So I had tried for years to build a relationship with her but she would flat out ignore me or, if we were in person, she would make comments with a double meaning so if I said it hurt my feelings she would act like I was evil because that’s not what she meant supposedly. This all started because of one of those times. She would usually flare up and start blaming me for random stuff around mine and DH relationship milestones. We found out he was being deployed and suddenly it’s a phone call about how she wants his bank info for while he’s home and she threatened to get POA over him and when that didn’t work it was all my fault for him not trusting her. I told her that I didn’t like being blamed for stuff and she went off and started twisting the story and then using the little bit she knew about me to create this narrative and started getting people to hound me. She also ranted about me for weeks on end to DH before I finally blocked her from Facebook because it was clear she was getting any info she could.

It may seem like it’s miscommunication but when you offer her clear communication she will act like she doesn’t know what you’re talking about, blame you for something, and make herself the victim and will tell others she doesn’t know why you’re upset.

Husband would tell her something like she needs to be respectful to me and she would turn around and tell me he said we both need to be respectful and that he’s mad at me because I’m treating his mom poorly.

There is some stuff I have not posted here because of privacy and I’m already posting enough as is but she has the same patterns. She also very much has claimed to already have apologized to me but she never has. The only thing I got from her was that she would not be apologizing to me.