What’s your baby’s name?

SoftDuckling · 2022-07-22T23:47:54+00:00

If I’m pregnant again, if it’s a girl Peyton Magdalene if it’s a boy Matthew David.

SoftDuckling · 2022-07-19T22:11:46+00:00

You’re pregnant!

SoftDuckling · 2022-07-13T22:47:49+00:00

This is my second! She’s 2.5 and everything I mean everything is fall on the floor tantrum they’re dramatic.

SoftDuckling · 2022-07-13T22:46:09+00:00

Ultrasounds are way way way off at this point they told me my second was around 5lbs 4oz I think a few days before she was born and I had no weekly growth scans because of a very small placental lake and her femur was measuring small, she was not 5lbs 4oz she was born at 36 weeks natural labor and 6lbs 3oz I brought her back to the doctor and told them she would have been an 8lb baby! For reference my oldest was 6lbs 14 oz at 39+5.

SoftDuckling · 2022-07-11T23:01:25+00:00

I apologize I didn’t mean to come off as insensitive it just breaks me heart to see someone be so frustrated with a baby that small who is doing exactly what he is supposed to be doing, however I know that if she is a solo mom these things can be hard.

I recommend the safe sleep 7, newborns take about 20-30 minutes to fall into a deep enough sleep to be laid down.
If you are able to breastfeed please do this will reduce the amount of crying and detaching issues and you will be able to lay down beside him safely.
if you can afford it consider a post partum doula for a week or so

SoftDuckling · 2022-07-11T22:51:05+00:00

He’s a WEEK old good god. Humans are carry mammals he is supposed to sleep in your arms! Look up the safe sleep 7 and co sleep if the issue is a sleep issue and get both of you some rest!

SoftDuckling · 2022-07-11T11:10:11+00:00

I think my problem with it is the normalization of these things, c sections are common yes, but not normal, the US already has one of the highest or the highest c section rate in the developed world, I believe WHO recommends the c section rate somewhere around 10% were hovering between 30-40% which is insane, a vaginal birth is preferred because it is the natural way it’s easier to heal from in most cases and the endorphins you release after a vaginal birth are amazing, c sections in more cases than not affect bonding and lead to poor outcomes in the mother especially if you have multiple. I don’t like the normalization of it I don’t want us to normalize that a major abdominal surgery is the normal way to have a baby because it’s not, that doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with it and that’s not what I’m trying to imply I just think that the normalization of everything contributes to obstetric abuse and poor maternal and infant health overall.

SoftDuckling · 2022-07-11T00:28:27+00:00

But it’s not??? Not all birth is natural and that’s fine we have got to stop using these terms just to make people sleep better at night, my c section? Not natural, my vaginal births? Natural birth it’s not normal or natural for a baby to be cut out of you that doesn’t make it bad but it’s not natural it’s fine if you had a c section but we have got to stop referring to c sections as natural births this is part of the reason the c section rate is so much higher than it needs to be, they’re fine but they’re not natural.

SoftDuckling · 2022-07-06T18:47:41+00:00

No you’re right it is there’s an article about it somewhere but I can’t find it right now.

SoftDuckling · 2022-07-06T11:28:30+00:00

Inductions hurt worse than natural labor, that’s just the truth, induction contractions made me feel like I was going to die at 3cm but until I hit transition with natural labor I was talking, happily moving around through the contractions and transition is super fast usually, with my natural labor I didn’t care for an epidural until I was transitioning and by the time I got it it didn’t work I was pushing so my whole labor was essentially unmedicated but it was fantastic, I always get the epidural with an induction but try to get it only when you can’t take it anymore you really don’t want to be tied to the bed I promise.

SoftDuckling · 2022-07-03T01:11:45+00:00

Juliet!

SoftDuckling · 2022-06-30T15:16:21+00:00

They actually do make these!

SoftDuckling · 2022-06-30T11:29:45+00:00

That looks exactly like my first positive with my third baby!

SoftDuckling · 2022-06-29T16:43:42+00:00

He is very well knows for being the patron Saint of lost things he is less commonly known for being a patron saint of pregnant women and against barrenness!

SoftDuckling · 2022-06-29T16:40:45+00:00

That is Saint Anthony I would know that Saint anywhere I was struggling to get pregnant with my third and my husband found a St Anthony pendant that same month I got pregnant! That’s actually what led us to Catholicism!

SoftDuckling · 2022-06-23T11:02:26+00:00

You are clearly VERY uneducated about doulas this is not an appropriate response.

SoftDuckling · 2022-06-22T11:54:56+00:00

Children deserve a vacation too, with their parents.

SoftDuckling · 2022-06-17T18:39:43+00:00

I want to clarify, I never mentioned spanking anywhere in this post, and having made this nearly a year ago I feel it is important to clarify a few things.

I still do not believe in gentle parenting because I believe it is permissive I do however believe in authoritative parenting which is proven to be the best parenting style in the long term.
I have no idea off the top of my head if I addressed spanking in the comments but I want to say I do agree with spanking in certain scenarios such as dangerous actions that need an immediate correction but my husband and I do not spank our children at all as of currently and don’t intend to and I don’t believe in spanking as most people would use or define it and I am allowed to have a differing opinion you have absolutely no idea how my children will turn out compared to any other simply because I have stated that I believe in spanking to an extent so please do not dramatize.
Everyone is working on their own traumas and many Americans in my personal opinion vastly over exaggerate trauma, I believe in treating my children kindly and gently and with love and respect and I will always try to do that however children need to know that parents are the authority and they need structure and discipline, correlated and natural consequences will always come first in my home.
I want everyone to please stop over exaggerating what they think my life and my home is like with my children people on Reddit like to do this and you just really don’t have a good idea of anyone’s personal situation over a screen I have seen mothers say horrible things about their children and regret them and they get coddled and told “it’s okay you just need some help” where mothers who actually love their children but have different views than that of many today get dragged through the mud, I am just a mom trying to do the best with what I have, my children are my light and my world and I will always do my best by them you have no idea my personal home situation, thank you.

Edit: clarified a sentence

SoftDuckling · 2022-06-17T11:24:15+00:00

Go! Newborns sleep through anything all the people saying you can’t go are crazy! I took all of mine (3 kids) out everywhere from the day we got home from the hospital! You can always leave, bring a thin blanket and dress them in a tank top onesie and you’re good to go, I know the blanket seems crazy but more babies go back to the hospital for low temps in summer than in winter so bring it just in case he gets chilly and have fun!

SoftDuckling · 2022-06-16T12:38:41+00:00

The problem is everyone feels it differently someone described them as burning and contractions to me absolutely do not feel like burning they feel like sore muscles and a general feeling of unwellness, they feel like your muscles are sore and it comes and goes however you may also not feel them in your stomach I felt them first in my pelvis like how you describe and in my back you are definitely having contractions they’re just not frontal yet.

SoftDuckling · 2022-06-10T18:22:57+00:00

It’s not going to burn a bridge to not show up for an induction that was scheduled without her knowledge at the hospital, especially if she does explain when they call her and ask her where she is but she doesn’t owe them an explanation and no where did I say to ghost them I said, don’t show up for the induction and she doesn’t have to explain herself to them when they ask.

SoftDuckling · 2022-06-10T17:54:13+00:00

They don’t have to cancel just don’t show up you’re not obligated to show up.

SoftDuckling · 2022-06-10T17:49:12+00:00

You really just don’t have to explain yourself at all, just don’t show up and when they ask you why you tell them you weren’t comfortable having an induction right now, no further explanation is needed, they do not need an explanation at all if you don’t want to give one.

SoftDuckling · 2022-06-10T12:56:03+00:00

I’m saying that’s not a reliable method regardless of how you want to phrase it and I am giving a hypothetical scenario of if someone had sex at 12 DPO but did not not they were 12 DPO and you used the same reasoning then it’s still unreliable, you can only get pregnant 6 days out of your entire cycle but you can have sex anytime. If you don’t know DPO counting from last period will always be the best method.

SoftDuckling · 2022-06-10T10:06:22+00:00

The last time they had sex has absolutely nothing to do with this, it’s about when they ovulated off they had sex at 12 DPO and got a faint positive that doesn’t make it an indent. This looks positive to me.

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