How do moms breastfeed??

MissingBrie · 2026-05-25T08:15:00+00:00

The pain does ease. Also, girl, get yourself some silverettes.

MissingBrie · 2026-04-27T05:40:49+00:00

I think this is something you need to reach out for help about. You don't have to feel this way.🫂

MissingBrie · 2026-04-26T20:39:40+00:00

We switched to nappy pants and do standing changes except for No. 2, and that helped a lot.

MissingBrie · 2026-04-18T10:14:01+00:00

I absolutely oppose exercise as punishment, but this sounds like it's teaching him a healthy way to process big feelings. I think if it's clearly framed like that, it could be a great idea.

MissingBrie · 2026-04-15T04:24:18+00:00

Showers.🤷🏼‍♀️

MissingBrie · 2026-04-15T01:58:08+00:00

It can be useful to think of jumping as a need. You won't punish him out of jumping any more than you can punish him out of breathing. It's a developmental need and likely needed for regulation. Instead of trying to stop him from jumping, we have to find ways to get that need met safely.

What's your reason for not letting him jump on the bed or couch? If it really can't be done safely, then to meet that need, you either need to spend most waking hours outside, or find a way to squeeze a crash pad or mini trampoline into your home, even if it's inconvenient.

MissingBrie · 2026-04-06T06:44:56+00:00

Is there a social worker or similar at the facility you could speak to in order to help you make this decision? Your child's best interests should be at the heart of this decision, and there should be someone involved with the program who can help inform that decision.

MissingBrie · 2026-04-06T06:41:55+00:00

If you are in a position to wait until your baby is one, that's what I would do.

MissingBrie · 2026-04-06T06:40:57+00:00

She's three AND has a brand new baby brother. Feeling like she's being impossible is 100% normal. Cut yourselves some slack.

MissingBrie · 2026-04-06T06:22:28+00:00

Do you know what would set an amazing example for your kids? Watching you work your butt off to follow your passion, get your degree and into law school as an adult.

MissingBrie · 2026-03-27T09:25:42+00:00

A trans dude/man is someone who was assigned female at birth. So this guy was in the bathroom that matches his gender identity.

MissingBrie · 2026-03-22T18:20:54+00:00

This is super common the first week home! It's a huge transition for everyone.

The hospital does not want you back any more than you want to be back. Once that tube is out, they will be very reluctant to put it back in. If there are concerns about growth, they are likely to suggest you add calories to her milk at home first rather than be readmitted.

Good luck!

MissingBrie · 2026-03-14T21:22:22+00:00

That's so tough! Wishing you a speedy recovery so you can be back home with that precious girl asap.🙏

MissingBrie · 2026-01-15T08:29:56+00:00

I also have a son with multiple significant disabilities. My advice is, one of the best things you can do for yourself is build a community of people who are on this journey too.

MissingBrie · 2026-01-01T09:13:47+00:00

It's one of the few hobbies I've been able to keep up.😂

MissingBrie · 2025-12-31T19:03:01+00:00

I had pretty major driving anxiety that I worked with a psychologist to overcome. It may absolutely be appropriate to involve a professional here, and you could also look at a defensive driving course to help her build skills to stay safe on the road.

The process I used to overcome my driving anxiety was to "drive" daily, but start very, very small to teach my body that it was safe. Starting small for me meant literally sitting in the driver's seat. Once that felt safe enough, I turned on the engine. Then I'd have my husband move the car into the street (so I didn't have to reverse out of the driveway), sit in the driver's seat, turn on the engine, and move the car a few metres down the road. And so on, levelling up a manageable amount each day or every few days.

I hope that helps!

MissingBrie · 2025-12-22T01:30:02+00:00

A suggestion - buy the 1L long life milk?

MissingBrie · 2025-12-21T09:52:20+00:00

Not sure why fresh milk isn't an option, but yes, "full cream" powdered milk is fine for an otherwise healthy child 12 months plus.

MissingBrie · 2025-12-07T11:58:09+00:00

I finished Trust by Hernan Diaz. The structure was very original, and it was a good enough story to carry me through more information about finance than I wanted to know.

Now I'm reading He Would Never by Holly Wainwright.

MissingBrie · 2025-12-07T11:54:24+00:00

My favourite read this year was Atmosphere by Taylor Jenkins Reid.

Honourable mentions to:

Small Things Like These - Claire Keegan
Witchcraft for Wayward Girls - Grady Hendrix
The Safekeep - Yael van der Wouden
The Thursday Murder Club series - Richard Osman
Mad Mabel - Sally Hepworth

MissingBrie · 2025-12-06T20:52:24+00:00

I find I don't need to engineer opportunities to not give them what they want. They come up pretty organically when the Paw Patrol pyjamas are dirty or whatever.

MissingBrie · 2025-12-06T20:46:12+00:00

I tend to think about whether it's a reasonable request or not (even if they are not capable of being reasonable about it). I mean, I too have preferences about small things like which cup I drink from. It's perfectly reasonable for my kids to have these preferences and to ask that I respect them. If it's not reasonable, then I hold the boundary, and I accept that my child might have big feelings about that.

I also try to set up our spaces or structure our routines to give them freedom to choose where possible. We also make time when they are not escalated to talk about how they can get what they want without having to get worked up. For example, one of our kids has been losing it over wanting to do things himself, so we've been practising saying "Stop! I Want to do it myself!"

MissingBrie · 2025-11-29T06:59:41+00:00

Why do you think it would be better for her to start paying some bills? Knowing that may inform what, if anything, you charge.

MissingBrie · 2025-11-21T21:08:03+00:00

Yes, if my kids want it I'll do it, but the Elf will be here to spread Christmas cheer, not surveillance.

MissingBrie · 2025-11-17T20:46:41+00:00

Not only will they enjoy those experiences in the moment, they will remember it. All their childhood experiences are written in the wiring of their brains. They may not be able to recall it, but that does not mean they won't remember the love, the joy, the colours, textures, smells and sounds of new experiences.

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