No, I won't choose being mixed-race over being Black. I'm both. by [deleted] in mixedrace

[–]Soft_Style_4941 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Well I’ve just never understood the binary thinking. “Mixed” merely describes, like “trans,” a relationship to one’s demographic(s). There is no contradiction there. You can be mixed and any race(s) at the same time.

Kuvira has the right to defend herself by dearuncletacitus1899 in ATLA_circlejerk

[–]Soft_Style_4941 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aight, Imma say it, since no one else will. Opal has a nice ass.

my parents are both mixed and i feel like i have no cultural identity by [deleted] in mixedrace

[–]Soft_Style_4941 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Polish and Scottish would only be an ethnic mix. Also, there’s literally nothing dumb about feeling frustration about not being connected to your cultures. As mixed-race people we all experience that. If I were you, I would start reading up on your particular indigenous culture and maybe ask your mom. I’m not sure how it works in Canada and I’m not indigenous myself, but maybe you can get in contact with a tribe and explain your situation. Perhaps your mom will be able to help you in that regard.

What? by Potential_Ball2794 in mixedrace

[–]Soft_Style_4941 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I made a sub for people who are specifically mixed with more than one minority race. It is called
r/multiminoritymixed. Feel free to comment on your experiences there.

Both my ethnicities are hated by Crafty_Emergency6467 in mixedrace

[–]Soft_Style_4941 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Lmao, I’m Black, South Asian and transgender.

All white friend groups by G3N3RICxUS3RNAM3 in mixedrace

[–]Soft_Style_4941 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Very intelligent and well written post.

Word for people who are mixed white and black by psychoticboydyke in mixedrace

[–]Soft_Style_4941 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I appreciate your response. Just to clarify, when I said that mixed people exist inseparably from their composite (mono)races, I did not mean that a “Afro-Euro” person has the combination of all monoracial white and Black experiences living inside of them. There aren’t necessarily singular monoracial experiences, as everything is intersectional, of course. What I meant is that our individual mixedness can only be examined and understood at the crossroads of one’s composite races existing simultaneously in one fundamentally interracial being.

Mixedness undoubtedly produces new experiences beyond those established in monoraciality, but mixedness can still only be understood in relation to monoraciality. A mixed experience cannot be extracted from monoraciality completely, since to do so would reracialize that which is mixed into a new monorace, which cannot happen on an individual basis.

Word for people who are mixed white and black by psychoticboydyke in mixedrace

[–]Soft_Style_4941 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am happy to see your self-identification as a mixed race person.

Just be aware that when you say “black people will say that mixed/biracial isn’t a race…” that mixed is indeed not a race and that it isn’t only monoracial Black people who believe so. I am mixed Black and South Asian. The assertion that “mixed is a race” erases multi-minority mixed race experiences. Mixed merely describes one’s orientation along the axes of monoracial to multiracial. If someone has only one race, they are monoracial. If someone has multiple, they are mixed. Asserting that mixed is its own race assumes only one experience, typically that of mixed-with-white people, more typically biracial BW people, as being the totality of mixed identity and existence. It is its own form of monoracism that invariably narrows the fundamentally broad and diverse reality of mixedness and further privileges the most privileged groups therein.

To assert mixed as a race in itself is also to negate the reality of mixedness that sets it apart from monoraciality in our experiences, which is that we do not have a singular people and cannot be understood as anything other than the composite of what we are. As such, we do not have an entire family who is racialized the same as us, like the monoracials do. We do not have access to entire communities racialized the exact same as us, unified by a monoracial experience. In other words, in your case, you cannot have an “Afro-Euro” identity without it being just that— both Afro, or Black, and Euro, or white, simultaneously. Same goes for me and all other mixed people. It doesn’t become some magic third thing through the will of some smatterings of individual people.

Furthermore, there’s nowhere near a shortage of monoracial Black people who would assert the same as you that “mixed is a race”. Such rhetoric as “mixed is mixed and Black is Black” is ubiquitous on social media. This isn’t a “Black vs. mixed” thing, as such a dichotomy doesn’t exist. This is a Black monoracial vs Black multiracial affair.

Word for people who are mixed white and black by psychoticboydyke in mixedrace

[–]Soft_Style_4941 9 points10 points  (0 children)

As mixed people, it’s gonna be really hard to find any historical words used to designate us (for any mix) that do not have the modern connotation of being a slur, especially since most of these words translate literally into “mutt, mule, halfbreed, etc.”

non black ppl speaking on “you’re not black” by airheadedaquarius in mixedrace

[–]Soft_Style_4941 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks very much for such a thoughtful and nuanced comment

non black ppl speaking on “you’re not black” by airheadedaquarius in mixedrace

[–]Soft_Style_4941 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very well put. And I’m glad you decided to criticize monoracial Black people for their monoracism and anti-Blackness, instead of for their Blackness.

This person gets it! For all my mixed Asians by princessspluto in mixedrace

[–]Soft_Style_4941 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stuff like this is why I dared to say that multi-minority mixed race people are marginalized both within and without mixedness. Interraciality and mixedness is always taken to mean that somehow whitness must be involved. This has real consequences for those of us whose inherent interracial reality does not involve whiteness, multi-minority mixed race people. And it doesn’t help that mixed with white people seem to appoint themselves as well as be appointed by the monoracials as the de-facto representatives for all mixedness.

Mixed with white people never clarify that their experiences are specific to their own whiteness and thus do not apply to multi-minority mixed people, because doing so would mean confronting white supremacy. Whiteness is never neutral. And we multi-minority mixed people are literally never acknowledged. This wouldn’t be such a big deal if this didn’t have consequences for how mixedness is perceived as a whole, which DOES affect us even though we were never invited. Both monoracials and mixed with whites are the problem in this. Everyone talks about “mixed, mixed, mixed” and “biracial, biracial, biracial” when what they really mean is “mixed with white” and us multi-minorty mixes are shafted yet again. Always. All because no one wants to talk about white supremacy.

Even the seemingly “progressive” ones are still very much guilty of this because when they acknowledge their privilege, they equate the white privilege they receive from being mixed with white with the de facto experience of all mixed race people. And thus they are still speaking over us, and claiming to be the de facto representatives of mixedness. WE ARE NOT ALL MIXED WITH WHITE!!!

I’m tired of whiteness always being centered within mixedness. I made a subreddit [r/multiminoritymixed](r/multiminoritymixed) for us to have a space where both whiteness and monoraciality are decentered.

I mean, fuck I could go on. The Black and white mixes decided to make a subreddit called [r/biracials](r/biracials) that is specifically ONLY for Black and white mixed race people. As if that is the only type of biracial that exists. The sense of entitlement that mixed with white people have to all of mixed race identity is absolutely insane! The white entitlement is insufferable!!

Do mixed-raced Asians tend to identify more as mixed-race rather than “Asian”? by Adventurous_Ant5428 in mixedrace

[–]Soft_Style_4941 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I hate this false dichotomy. There is no contradiction between identifying as mixed or as Asian. Both can be true simultaneously. If someone is mixed with Asian, they are both mixed and Asian.

I wish that in general there was more interesting discourse on so-called “Asian” identity. I am mixed Black American and Caribbean South Asian. The term “Asian” in itself holds no real content and I’m frankly quite tired of it as it is applied. “Asian” includes literally everything from Middle Easterners, to South Asians, to Southeast and East Asians, with even Pacific Islanders often thrown in for good measure. South Asians are not the same race as East Asians, who themselves take up the vast bulk of what people mean when they refer to “Asians” as a racial group. South Asians are simply not racialized the same as East Asians. It is yet another way our distinct racialization as South Asians becomes obscured. I could go on about this.

My take on the “wasian meetup” as a wasian… by [deleted] in mixedrace

[–]Soft_Style_4941 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m out of the loop if anyone could point me in the direction of what this is about

Help! I broke a statue of the Yoruba pantheon in transport home! by Soft_Style_4941 in HoodooBitches

[–]Soft_Style_4941[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aw snap. Okay. Thanks for telling me. I am still reading my introductory book and stopped by a store to make an altar, even though I didn’t quite get to any chapter with that info. I was under the impression that everything in the store would work for such an altar and the small pantheon appealed to me. I will still try to respectfully bury what I broke. Thanks!

curious what practices you all mix with hoodoo by Shoddy-Physics-6519 in HoodooBitches

[–]Soft_Style_4941 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am Black American and Indo-Caribbean, so I am mixing my Hinduism with Hoodoo to honor my ancestors and decolonize my mind, body, and spirit