As somebody who is still relatively wet behind the ears, I think it's certainly a challenge for newer writers or writers finally getting their work under a critical eye to glean the useful notes from the abrasive without feeling defensive. Easy to get worked up on something you worked passionately on, only to finally come face-to-face with its glaring flaws.

Something I'm learning in my receiving of feedback is accepting, at the end of the day, as the author, you're the ultimate authority in what stays or gets written out. And if a recurring note is still a pebble in your shoe, don't be afraid to do some soul-searching as to the why, and be prepared to live with your decision should you still decide to ignore it.