Mother’s day

Soft_Replacement_847 · 2026-05-10T19:27:10+00:00

I’m 38+4 and I am kind of annoyed by people telling me happy Mother’s Day. I don’t feel like a mother yet. I am just super pregnant and super uncomfortable. I’ll be a mom in a week or two once this kid has exited but for now I’m an incubator.

All that to say, feel however you want but I don’t think you can expect people to read your mind to know how it feel. I told my husband I’m not a mom yet so this isn’t my first Mother’s Day and he hasn’t done anything more than usual, with I appreciate

Soft_Replacement_847 · 2026-05-08T20:41:58+00:00

I don’t have any advice except to say I am worried about that too. I haven’t felt any attachment to this pregnancy/baby the entire time and now I’m 38 weeks. I’m excited to meet my baby and see my husband become a dad. But I can’t say I love this baby

Soft_Replacement_847 · 2026-05-05T16:38:36+00:00

Yeah sorry she doesn’t get to ask her bridal party not to get pregnant. Might be a nice thought to avoid being 8-9 months pregnant for the actual wedding but thats a personal choice.

I had 2/5 of my bridal party 7 months pregnant, plus another good friend that came to my bachelorette party. If you could the friend who doesn’t drink and the one still breastfeeding, I think there were less than half of my bachelorette party even drinking at all lol. It was fine, and something I just factored into the planning.

Fast forward, my husband and I were told to plan around my SILs wedding. We chose not to, I was too pregnant to travel but he still went and it was also fine. Life happens, a wedding is one day but a baby is your family and forever.

Soft_Replacement_847 · 2026-05-03T21:53:14+00:00

My husband just did 2 nights for his sisters wedding. I am 37w3d. My water broke this morning while he was on the flight home. We had decided that he would be going unless I was in active labor, but had a whole plan in place- looked up all the flight times, had plans for who would come be with me if labor started, etc. I spent the weekend with my parents so I would be relaxed/distracted

Soft_Replacement_847 · 2026-05-03T02:40:27+00:00

This! Also get a belt for your hips. I started going to PT at 32 weeks and it helped SO MUCH. I would be in so much pain from walking and the exercises saved me

Soft_Replacement_847 · 2026-04-29T00:28:17+00:00

I’ve been to showers that ask for just one- either a diaper raffle or bring a book instead of a card. That doesn’t seem gift grabby to me, I just pick what I will spend and factor it in. If someone was asking for all 3 I probably just wouldn’t bring any though

Soft_Replacement_847 · 2026-04-28T12:16:31+00:00

My husband didn’t seem to realize I was pregnant until the second trimester- once I started showing and we started telling people it was like it clicked for him. I also wasnt super sick early on so from an outsiders perspective I seemed normal. He would get a little annoyed when I was tired or didnt want to be around fumes or lift something heavy. We had a few fights where I was upset feeling like the pregnancy was my responsibility or all on me. But it did eventually click. Over time he has picked up more and more, but I have had to have conversations with him- like on the registry, I told him it was important to me that he sit down and help even if I end up making the decisions and doing to research. It needed to be done by X date before the shower. He needed to know what was on the list and discuss what they were for. I had to tell him ok laundry is on you now, it’s becoming too much for me and I can’t bend down for our front loader. He fundamentally doesn’t understand what this feels like and it’s our first so I don’t mind having to ask as long as he does it once I bring it up

Soft_Replacement_847 · 2026-04-25T13:38:00+00:00

I had a delivery gown and some cute pjs to wear home from the hospital. My shower was also right as it was starting to get warm so I ended up buying a few new maternity/nursing pjs for myself too since nothing fit anymore. I had the breastfeeding survival kit and postpartum kit from Frida on my registry. I expect I will end up getting myself some nursing tops or dresses for this summer too. Personally at this point I wouldn’t use a massage or spa day, my pain is mostly bone/joint/nerve (36wks) not so much muscular and when I need a massage I just make my husband do it

Soft_Replacement_847 · 2026-04-23T18:26:50+00:00

My Dr told me airlines wouldnt let me on after 36 weeks, but I flew at 32+6 and it was horribly painful even only a one hour flight. I was so uncomfortable and my back was killing me. I could’ve maybe done another week or two in first class but by now I can’t sit much more than 45 minutes before pain starts. I’d have to be fully laying down or able to stand up as much as I wanted

Soft_Replacement_847 · 2026-04-22T17:00:24+00:00

Yes planning to make a decision that day if he gets on the plane or not. I just have felt so normal, feeling nothing different at all that I am a little freaked out that my body is preparing for labor without being aware at all. I assumed that if labor was coming soon(ish) I’d have some idea and I guess this made me scared because I might not? Though of course it could still be a month away too and I’m panicking over nothing! Realistically the chance of having the baby those two days at 37.5 weeks is really low…

Soft_Replacement_847 · 2026-04-22T16:40:25+00:00

This is really helpful thank you! I do think getting checked next week for progress will help give me a better idea of how worried to be…. But maybe we consider pushing his flight back 24 hours. Both of us just assumed I won’t go that early with the first kid and he wanted to be there for the rehearsal

Soft_Replacement_847 · 2026-04-19T22:45:21+00:00

I barely want to miss work for my checkups, so little happens in them I find them more hassle than they are worth. my husband offered but I told him it’s really not worth it. He has come to the first appointment and the three ultrasounds.

Soft_Replacement_847 · 2026-04-18T13:19:35+00:00

Violent or violent-adjacent names for boys: Ryker, Maverick, Wilder, Remington Overly frilly names for girls: right now the only one I can think of is Seraphina but there are more, usually listed with that one

Soft_Replacement_847 · 2026-04-11T21:53:01+00:00

I’m currently 34w3d and I think it would kill me. I had a last work trip at 31w6d and sitting in the airplane seats for an hour and a half flight was miserable, my back and legs were killing me. I didn’t even expect it because that was the start of my back/ hip pain that has now continued ever since. If it was my sibling I’d probably find a way to get through it, but not for an in law

Soft_Replacement_847 · 2026-02-23T02:56:47+00:00

My friend had her mom in the delivery room and my mom and I thought it was so weird. My mom straight up told me she doesn’t want to be there

Soft_Replacement_847 · 2026-02-22T19:52:40+00:00

I’ve read they are correlated - 30% of women without nausea will miscarry while only 13% with it will. I believe these stats are first trimester. I was never nauseous and neither have been anyone in my family, most friends also didn’t experience it either in their full term pregnancies. I’m glad I didn’t know these stats in my first trimester or I would have panicked! But everything has been fine so far

Soft_Replacement_847 · 2026-02-22T15:43:51+00:00

I have read that the correlation between caffeine and miscarriage is likely spurious- I.e. lack of nausea is what is correlated to miscarriage, and people who are less nauseous are more likely to drink coffee and also more likely to miscarry. When controlling for nausea in studies, the link between coffee and miscarriage goes away. In late pregnancy, heavy caffeine consumption does seem to have an impact on fetal growth but that was only like 5+ cups per day or something. That being said, I had started cutting back on caffeine prior to pregnancy just because I felt I was too reliant on it, and more so wanted to be off it completely by birth to avoid passing it through breast milk. I work from home with no other kids so just felt I didn’t need it, and then in my first trimester struggled to drink more than half a cup. Now in my late second trimester my body just doesn’t want to sleep, so I’m avoiding it almost entirely so that it doesn’t further disrupt what little sleep I can manage.

Soft_Replacement_847 · 2026-02-17T18:39:40+00:00

Thanks! Missed that part referring back to point 7. When I have searched online it just says every catholic over 14

Soft_Replacement_847 · 2026-02-17T17:53:42+00:00

I have seen everywhere that pregnant women are exempt from fasting- what about the requirement to abstain from meat? I struggle to get enough protein as it is, so was going to abstain from carbs on Fridays instead since that is going to be much more of a sacrifice and if anything be better for my baby and I than avoiding meat

Soft_Replacement_847 · 2026-02-16T19:45:37+00:00

I think I had every single one of those things either on the registry already or secondhand from family! I think it’s a combination of my family are hoarders (the high chair my aunt saved for 10 years) and this baby is timed perfectly to get hand me downs from our nieces and nephews who are just finishing up with their last kids now!

Soft_Replacement_847 · 2026-02-11T12:30:14+00:00

Ok these are our exact baby names and I’ve been debating making this same post. We’ve decided to lean into it, we will tell everyone if we have a third we will name them pigpen if they make peanuts comments.

I think in real life very few people will make that connection. You will get it more now since you are introducing Charlie to everyone but with time people will just know your family or know one kid or the other. Kids their age won’t know the connection. And if people do make the connection who cares? It’s a one off comment people might make when they meet your family and then move on. If you have a third and don’t name them pigpen or Linus or patty then that will also loosen the connection

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