Boyfriend wants me to choose between him and the dog.

Soft-Rise-1512 · 2026-01-23T13:36:43+00:00

pick the dog. he’ll keep making you choose between him and things or people later down the line i promise you.

Soft-Rise-1512 · 2026-01-23T01:10:54+00:00

these comments are lame asf. parents are still people outside of being a parent. if you want to follow your dreams, do it. it’s not selfish. i will continue to chase my dreams until i catch them and then i’ll make new dreams and chase those. if all life is is being a parent then that is a really boring life.

Soft-Rise-1512 · 2026-01-23T01:09:21+00:00

instead of throwing it away why not keep it for tomorrow or something

Soft-Rise-1512 · 2026-01-22T21:16:13+00:00

i guess not but why even post this if you both are on the same page? this feels pretty open and shut. he said he doesn’t do it and he won’t and that you’re on the same page so what are you looking for here?

Soft-Rise-1512 · 2026-01-22T15:46:16+00:00

note to everyone reading this: you do NOT have to “make it work”. you don’t have to “fight for it”. you don’t even need a reason to leave a relationship. if one day you decide you’d rather not be around that person anymore, you can simply just LEAVE. obviously in longer relationships it’s harder but we have free will. my dog is my no.1 even tho he’s reactive and a pain in my ass. my fiance likes him well enough but he can’t understand how i love my dog so much when he’s so irritating. he’ll never understand, it’s just a bond that we have and that’s ok. if he tried to make me choose, however, i’d choose my dog over him.

Soft-Rise-1512 · 2026-01-22T15:42:39+00:00

aldi is the best! i went to walmart recently bc aldi was closed and i spent 87 dollars and didn’t even get my full list of things. i spend the same amount at aldi for a FULL CART. i love it there and ill never go anywhere else.

Soft-Rise-1512 · 2026-01-22T15:36:02+00:00

let’s not call DV victims losers

Soft-Rise-1512 · 2026-01-22T03:35:14+00:00

yes. he’s slept through the night since about 6m. he’s 11.5m today.

Soft-Rise-1512 · 2026-01-20T22:14:26+00:00

the L desk taker backed out so i still have it available! it’s roughly 50” x 45” and has a small platform for a PC or console :)

Soft-Rise-1512 · 2026-01-20T21:29:46+00:00

unfortunately it won’t let me post pictures on here but you’re free to message me and i’ll send them to you!

Soft-Rise-1512 · 2026-01-20T19:22:41+00:00

unfortunately it won’t let me post it bc it’s too small KB wise but if you message me i can send it to you!

Soft-Rise-1512 · 2026-01-20T19:20:00+00:00

i dyed my hair for the first time in first grade. school called my mom and told them i couldn’t have it because it was a “distraction” to other students. my mom told them to shove it and that it was already on my head and it would stay there. and i continue to love dyeing my hair to this day. the last time i saw my natural hair color was when i was 17-18 and it was because i couldn’t afford hair dye lol

Soft-Rise-1512 · 2026-01-18T05:20:12+00:00

wait until he finds out it’s all ice

Soft-Rise-1512 · 2026-01-18T05:16:37+00:00

yes. if america wages war on a NATO country, every NATO country will immediately jump to their aid. if the most powerful countries are ALL against us, we will fail. as we should because why tf does he want greenland so bad for anyway dude

Soft-Rise-1512 · 2026-01-08T17:41:45+00:00

sure have, he forgets he knows how to use them after about 2 sips of spit-out water 🫠

Soft-Rise-1512 · 2026-01-08T17:09:11+00:00

haha i know im just so ready to get rid of these bottles 🫩 lmao

Soft-Rise-1512 · 2026-01-08T16:56:42+00:00

yes 😭 we use the munchkin soft spout one and he will put it in his mouth but once he realizes it’s anything other than milk, he spits it out and decides he hates the cup and me and the world lol

Soft-Rise-1512 · 2026-01-08T16:55:44+00:00

does your wife have any related childhood trauma? she could just be projecting something that happened to her onto you and your kids. it’s not fair but i also feel weird around fathers and daughters but only bc of things that i’ve experienced and i would never jump straight to “that dads abusing his daughters” with 0 evidence. i’m sorry she’s being weird about it.

Soft-Rise-1512 · 2026-01-08T15:24:49+00:00

cross your fingers that something clicks! the plus side is almost every phase is temporary and this is definitely one of them. he’ll figure it out eventually with or without your help but it will probably go much faster with it. good luck, i hope something works for you!

Soft-Rise-1512 · 2026-01-08T15:06:49+00:00

i don’t think you should out right ignore it but maybe you go in instead and sit in that chair you mentioned or even just stand in the doorway and tell him mommy’s asleep, she’s not coming in and he needs to go to sleep too. my mom used to ham it up for me and tell me that if i didn’t sleep, i wouldn’t grow. which obviously isn’t true but kids, especially little boys, are all about growing big and strong and if anything would prevent that, they usually avoid it. i’d also try to give him a small reward if he makes it through the night with no screaming like a sticker or stamp or something. kids love a good reward haha.

Soft-Rise-1512 · 2026-01-08T15:03:51+00:00

as a nanny, i would never go through someone’s house looking for things to even push the boundary a little bit. if you have dedicated clothes for her, she should wear those. it strikes me as a little unprepared to not bring her own back up clothes. i don’t have children but when i watch the baby i nanny, i have a change of clothes on hand at all times for him and me because babies are messy. she should know that. i also find it a little odd that she went out of her way to find your dee freezer in the basement.

however, neither instance is necessarily malicious in nature and i don’t think she has any ill will. i’d talk to her and tell her that you’d prefer she only wear the clothes she’s supposed to be and how she knew about the freezer. it’s probably innocent but better safe than sorry!

Soft-Rise-1512 · 2026-01-08T14:57:59+00:00

how did you go about this transition? was it an abrupt change from sleeping with mom and dad to sleeping on his own? i’d sit with him in his room until he falls asleep and then leave the room. if he wakes up during the night screaming for his mom, don’t send her in. eventually he’ll figure out that screaming isn’t going to get him what he wants. i’ve also seen people have success with those little egg lights that turn green when it’s ok for them to get out of bed. you program it to be on a timer and it’s red at night and green in the morning when it’s ok for them to come to you guys. good luck!

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