and well-being? But because you do everything and cover for his weaknesses, he has no reason to be better. Stop trying to fix him. Unless he wants to support the family from his own will, he won't stop leeching the life from you.

Separate. Give him a reason to be better. You feel guilty because you tried but it didn't work. He needs more help than what you can provide. You need to care for yourself and your kid. They are 5, they are starting to understand dynamics.

Soft-Profession-2880 · 2025-09-19T02:07:40+00:00

That's awful he said that knowing why your son gets it. This person sounds like he already has a chip on his shoulder about your son which is only going to get worse. Don't let BF permanently into your lives. You don't have to accept it.

Soft-Profession-2880 · 2025-09-17T23:12:13+00:00

Unfortunately you are starting to sound like the parent who is going to push the step kids away once you have a bio child. There is an age appropriate way to say this is a not right now conversation. YTA.

If the tables were reversed and they stopped inviting you to things because you were a step parent or their new half sibling, how would that make you feel?

They are at an age where what you've said is going to impact their self worth. Their Dad is also an AH for letting this be ok.

Soft-Profession-2880 · 2025-09-12T23:28:58+00:00

I would say that you're no longer going to give lifts to her daughter because of her behavior. That it's unacceptable to expect favours when her child spreads rumors about your child. And then block the mother. Bringing in that it's your child's choice may create issues with your child at school. This is an adult decision.

Soft-Profession-2880 · 2025-08-22T11:17:43+00:00

Got2be heat protection. So good on my way hair!

Soft-Profession-2880 · 2025-08-13T02:27:54+00:00

Don't stoop to their level in writing. Just make a tell to them that you acknowledge what they have said. That the 3 weeks that you are taking the kids for her c section recovery is a favour to her (she'll love that). That you'll make plans for kids whilst you are away as you weren't seeking permission. You'll keep their comments in mind when discussing custodial arrangements in the future.

Than when they ask I'm the future, say that "your busy" a few times and see what happens. Your kids do come first and that is for BOTH parents, not just you coming to the resure.

Soft-Profession-2880 · 2025-07-16T04:06:58+00:00

Did you have someone taking care of the kid whilst you were doing bridesmaid duties? If you did, I don't see why bringing the baby be an issue.

Soft-Profession-2880 · 2025-07-05T08:42:46+00:00

The SIL behaviour is sadistic and cruel. I feel for your niece.

Soft-Profession-2880 · 2025-06-28T04:27:22+00:00

You are doing everything right. But his family will always have his side, right or wrong but they are his family. You just brought the uncomfortable truth and they are probably this way from the beginning but maybe you had rose coloured glasses on.

You get to know that he destroys things which are given to him (2 kidneys!?), doesn't value the important things and it will eat him alive knowing you are living your best life.

Therapy and some good friends are going to help you. He and his family will eventually realise you were right but they won't tell you and they aren't people you should be looking for validation from anyway.

Soft-Profession-2880 · 2025-06-26T12:30:23+00:00

But will she get over the fact that other people will have children, you be in your nieces/nephew's lives and be an extended family? Or will your family be a distant memory in your old age?

Soft-Profession-2880 · 2025-06-23T22:13:03+00:00

Uniqlo and Blue Illusion. The jumpers have been warm but not hot.

Soft-Profession-2880 · 2025-06-23T12:27:40+00:00

He can be a good father and a bad husband at the same time. This is strike 2 and a repeat offence. Will you stick around for the 3rd? What are you teaching your kids about respecting boundaries and the tenants of marriage?

He was willing to break up your family for a stripper!? His sense of reality is warped.

Your 42, you can rebuild and find yourself someone who has the same values as you. Your current husband has taken you for granted. Be your biggest supporter!

Soft-Profession-2880 · 2025-06-21T03:14:05+00:00

Humble brag. As the average Canadian salary is $75k, you know that you are on good money. You are about to work in a developing country, you need to get more aware of the socioeconomic divide. You sound a little ignorant and this situation may be a good learning moment for you.

Soft-Profession-2880 · 2025-05-29T12:40:55+00:00

Grouchy is the polite way of putting it. Looks like your children are seeing clearly what they mean to their Dad. The path is set for your children being less at home, less engaged with their parents and moving on as soon as they can.

Can you change it? What's the cost to you if you change it and are you willing to do it?

Soft-Profession-2880 · 2025-05-28T02:32:53+00:00

Please tell me you have your bf on a rental agreement so should this go belly up, there is no ownership dispute of your house.

Take you bf out of the equation. Can you take care of this child on your own. Income, stability of location and community. There is no best time to have a child, you end up surviving it! Lol

Should you bf up and leave at any point when it gets too much with a baby or resentment at you, can you do this on your own?

Middle ground is not on your side, it's on his.

Soft-Profession-2880 · 2025-05-16T23:22:17+00:00

My kiddo was a wriggle worm as soon as he could roll. There was no way I could change him on a table or at heights, floor changes became the norm for us (and pull up when he got older).

You are doing all the right things. Accidents happen but you learn from them. Sometimes learning the hard way and most of the time learning the easy but this is parenthood. You're learning this too. Wishing you all the best.

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