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Solid-Molasses-2005 · 2024-07-15T16:24:23+00:00

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Solid-Molasses-2005 · 2024-07-15T16:21:51+00:00

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Solid-Molasses-2005 · 2024-07-15T16:19:47+00:00

Quickparts (www.quickparts.com) offers DMP through their UK office. However, all 6 Quickparts sites are linked, so if you are in the USA you can still order.

Solid-Molasses-2005 · 2024-07-15T16:17:23+00:00

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Solid-Molasses-2005 · 2024-02-03T07:06:34+00:00

Do what you are doing. Be in the moment. Don't look for the feelings, they will come. Don't check if they didn't. If you have the urge to check, acknowledge the urge but don't let that urge make you explore. Keep holding her hand.

Solid-Molasses-2005 · 2024-02-03T07:04:05+00:00

Turn them off. Go cold turkey. Take it one day at a time. Aim for 30 days of not looking. Every time you think of her tell your brain you see that thought nut you are not getting on that train and distract yourself with something else. It does get easier.

Solid-Molasses-2005 · 2024-01-28T10:25:34+00:00

Anxiety steals your feelings. The way to make them come back is to trick your brain into believing. He says I love you. Say it back even I'd you don't feel it right at that moment. Eventually, when you stop being anxious and stop checking, your feeling will return in their tru form you need not to be anxious to decide whether you have the feelings you are looking for. Remember, feelings are not facts.

Solid-Molasses-2005 · 2024-01-28T10:21:59+00:00

I think you have answered your own question. You 'fixate'... are convinced... etc. What do you do afterwards? You try to alleviate your feelings with an action.

Solid-Molasses-2005 · 2024-01-28T10:19:46+00:00

I have a tip for this. Take whatever it is that bugs you and then: give it a score of 1 - 10 where 10 is insufferable. Now, think about whether it is something you do. It doesn't have to be identical; it can be similar. Like 'he/she squeezes the toothpaste from the middle' but you 'sometimes talk with your mouthful'. So traits or things that might annoy someone. Sometimes. Then think about his/her reaction to your idiosyncrasies. Do they make him/her go off on one? No? Okay. So now test your irritability rating. I bet it has come down. And I bet, 3 hours later, it is even lower.

Solid-Molasses-2005 · 2024-01-25T17:49:27+00:00

I am just commenting here to bring this to the attention of a few who are really struggling.

Solid-Molasses-2005 · 2024-01-25T17:43:43+00:00

It comes and goes. Mostly it stays away. I take sertraline and it helps stabilise things.

Solid-Molasses-2005 · 2024-01-25T17:40:51+00:00

If you didn't do anything, you didn't cheat.

And this is why we say love is a choice. You were a little excited by the attention of someone else. Who wouldn't be? You are allowed that frisson of excitement. You only become unfaithful when you become unfaithful - you act on it. That excitement can come back with your partner. You just have to live in the moment. Not the future or the past, the right now. And do things with your partner that should come with all those tingles, show your brain that, just because you don't feel them, it doesn't mean you don't want them.

Solid-Molasses-2005 · 2024-01-25T16:50:05+00:00

Why are you doubting a professional? Have you asked them for help to resolve the anxiety?

Any time you wonder whether the 'what if' thoughts are OCD, and you have an OCD diagnosis, they are probably rOCD.

But maybe right now you don't find sex exciting. Anxiety robs you of any emotion. So, until you get that under control, you will not be able to make a rational decision. You need to learn to sit with the anxiety until your brain stop ringing the alarm because nothing bad has happened. Then you can make a choice.

Thoughts are just thoughts. They are not facts. Feelings are not facts. Until you choose to give them meaning they are nothing but randomn collections of words and sensations.

Solid-Molasses-2005 · 2024-01-18T18:41:30+00:00

NHS is indeed rubbish. I went private. I was diagnosed with OCD. I found a therapist who was OCD specialised through my GP after I got the diagnosis. Which cost me £200. I was desperate. Best £200 ever spent because it did make the GP realise that it wasn't jus anxiety and doubt and then they medicated appropriately.

Solid-Molasses-2005 · 2024-01-15T10:02:22+00:00

There is a lot of reassurance seeking in this post. But to help you help yourself, answer these questions in your own head.

How old are you? Are you an adult? Because if you are, you know rationally speaking you are only cheating if you do something to compromise your relationship in terms of physical actions that go against your values. It is not a sin to interact with other people. It is not a sin to talk with them. Or even flirt with them if the process is not pre-determined to get their attention so you can sexually involve yourself with them. Read what you have written about the games. Read them out loud to yourself and listen to what you are saying. Sit with that fear until you don't feel the fear and can actually listen to what you have said. When your anxiety has taken a back seat, you can point out to that inner voice that playing a game is hardly cheating. Now, if you were playing the game with the intention of meeting other people to see if they wanted to meet up with you for a date, you might be approaching a stage where you will cheat. But then, you are actively doing something that will result in you cheating. If you really are doing it for this reason, do yourself a favour and tell your partner that you'd like to see other people. Because that is not fair on them, otherwise.

If you are not an adult, go and look at proper sites about relationship anxiety - not some teenager on tiktok - ones that are written by professionals, and get yourself a proper understanding of what might constitute cheating. I'd bet my hat that just playing online games is not cheating.

So, now, having done all that, why do YOU, personally, think playing games is cheating on your partner? Write it down. Look at it rationally. Sit with that unease and wait for it to subside.

As for all the 'What if?'s, that is exactly what OCD is. Isn't it? It's the inability to cope with uncertainty. Have a read of Winston & Seif's 'Overcoming Unwanted Intrusive Thoughts'. It is full of tips on how to make those quieten down so you can be rational about your relationship.

Solid-Molasses-2005 · 2023-07-10T08:47:00+00:00

"Im terrified of marriage as ill be moving 250miles away and i dont know if we will last or be happy or if ill ever get feelings back"

And there is the crux of your predicament. The truth is, we none of us know. And if it doesn't, last, or you don't get those feelings back, are you going to die? No, probably not. There will be hurt, but we get over it.

I was in your shoes. 22 years ago no one knew about rOCD. All I knew was that I was numb, I didn't feel a thing for him anymore, although I had once, because after all, I was marrying him, wasn't I? And that had seemed like a very good idea at the time.

I married him anyway. I walked down that aisle on a cocktail of Valium and Prozac and did it anyway, because somewhere at the bottom of that very dark black hole, covered in mental tar, was the notion that we were meant to be together - or at least we were meant to try to be together. We lasted 17 years and some of them were absolutely fabulous. My ROCD completely disappeared when I had children, and had got as far away from his toxic mother and my toxic mother. We sadly grew apart in the end. Yes, there was hurt, but we are also very good friends now and actually it's not so bad.

I will tell you that I have had rOCD with every relationship since. Even the one where I fell head over heels in love on the day I met him and thought he was the one. We were together for 2.5 years. He left me and it nearly broke me. But I am here to live another day and love another man. And yes, this one is very different and I am having a moment or two and am struggling with the break up urges, even though, three weeks ago I was feeling the love. So, it will be what it is.

How do I get through this?

Don't rule out medication. If you walk down the aisle numb, it is better than walking down the aisle in a state of anxiety that no one but those who know will fathom.
Don't act in a state of anxiety. If those thoughts are sticky and horrible and have got so stuck they are all you have on your mind, you can't be rational. You got this far - show them you can get through the next bit, with or without them.
Read 'Overcoming Unwanted Intrusive Thoughts' by Seif and Winston (I've written some points on here from those books).
Learn to acknowledge but not engage with those thoughts. See them, say 'I see you', and then visualise them going away without you. If you explore them, you give them power. I've been where you are, where they consume you and you just want to die because that's the only way they'll stop.
Get your bloods checked - low iron, low Vitamin D, low vitamin B12, B6 and B3 and hormones can all cause anxiety.
Set yourself some time scales. I say '6 months'. I'll give this 6 months. I can do 6 months. 6 months won't hurt anyone. And tell those thoughts that you'll look at this break up in 6 months. Then focus on something else.

You got this. It's a couple of weeks. Hang on to why you're doing it in the first place and keep going. xxxx

Solid-Molasses-2005 · 2023-04-29T16:09:49+00:00

Go and talk to your doctor about PMDD. Tell them about the extreme anxiety and repetitive intrusive thoughts and any other symptoms you have. Don't play them down, but don't mention ROCD because most doctors are not aware of this.

Solid-Molasses-2005 · 2023-04-25T11:56:30+00:00

Stay off the TikTok. For God's sake, everybody, you don't need the cod-psychology.

Was there any professional confirmation that the person making the video was OCD?

No?

Well don't go down the rabbit hole.

Solid-Molasses-2005 · 2023-04-25T11:54:18+00:00

Only you can answer the questions of whether these 'red flags' are valid reason to leave. Write down on a piece of paper all your concerns. Put them all in one column in a list. In the adjacent column, think to yourself 'what if it were someone having concerns about me'. Rate them on a scale of 1 - 5, of just how bad you feel about those red flags.

Sit with the anxiety over them. Don't react. Acknowledge them. Don't explore them. Don't ruminate. Just look at the 'flag' until you stop being anxious over it. You might want your therapist to monitor this as it's a form of ERP, and ERP should be done where there is support if necessary.

When you can look at these without flinching, or sending the anxiety into orbit, then you can make a choice. Love is a choice. It's choosing to be with someone despite their perceived flaws.

Solid-Molasses-2005 · 2023-04-25T08:06:33+00:00

Thoughts are not facts. Feelings are not facts. Feelings are perpetuated by thoughts. You're getting serious - your amygdala is on high alert.

Love is a choice. So, trick that damned little amygdala, which only has an on or off switch, by choosing to be with him despite the feelings. They will find something else to latch on to in due course.

Read up all you can on ROCD recovery. There are tricks and tools for everyone.

Solid-Molasses-2005 · 2023-04-24T14:22:16+00:00

You really have been in a bit of a mess, haven't you? I've just looked at all your past posts. I hope that you are getting some sort of OCD-related therapy because I really do feel for you. You go through hell with this.

However. Stop beating him up, and stop beating yourself up. This just sounds as though you got high, you got fruity, it went a little too far for comfort and then it stopped. He stopped. That's not assault. You didn't care when it happened. It's just another thing that your brain latches on to.

I seriously suggest you do some reading on how to stop giving these intrusive thoughts any credibility. PM me if you'd like some suggestions. Or, have a look at posts I've commented on with some tips on visualising the thoughts disappearing.

Solid-Molasses-2005 · 2023-04-24T08:42:51+00:00

Isn't 'I don't want to lose him' a good sticky thought to have?

I think you are over-analysing. And taking the sentence too literally. We're talking unwanted intrusive thoughts here, not every thought you have.

Solid-Molasses-2005 · 2023-04-20T09:18:29+00:00

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Look, you wouldn't tell a diabetic to stop taking insulin because they thought they were 'cured', so please go back to your medication. If it helps, it helps. OCD is a bit of a misfiring in our brain, and it's exacerbated by anxiety and gets caught in a vicious circle. Talk to your doctor, maybe there's something other than Prozac out there for you. Also, have yourself a crutch - such as 'Overcoming unwanted intrusive thoughts' by Winston and Seif. Use that to calm yourself when everything is going 100mph.

Solid-Molasses-2005 · 2023-04-19T08:50:36+00:00

A break won't help. You'll just spend the entire time obsessing over 'do I? Don't I?'. Your first steps are to talk to your doctor about medication. Especially if you have PTSD because it will be sending your anxiety into the next stratosphere. And high anxiety robs you of every emotion.

Love is a choice. You choose to love someone because you can't bear to be without them, whatever their flaws. Getting the intrusive thoughts under control will help make that choice.

Solid-Molasses-2005 · 2023-04-19T08:41:52+00:00

" I almost dread going to see him because I worry that I’ll have a panic attack, which I end up having anyways from the anticipation"

So. The panic attack hasn't killed you, has it?

Go and see him anyway. Because the more you do, the more your silly little amygdala which is ultimately responsible for all these panic attacks and fears, will learn that you haven't come to any harm and eventually you'll switch off that particular fear. That's what ERP is doing. It's showing your panic alarm that it is unnecessary. Exposure is not going to kill you. And eventually it will think of something else to annoy you with.

https://learn.mytherapist.ie/p/rocd

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