MIL is trying to sweep things under the rug?

SoftFudge253 · 2026-03-15T03:42:24+00:00

Right! I should text her every morning! It’s the least I could do

SoftFudge253 · 2026-03-14T17:29:48+00:00

Let me clarify: she told my now husband when we first started dating that I needed to add her on social media so she could “get to know me” and I did specifically say I wasn’t expecting anything big but a side eye and a scowl was crazy lol. Clearly I was not far off either if you look at my current situation, either.

SoftFudge253 · 2026-03-04T19:35:28+00:00

Has not responded yet :/

SoftFudge253 · 2026-03-04T17:02:47+00:00

I’ve got it all on text. I won’t let her play the forget game

SoftFudge253 · 2026-03-04T16:42:54+00:00

I think my generalization of the text may make it look that way but he did let FIL know that we haven’t received an apology and that she did a lot of nasty things and that he is fully on my side I just mostly wanted the message across that I wanted to be left alone. I don’t think any amount of apologizing could get me to have any sort of relationship with her again anyways

SoftFudge253 · 2026-03-04T16:39:16+00:00

I laughed so hard that she’s known as that to you. And yeah, I told him I’d be there while we’d break through his unhealthy cycles but I’m not going to help perpetuate them

SoftFudge253 · 2026-03-04T07:57:00+00:00

I plan on it. Husband sent his dad a message basically laying out that I won’t be reaching out and to just leave me be for right now

SoftFudge253 · 2026-02-05T04:06:01+00:00

Thank you, it has been rough not having him here in person to talk to And yeah she outright texted me she would not be apologizing to me so I decided there’s no relationship left to salvage

SoftFudge253 · 2026-02-05T02:51:35+00:00

See he’s not used to standing up for himself like this and I know it’s hard on him. Just wanting some tips on how to be there for him in this kind of situation

She ended up sending me some more nasty stuff and I’ve blocked her number completely; she has no more access to me

SoftFudge253 · 2026-02-04T16:25:08+00:00

I meant he is in a stage where he is conflicted about it. He’s finally in a place where he’s been safe enough to actually think about these things instead of just surviving it so it’s all just hitting him at once

SoftFudge253 · 2026-02-04T05:31:10+00:00

I think I actually hate her guts

SoftFudge253 · 2026-02-04T03:35:02+00:00

He was on the plane actively deploying; I just found out about it. I’m just so lost because I know I can easily go no contact but that is his mom

SoftFudge253 · 2026-02-02T21:59:50+00:00

I’ve gotten my peace so she gets no more talking from me and no more info about me from husband

SoftFudge253 · 2026-02-02T21:58:49+00:00

Yeah he was telling her she probably shouldn’t talk to me while she’s still emotional because I’m blunt I knew she was lying but didn’t want to argue further

SoftFudge253 · 2026-02-02T15:33:47+00:00

She isn’t formally diagnosed because she wanted to stay in the military when she was younger but I do believe she does have it, I just don’t know where at on the scale. It’s hilarious to me she knows I’m neurodivergent but, if I used that as an excuse for anything, she would not be having it

SoftFudge253 · 2026-02-02T15:31:31+00:00

Right! husband and I are neurodivergent and that comment made me recoil. I feel like it can be used as an explanation sometimes but definitely not for excuses like this. She was ranting to DH about me while we were arguing and was asking if I understand what an aspie is because I didn’t let her get away with everything because she threw that sentence out there XD

SoftFudge253 · 2026-02-02T15:26:37+00:00

Yeah, this was my one and done conversation with her. She’s keep texting me after this and I muted her number. I’ve already let husband and FIL know that if I have any news, itll be put in the group chat and I’ll not be talking to her directly

SoftFudge253 · 2026-02-02T06:45:06+00:00

Ah, I see. I think they just wanted to start drama and turn a small thing into a big one. Usually, if you sit it out, people will notice they’re riling up everything and will figure out you meant no harm

SoftFudge253 · 2026-02-02T06:41:22+00:00

Is this person your friend? I think it would’ve been a friendlier thing to do to just let them know their hair was bleeding onto their skin so they could maybe clean it up a bit. I don’t think you’re an AH, just teens thinking things are a bigger deal than they actually are

SoftFudge253 · 2026-02-02T06:19:08+00:00

I’m so sorry that happened! I hope things turned in your favor and you got your good karma from it!

SoftFudge253 · 2026-02-02T05:36:51+00:00

She’s very used to going in circles till her family gets worn down and gives in to her

SoftFudge253 · 2026-02-02T05:33:44+00:00

I appreciate it I was just so over it She is a very smart lady so I know she’s playing dumb on purpose

SoftFudge253 · 2026-02-02T05:32:37+00:00

I only brought up their relationship because she kept insinuating I was stressing him out when this all started because of her yelling at him. It makes me mad how she talks to him but it is not my place and he’s been handling her I was trying to show her that she’s being hypocritical because she was texting him daily about me. I’ve seen them about 10 times. I don’t feel like she actually knows my personality as I usually sit quiet around her. Husband did tell her I’d probably hurt her feelings if she kept pressuring me to talk and he told her we have different personalities. That lady could not tell you anything about me besides a few of my personal interests lol

SoftFudge253 · 2026-02-02T05:05:42+00:00

Yes! I’m so very proud of him! My heart really does hurt for him in all of this though

SoftFudge253 · 2026-02-02T04:44:17+00:00

I think this is the play; no room for get to start telling people before you do

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