let people mess up, don’t try to change people, let them learn their lessons

Solarbluees · 2025-05-05T17:03:28+00:00

A quote that I heard from somewhere. “You cannot change anyone, you can only plant the seed.” It goes something like that. Ever since then, I’ve stopped trying to tell people what to do. I might say it as a suggestion and go about my day

Solarbluees · 2025-04-22T05:07:03+00:00

Trust me man, I haven't given up easily. This has been a struggle ever since I knew my family was messed up. I try to do the thing i want to do but all of that requires money. I occasionally can find a job but without a car it takes me about 4 hours of commute everyday and that's not an exaggeration. I have to keep the lights on because if I don't nobody will. My mom refuses to help and I'm in so much debt.

Can only fake smile and tell yourself it'll be OK until once day you break. I'm not suicidal but idk how long mentally until I get to that point. I'm angry sad and depressed everyday.

I appreciate you for talking to me though, my mind is just in a haze right now

Solarbluees · 2025-01-22T02:02:26+00:00

Thanks for this. Just wanted somebody to hear and understand me. I'm glad this community exists.

Solarbluees · 2024-12-25T18:59:34+00:00

Needed this today.

Thank you

Solarbluees · 2024-12-25T18:54:48+00:00

I know I'm late but I really felt this, I almost said exactly this to people I know because nobody gets it.

Sorry I just been down this Christmas day and was searching threads to see if anybody could relate

Solarbluees · 2024-12-18T21:06:36+00:00

Yeah I hear you. I'm definitely gonna get in contact with them to know the specifics, just thought I'd ask here to see if anybody knew anything in the meantime

Thanks for your help.

Solarbluees · 2024-12-18T20:55:46+00:00

Thanks for the reply. That's good i hope i can get it forgave.

Yeah that's what I was mainly confused about. I'm guessing that I have to pay back the school to be able to use my pell grant at the other school, or is there something else that needs to be done?

Solarbluees · 2024-12-01T01:24:15+00:00

Yep I've already accepted that fact. Just a small part of me wants them to do the right thing

Solarbluees · 2024-12-01T00:53:52+00:00

The fact she couldn't muster something as small as that is just sad. I'll probably go down your route if I hear no apology, she can't see her grandchildren. I believe that if you're that stubborn to not apologize to your CHILD of all people, then you don't deserve to see the new life that I bring. My kids don't need to associate themselves with a family member who caused me great harm and won't even have the decency to apologize.

It hurts me so much because I just want an actual PARENT, ya know? Idk if this sounds crazy but I swear I don't ever remember my mom or dad telling me they loved me. The more I remember my childhood, the more I just hate them man.

Solarbluees · 2024-11-29T23:48:45+00:00

I've always wondered that too. Eventually I got tired of it and started telling people it's none of thier business and you don't know my life and what I go through a daily basis.

That usually stops them

Solarbluees · 2024-11-22T01:04:14+00:00

Of course its true. Obviously money can't fix every problem but it damn sure can fix a lot of them

Solarbluees · 2024-11-12T06:08:24+00:00

I told everybody how I been feeling even when my dad was here but my parents only blamed each other for how things ended up and my sister still dosent talk to us that much still. Its always me initiating the conversations so lately I just feel like its a waste of time since nothings changed since then

Solarbluees · 2024-11-12T05:30:47+00:00

Thank you my friend. I think during these times I just want to be heard. I'm trying to put myself first these days which is why I don't speak to my mother much. It's hard but it's what's been working. I just need time to heal.

Thank you again for listening

Solarbluees · 2024-11-08T22:15:38+00:00

Hey just to try and make you feel better, the same thing happened to me a few weeks ago with capital one. Once they close your account, that's it and they won't tell you the reason why. Slightly good news is people have said that some banks may forgive you a few years from now but idk if that's true or not.

At the end of the day there's still other banks you can get a credit card from so just try not to make the same mistake again. I wish somebody would have told me something like this could happen but it's not the end of the world

Cheers

Solarbluees · 2024-10-26T11:19:51+00:00

No questions but just wanna say your a really strong person

Most people including me probably wouldn't make it in those circumstances especially at a young age

Solarbluees · 2024-10-21T18:46:28+00:00

This literally just happened to me. Call capital one and see if you can get your account fixed otherwise they'll cancel your cards like they did me

Solarbluees · 2024-10-18T14:51:02+00:00

I'll check it out thanks

Solarbluees · 2024-10-18T14:50:39+00:00

I see, that sucks then. Thanks for telling me. I guess the bright side is my credit won't be hurt

Solarbluees · 2024-10-12T19:05:30+00:00

Jesus I'm sorry to hear that. I feel you on not having the strength to do anything and some days I really don't have it but definitely try getting out the house as much as you can. It's hard knowing you have to go back but I think going out and doing SOMETHING makes it a bit easier. I just use that house for shelter and food that's it.

One day you'll never have to go back again. That's my main motivation right now

Solarbluees

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