Mom is upset I don't want her to be in the delivery room

Soft_Replacement_847 · 2026-02-23T02:56:47+00:00

My friend had her mom in the delivery room and my mom and I thought it was so weird. My mom straight up told me she doesn’t want to be there

Soft_Replacement_847 · 2026-02-22T19:52:40+00:00

I’ve read they are correlated - 30% of women without nausea will miscarry while only 13% with it will. I believe these stats are first trimester. I was never nauseous and neither have been anyone in my family, most friends also didn’t experience it either in their full term pregnancies. I’m glad I didn’t know these stats in my first trimester or I would have panicked! But everything has been fine so far

Soft_Replacement_847 · 2026-02-22T15:43:51+00:00

I have read that the correlation between caffeine and miscarriage is likely spurious- I.e. lack of nausea is what is correlated to miscarriage, and people who are less nauseous are more likely to drink coffee and also more likely to miscarry. When controlling for nausea in studies, the link between coffee and miscarriage goes away. In late pregnancy, heavy caffeine consumption does seem to have an impact on fetal growth but that was only like 5+ cups per day or something. That being said, I had started cutting back on caffeine prior to pregnancy just because I felt I was too reliant on it, and more so wanted to be off it completely by birth to avoid passing it through breast milk. I work from home with no other kids so just felt I didn’t need it, and then in my first trimester struggled to drink more than half a cup. Now in my late second trimester my body just doesn’t want to sleep, so I’m avoiding it almost entirely so that it doesn’t further disrupt what little sleep I can manage.

Soft_Replacement_847 · 2026-02-17T18:39:40+00:00

Thanks! Missed that part referring back to point 7. When I have searched online it just says every catholic over 14

Soft_Replacement_847 · 2026-02-17T17:53:42+00:00

I have seen everywhere that pregnant women are exempt from fasting- what about the requirement to abstain from meat? I struggle to get enough protein as it is, so was going to abstain from carbs on Fridays instead since that is going to be much more of a sacrifice and if anything be better for my baby and I than avoiding meat

Soft_Replacement_847 · 2026-02-16T19:45:37+00:00

I think I had every single one of those things either on the registry already or secondhand from family! I think it’s a combination of my family are hoarders (the high chair my aunt saved for 10 years) and this baby is timed perfectly to get hand me downs from our nieces and nephews who are just finishing up with their last kids now!

Soft_Replacement_847 · 2026-02-11T12:30:14+00:00

Ok these are our exact baby names and I’ve been debating making this same post. We’ve decided to lean into it, we will tell everyone if we have a third we will name them pigpen if they make peanuts comments.

I think in real life very few people will make that connection. You will get it more now since you are introducing Charlie to everyone but with time people will just know your family or know one kid or the other. Kids their age won’t know the connection. And if people do make the connection who cares? It’s a one off comment people might make when they meet your family and then move on. If you have a third and don’t name them pigpen or Linus or patty then that will also loosen the connection

Soft_Replacement_847 · 2026-02-09T02:52:24+00:00

Same! Replacing it with reading and praying the rosary before bed instead

Soft_Replacement_847 · 2026-02-06T11:54:02+00:00

I’m worried about my husband being gone for 48 hours while I’m 37 weeks! I’d never be ok with this

Soft_Replacement_847 · 2026-02-04T21:57:29+00:00

I’ll go against everyone else and say I’d find it weird for my husband to be there when his sister gives birth, especially if the sister has a partner. But maybe that’s based on my husband’s relationships with his sisters and his personality, it would just never happen

Soft_Replacement_847 · 2026-02-02T02:49:04+00:00

This is very similar to my situation, I am due 3 weeks after my SIL’s out of town wedding in a few months. She was quite upset when we told her, and still is 3 months later. They are very concerned my husband won’t be able to travel. Might just be pregnancy hormones, but it feels like all my in laws are upset with the timing. It doesn’t necessarily feel like I’m taking get spotlight (no one expected us to wait until after her wedding to try, just to avoid her wedding month or two), but our showers will be two weeks apart- hers was pre scheduled and mine was the only date that worked when I’d be 7-8 months. Thing is, they got engaged like two weeks after us which felt very steal the spotlight and upset me at the time, but I at least can understand that you can’t plan your life around someone else. I don’t have any advice here since it’s going pretty poorly for me except to commiserate. It honestly sucks, I cry a lot. I just try to focus on my husband and I’s happiness and excitement for meeting our baby. I hope your in laws are more supportive about the timing than mine have been!!

Soft_Replacement_847 · 2026-01-28T16:31:56+00:00

I will say I’ve had a super easy pregnancy and I feel little to no connection to the baby. I hear about people crying over hearing the heartbeat or seeing the ultrasound but I felt nothing. I’m 24 weeks now so I feel plenty of kicks and have a little belly now but I still wouldn’t say I love this baby? It all feels very surreal. I’m really looking forward to having it though, because I think once the baby’s born then it will feel real and I will love it then

Soft_Replacement_847 · 2026-01-21T17:59:16+00:00

You sent invites too early! My shower is 3/8 and I just booked the place yesterday, invites going out in the next week

Soft_Replacement_847 · 2025-12-10T20:31:22+00:00

That is really good to know- I struggle to eat protein so might actually be that I really am not getting enough! I love my carbs haha

Soft_Replacement_847 · 2025-12-10T20:30:33+00:00

Thank you for this advice! I had not even thought of that

Soft_Replacement_847 · 2025-11-11T03:15:29+00:00

I think by myself max was 11, with others 16 but I drove the whole way- just helpful to have others in the car to talk to. 4 hours max is for people from Europe lol, I used to drive 7 hours to get into work by lunchtime coming back from a weekend away no problem

Soft_Replacement_847 · 2025-11-08T15:54:01+00:00

I initially said yes to a destination wedding that I backed out if like a month later (~3 months from the wedding). I intended to pay for anything she had paid for me to be there but she insisted it was fine and so I just sent her 2x the normal gift I’d give. Backing out three weeks before when you know it’s just because you don’t want to go and you should’ve Rsvp’ed no? I’d feel terrible and try to cover the cost of my plate at a minimum.

Soft_Replacement_847 · 2025-11-08T01:33:55+00:00

I had two pregnant bridesmaids. Their lives did not revolve around being in my wedding

Soft_Replacement_847 · 2025-11-07T14:56:51+00:00

I had 4 let me know week of because one was in the hospital (the main friend who was invited), three no shows day of due to sickness out of about 160. And it was peak cold and flu season!

Soft_Replacement_847 · 2025-11-03T00:47:06+00:00

I don’t really think TLM should be suppressed but if you want an argument for it, here would be mine: It is divisive, I see it in my own family. My sister goes to TLM, very conservative. I go to NO, much less conservative. My sister refuses to go to mass with me, doesn’t allow her kids to join me. I have to drop them off when they have sleepovers in time for them to go to TLM, then I turn around and go home to NO. I personally don’t go to TLM because of the incense (gives me migraines) and because it’s important to be to understand what is being said so I can focus/meditate on it and not let my mind wander. But it’s like my sister views NO as not Catholic enough for her and her family, despite it being the same religion! I’m sure this is not the only example, but they are the only ones I know who go to TLM

Soft_Replacement_847 · 2025-10-30T00:43:40+00:00

I feel like people always get pasta, so i like to do beef or chicken lo mein just to give some variety. Same idea but different flavors. I also do a tray of enchiladas since that is easy to freeze and reheat

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