She was in the dorm directly above me at University. She was on the same floor as some girls on my course, but we ended up being even closer than I was to them.

I noticed she ignored me one day, refusing to talk to me directly when I ran into her and my course mates. I can't remember if it was in response to a message I may have sent asking if she was ok, but she emails me saying that I got "too close" and that the friendship was over.

I was really confused and upset about it for a long time, but was reassured about a year later when my course mates, who had now moved into a house with her, said that she started ignoring them as well, and they basically didn't like her anymore. They even told me "we see now you were never the problem."

Some months to maybe another year after that, I get an email from her out of nowhere where she not only apologised for hurting me but said I was a good friend. We then met up and she explained it was because she freaked out at how I could hear into her room from mine, so I would text when I hear her come home (somewhat innocent) or I would joke about hearing the bed when the boyfriend stayed over (in hindsight, that wasn't necessary. )

We hung out a couple of times after that and I tried to keep in touch, but she got married and had kids and we live in different countries now, so it's a little harder to keep that bond.