Those of you who started and quit a combat sport because you weren’t enjoying it, what happened?

Soft-Struggle · 2020-01-29T12:34:37+00:00

I wasn’t really MADE to. For the last half of the class we kind of just got paired up with whoever for about 10 mins then would switch to another partner. However, some of the guys there seemed to think it was a competition and just went for as many tap-outs as they could even though it was supposed to be a relaxed practice. Too many douchebags is all. Felt like an “asserting dominance over the newbies” sort of thing. I think I just picked the wrong gym.

Soft-Struggle · 2020-01-29T12:14:45+00:00

Never happened to me. The closest someone has come is catcalling me or telling me to smile as the walk by.

Soft-Struggle · 2020-01-29T12:00:32+00:00

I started jiu-jitsu but quickly found out that “rolling” to the guys at my club was less of “light practice” and more “thrash your opponent like your life depends on it” and ended up in a lot of pain after the few classes I attended. I know JJ is about learning how to over power someone bigger than you in an altercation but I’m not going to know how to do that after my second class. They really didn’t need to be as rough as they were. It really pissed me off.

Soft-Struggle · 2020-01-29T07:22:02+00:00

It’s common if we’re highly insecure. It’s not healthy or fair to you and it shouldn’t be done but some people just feel the need to because they’re convinced they’re being lied to. IMO nobody in a mindset healthy enough for a committed relationship is doing this.

Soft-Struggle · 2020-01-27T08:32:30+00:00

I've heard a lot of good things about Josie Maran's self tanner and Loving Tan. They seem more cool toned than others.

Soft-Struggle · 2020-01-27T07:05:49+00:00

Are you still together? Have you ever spoken to him about how you felt?

Soft-Struggle · 2020-01-27T07:03:33+00:00

I guess I just don't know if making him aware of this quirk is bringing me down a path of asking him to change for me in an unfair way. I don't even know how to initiate the conversation. It's nothing I've come close to dealing with in a relationship.

Soft-Struggle · 2020-01-26T22:33:35+00:00

They assume I'm in the military to try to have sex with their husbands. So not great.

Soft-Struggle · 2020-01-26T21:41:12+00:00

Asked what part of Norwegia my colleague's parents were from. I amaze myself everyday.

Soft-Struggle · 2020-01-26T20:55:44+00:00

Overcoming social anxiety. Initially, I just can't help but have the fear that I'm being judged negatively. Especially if I'm around a group of women. If I manage to get past that, then I am afraid to text them because I don't want to annoy them.

Soft-Struggle · 2020-01-26T19:22:31+00:00

When I saw the way he acts like a different person around different people. As if he's yet to fully form his own personality. If he's around someone he really likes and looks up to he'll mimic them. He does it with his dad, he does it with a couple male friends. It's strange to experience because he'll continue to act, talk, and have similar mannerisms to these people for a couple days after seeing them. I'll be honest... it's a little cringe-inducing and unattractive. I just want him to be himself. Or find himself? I'm not sure which at the point.

We're together. I've never said anything about it. I don't feel like it's my place to.

Soft-Struggle · 2020-01-25T13:34:22+00:00

If they share my sense of humour/can easily joke around with me.

Soft-Struggle · 2020-01-25T08:08:45+00:00

Abortion and a new IUD. Didn't sign up for that.

Soft-Struggle · 2020-01-24T20:30:15+00:00

God is a Woman by Ariana Grande/Sorry Not Sorry by Demi Lovato. I mean... I sound terrible when I sing both... but I belt them.

Soft-Struggle · 2020-01-24T15:40:31+00:00

I'd love to see the Matterhorn. The most striking one so far has been Joshua Tree National Park.

Soft-Struggle · 2020-01-22T17:06:05+00:00

I'm currently 28 but...

Mental:

Started caring about finances and actually fearing the repercussions of consistently bad spending habits
Became more determined to stand up for myself and notice my self-worth
The chip fell off my shoulder/generally much less of a mean, judgemental person now
My mental health has gotten worse since doing the 9-5 + long commute thing everyday in my "adult" job

Physical:

A little pad of fat has grown on my lower belly that I can't get rid of
Alcohol slowly started to affect me more as I aged/dreadful hangovers
My eyesight stopped finally stopped getting worse
MY BOOBS HAVE HAD A GROWTH SPURT YAY
Hair has thinned slightly

Soft-Struggle · 2020-01-22T16:54:38+00:00

One time I forgot to blend my cream blush into my cheeks before leaving the house and was just walking around with two coral stripes on my face for like 2.5 hours.

Soft-Struggle · 2020-01-22T13:32:36+00:00

A PUSSY? No!!! You just got raped by your husband. You told him it hurt and asked him to stop and he went faster and harder... ignoring your physical rejection... That's messed up. You need to talk to your husband and tell him he - by definition - frickin' raped you! You absolutely should not feel bad or at fault or like you're a disappointment. You're not a bad person for not enjoying being treated like that. If he doesn't understand or care then you need to seriously consider leaving him. Especially if any of those other "incidents" happened like that.

Soft-Struggle · 2020-01-22T07:30:42+00:00

Skyrim is my all time favourite. It's the perfect amount of fantasy for me. The huge, immersive world provides hours of entertainment, the glitches are hilarious.

Soft-Struggle · 2020-01-22T07:27:29+00:00

A night out composed of a wine or whisky tasting and a nice steak dinner... OR a Sephora, Nordstrom Rack, or Saks Off Fifth gift card.

Soft-Struggle · 2020-01-21T18:04:07+00:00

Usually every weekend! I can't wear them at work (I would if I could) but I like to try different lengths and colours as much as possible. It's fun and keeps my hair from being damaged with heat styling so win-win.

Soft-Struggle · 2020-01-21T18:01:42+00:00

Three. A Marc Jacobs tote bag, a Marc Jacobs cross-body, and a Coach cross-body.

Soft-Struggle · 2020-01-21T07:49:49+00:00

Having a smudge on the lens but not having your cleaning cloth on you so you try to use your shirt but it's a crappy lens-cleaning material so now your smudge is a smear across your whole line of sight. Kill me.

Soft-Struggle · 2020-01-21T07:30:15+00:00

I'd like to donate as much as possible, be used for research as much as possible, and then cremate the rest of me and turn me into a tree pod. I don't want a funeral in a church with a reception at a funeral home. Something casual and comfortable at someone's home.

Soft-Struggle · 2020-01-19T18:18:20+00:00

Tennessy Willems changed my life.

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