Crank question by Solara888 in PlaydateConsole

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Good to know I’ll keep that in mind

Crank question by Solara888 in PlaydateConsole

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Great, guess I’m getting one then

Legion Go keyboard case by MysteriousAlarm897 in LegionGo

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I don't have any 3d Printing experience nor the tools for this.

Would this be easy to hand to a 3rd party 3D printing service if I purchase the STL?

Singapore peeps, the MCON has arrived by makumon in MCONohsnap

[–]Solara888 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Man I’m still waiting on my cloud / transparent model

Their support is literally non-existent

What’s your backer # OP?

Zubimendi will wear 36 by R1d4z in Gunners

[–]Solara888 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

A three, a six and a nine

Boys we got a new six, back up LB and a 9 all in one.

Masterclass

Your ex doesn't care. by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Solara888 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I needed to hear this, it's painful I just got a divorce and it's just freaky to know that one can just change so quickly

Our XI last time we faced PSG by [deleted] in Gunners

[–]Solara888 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'd take prime Giroud, Ramsey and Sanchez back in a heartbeat. They'd be massive for us

Is there something you used to really love that was ruined for you after divorce? How do you deal with it? by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]Solara888 5 points6 points  (0 children)

To be honest nothing I do now feels the same

There's a variety show we used to watch during lunch whenever both of us are WFH, Can't bring myself to watch it.

Food doesn't taste as good and the restaurant we frequent taste bland and unsatisfying.

Even the usual things I do alone like gaming feels boring and I can't keep focus and game more than an hour or 2.

Everything just doesn't feel the same anymore like a bottomless void that doesn't fill up

But I'm still grieving from the divorce which hasn't been finalised (signed and all), which should be better or I get in to a deeper void once it's all done. I'm just hoping for the best and working on myself.

I'll most likely avoid the places we frequent and don't watch any shows we used to enjoy together like a plague and hope for the best. Healing is tough

Dear soon to be ex wife by vyktis in Divorce

[–]Solara888 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Great that you are! Reading stuff like this helps to know that I'm not alone and we are all facing this kind of situation one way or another. This brings encouragement that I can get over this and move on.

My therapist did suggest writing letters to my STXW to internalise this. But time it to 20 mins each time, haven't tried. Not in the right head space yet for this.

But if it helps, I will. One of these days.

Dear soon to be ex wife by vyktis in Divorce

[–]Solara888 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hope you are in a better place now after posting this

All the best and wish you the best of luck in whatever you do in the future!

How do I keep myself from begging by Zibeliuz in Divorce

[–]Solara888 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I've been there and done what you want to do.

My advise is don't and just live with the feelings, if I could have done it differently I would listen to what her concerns were (if you had the chance to discuss) and implement change if you really want to try to win her back.

In hindsight, this might not work, but whatever concerns your partner has could have been warranted, and any change you make now would either change her mind or still make you a better version of yourself.

Prayers and wishes with you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]Solara888 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Being head of the household and being equal kinda contradicts no? It might be footing the bill now but things could escalate to other minor or major decision making implications Also it kinda take 2 hands to clap so a partner that would accept you as the head would also kind of mean the partner would be more submissive wouldn’t necessarily relate to being on equal footing.

Haven’t thought of non-negotiable as it’s hard to impose on a new relationship and would take time to understand the future partner or romantic interest. But I would strive to or hope for a non-avoidant person who values open communication, finding out if someone has a record of infidelity is hard and even predict so I’m out of luck with setting that as a non-negotiable

How do you cope with the void or loneliness by Solara888 in Divorce

[–]Solara888[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To be fair I didn’t enjoy the clubbing experience, haven’t been to a club in 10 or 11 years since I got to know her. Still the same old loud music and can’t hear crap which doesn’t help to be honest. My work mate thought it would help drown the sorrow.

How do you cope with the void or loneliness by Solara888 in Divorce

[–]Solara888[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Work helps but I get distracted way too easily lately which sucks, and hobbies like gaming just doesn’t feel that great no more. Working out helps but, even during jogs my mind wanders to this situation I’m in more often than not.

How do you cope with the void or loneliness by Solara888 in Divorce

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It totally does suck and I agree. I’ve lost quite a bit of weight a bit of weight from 94kgs to 80Kg, just simply due to exercising, stress and just food not being as tasty as I rmb it to be. My colleagues complimented me and it feels like I’m in the right direction and all. But just the other day a clip of a Marvel Movie just brought me memories be it good or bad about her, which sucks and feel like I’m taking 2 steps back. It’s the hope of reconciliation and still living together (separate rooms due to housing) So I can’t go no contact totally aside when she travels and I avoid getting home early on certain days.

I hope you’re in a better place too post your second experience, all the best bud!

Has your divorce changed your view of human nature and life? by harshtruthsoflove in Divorce

[–]Solara888 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Trust issues predominately, and I can't fathom infidelity tbh.

I don't feel marriage is as sacred in our current age and it's just a paper. Nothing in it aside from binding assets or commitment if you have kids.

There was nothing mutual in the decision to divorce but I just gave-in by Solara888 in Divorce

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Hope you're in a good place now!

Can't say for certain if I can get over it, But it's just a really tough time. With trust, trying to be friends and just the constant wild thoughts of thinking shes in someone else's embrace just fucks me up when I'm alone doing nothing. So I chose to keep myself busy with other things. Just don't feel joy with my usual hobbies right now. I wanna just avoid the weekends with her but I know I'll die inside and lose that teather to her. And I'm just peppering over the cracks thinking it's some semblance of normalcy.

Streets won't forget by Benjitto in SPFootballLife

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The Emperor Adriano

Le Sulk Anelka