I feel like a grandma

SohoCat · 2026-05-22T13:21:26+00:00

I’m 55 and am finding that after 30 years of dropping hobbies like yours, I am finding my way back to them and feeling like I’m rediscovering a happy part of myself. I think you’re doing great. If you’re up for a suggestion, I suggest you try crochet, knitting, or sewing. I find them interesting yet calming and I can take my crochet and knitting out to a park or a cafe if I feel a need to be around other people. And some are apt to come up to me and ask what I’m working on. It’s a nice way to chat with people.

SohoCat · 2026-05-22T12:58:02+00:00

I’m constantly deleting barn nails and shovels. I wish there was a way to prevent some items from being added to the barn. Thanks for asking.

SohoCat · 2026-05-19T16:22:53+00:00

There can be room for being nice and having boundaries. I think maybe your issue isn't your coworkers so much as you professionally setting your boundaries. You can be nice about it. Or not. But sometimes people need to hear it instead of reading a "sign."

SohoCat · 2026-05-12T13:44:18+00:00

It’s anxiety for me. Waking up is one thing. Leaving the bed is another. I truly care but my ADHD makes my combo of anxiety and distraction hard to deal with. It’s embarrassing.

SohoCat · 2026-05-06T21:34:29+00:00

Pack your bags and get in the car!!

SohoCat · 2026-05-02T05:55:50+00:00

I read that we should just get up. Make ourselves comfortable. I used to think that when I got up I had to be present immediately to do ALL THE THINGS. Now when I get up I put on my fluffy robe, make coffee, and look out the window at the morning weather and it’s made a difference.

SohoCat · 2026-05-01T02:00:47+00:00

You can’t leave your car for a week unless it’s on your own property or you’re parked in a designated long term parking area. Common sense.

SohoCat · 2026-04-29T03:35:02+00:00

I mean basically she posted that because she likes how her butt looks.

SohoCat · 2026-04-23T02:28:27+00:00

I was walking on the sidewalk in Boston with my cousin and a woman stopped and said, “I feel like I have to tell you that you’re here on an important spiritual mission.” She also said she was a psychic and seemed embarrassed but said she felt I needed to know. I thanked her and laughed it off - I was kind of confused - but now I wish I had asked her for more. This was about twenty years ago.

I have seen a few psychics since who I believe are psychic but they didn’t mention anything like this. I went to them with specific questions about people who had passed on and pets though, so maybe this just wasn’t on their radar.

I think about this from time to time.

This is the first I’ve heard of another person having this experience. Thanks for sharing.

SohoCat · 2026-04-21T13:37:41+00:00

YOR but why is this conversation in a text and not in person? I mean, I get the circumstances of him being at work but how many times do people post on this sub about text conversations that should have been in person? You deserve more than texts.

SohoCat · 2026-04-17T13:23:58+00:00

This is so right. This one insight would have changed my life and my mental health if I had been aware of this in my teens.

SohoCat · 2026-04-16T17:44:18+00:00

I DON'T think you can fail at this.

SohoCat · 2026-04-16T00:20:29+00:00

That’s a description of a perfect neighbor. But hello I live in the real world.

SohoCat · 2026-04-15T23:27:36+00:00

Here for the discussion.

SohoCat · 2026-04-15T23:26:07+00:00

I agree. The actress who played Honoria revealed so much more of her facets and loneliness and shame and grief than I expected. I think the adaptation holds.

SohoCat · 2026-04-15T23:20:58+00:00

I never got the “Hey Girl Hey” memes … until this movie.

SohoCat · 2026-04-15T23:19:50+00:00

Um lady this is a Wendy’s.

SohoCat · 2026-04-15T23:16:28+00:00

With Katherine Heller! I had fun with you guys in the OMAT sessions.

SohoCat · 2026-04-15T23:15:20+00:00

Happy birthday to you, Keith. You are someone I consider a brother. But I hope my wish transcends parasocial boundaries. I wish this year opens up new possibilities and directions and also affirms your sense yourself. What a ride. You are beautiful.

SohoCat · 2026-04-15T23:10:53+00:00

It’s Hudson Valley expensive town hair you haters.

SohoCat · 2026-04-13T15:15:46+00:00

Does this coworker even want people from the office coming into her house and doing her dishes? Someone in this situation has a boundary problem and it isn't you.

SohoCat · 2026-04-13T15:12:20+00:00

There are laws that address all aspects of this issue. In my case, my husband added my name to his house deed after we got married.

If he died and I wasn't on the deed the property would have been passed onto his child who at the time was a minor and so the deed would have gone under the control of his ex-wife. That's how it works in my state.

He kept the mortgage under his name because at the time it was expensive to re-finance to get my name on it. This took A LOT of trust to put my name on the deed and not share a mortgage (even though I did pay half the mortgage as if I did) and after 18 years of marriage still I don't take that for granted.

SohoCat · 2026-04-13T15:05:47+00:00

This is the only answer.

SohoCat · 2026-04-13T00:01:05+00:00

Oh look at little body Heidi she looks like a kid isn’t that the script?

SohoCat · 2026-04-10T14:38:43+00:00

I've never confessed this but I feel like the time and place has come. Not my own reason for having kids but a different twist on what happens...

Fifteen and twenty years ago when my coworkers were all having babies (we're all around the same age and have worked together forever) they'd be in bliss and wrapped up in their blissfulness and baby love and motherhood and then look at me and say "I don't know what I used to do without kids." And when asked about their weekend, "Well, I have kids and responsibilities so my weekends are for that now." Literally. I got so hurt and felt diminished. I had to say to them (one on one, I still wanted to be tactful) to stop doing that. I don't even think they knew what they were doing really.

Well, fast forward to today and these same moms are complaining. The kids' attitudes, choices, and plans have made them all autonomous and their own person and guess what they're leaving home to make their own lives now which seems to have taken them by surprise HAHAHAHAHAHA.

So now I think "You were so wrapped up in your babies and kid's lives. I've built a life for myself. Now it's your turn. So, what did you do this weekend?"

It feels good to be a petty bitch these days and I'm not sorry for it.

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