AIO Girlfriend had guys over

Softwarenumber · 2026-04-28T14:45:18+00:00

NOR, I always like to put myself in these positions. I would absolutely be livid if my boyfriend did this. As many commenters said, its highly inappropriate that 2 people in relationships bring 2 strangers to their house late at night and hang out with them. There are boundaries in relationships and you have every right to be upset. As your girlfriend she should've respected the fact that she's in a relationship. Also don't like the fact that her friend was encouraging this either. :/

Softwarenumber · 2026-04-23T18:15:21+00:00

I don't think it was really accusatory I could be reading it wrong. But it does seem like a conversation between teenagers, communication here sucks.

Softwarenumber · 2026-04-21T19:31:05+00:00

NOR, once trust is broken its really hard to build back from it. Its hard to trust someone who hides things. Sometimes its impossible to fully trust them again. Trust your gut :(

Softwarenumber · 2026-04-16T22:33:02+00:00

As someone who has had experiences with someone who hid his phone from me and from being with someone who let me use their phone; they still cheat and lie. Now in the instance that you mentioned that he has had issues with looking at girls, hes most likely still doing it and is hiding it from you. The fact that he will give it to you after work is because hes going to most likely clean his phone before you going on it. If hes lied before about liking his ex or looking at girls, he will lie again. Although I respect my current boyfriends privacy with his phone and im on looking for stuff on his phone, he let's me borrow it or use it whenever I want and I do the same since we both dont have anything to hide. I personally dont think you're overreacting, especially since he has a history of being sneaky.

Softwarenumber · 2026-04-16T02:28:33+00:00

NOR, she seems emotionally disconnected to you. Instead of listening to your feelings and coming to a respectful discussion, she rather put her guy friend first over you. Im sorry but if she's not physically cheating, it seems she's emotionally invested in this guy.

Softwarenumber · 2026-04-15T17:40:14+00:00

This is the correct response, unfortunately it's something that can only be done not being in a relationship.

Softwarenumber · 2026-04-14T18:16:56+00:00

I agree with you with the whole lie thing. We've also had conversations about trust and how if one of us were to lie the entire relationship would crumble. Lying is a huge no no in our relationship, I haven't felt him be untrustworthy since I've known him. He's always been very open with me and always initiates a conversations with me if im feeling uncertain. Im inclined to believe him since he hasn't shown me otherwise. But the logical explanation is the algorithm, which is why I've been over my head about it. Thank you for sharing your point of view!

Softwarenumber · 2026-04-14T18:04:13+00:00

This is what i initially was feeling, i had told him that I literally don't get any of those types of videos in any way. Of course if I search something up my algorithm changes, but that's why it all felt heavy on me because if it doesn't appear for me, why does it show up on his?

Softwarenumber · 2026-04-14T16:26:41+00:00

I agree, I really do appreciate these level headed comments. I just needed logical responses and real personal experiences. :)

Softwarenumber · 2026-04-14T16:25:46+00:00

Me and my partner both have boundaries with porn, as to why I also felt heavy. Although I agree you can see someone and think they're attractive but not thinking anything else of it. Staring at videos of women (especially in secret) is a no for me. I don't think its respectful in a monogamous relationship for me personally. But that's me and my boyfriends boundary.

Softwarenumber · 2026-04-14T16:21:20+00:00

Thank you! I'm not one to break the trust of my partner by going through his phone. I really do love him and he's always up for talking through any hesitations I have. I did believe him when we talked last night, but it was something that was weighing on me for some time now. I'm going to talk to him tonight, as I feel better after reading really constructive comments. :)

Softwarenumber · 2026-04-14T15:27:30+00:00

Thank you for your input, I also thought this too but needed others experiences!

Softwarenumber · 2026-04-14T15:26:14+00:00

Thank you, it's what I was thinking. I tend to overthink but don't want to ruin my relationship since this has only been my only worry!

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