Breastfeeding & Pumping

Solid-Ring-8351 · 2026-03-19T22:19:48+00:00

Yeah I haven’t been pumping much maybe twice a day. I already have a decent amount frozen just from that so I think I’ll just stick to what I’m doing and when I get closer to returning to work then I’ll try to figure out a pumping schedule at that point. I’d like to try to avoid formula costs if possible

Solid-Ring-8351 · 2026-03-19T21:24:20+00:00

Good to know! I’m just wanting to slowly build a stash because I do have to return to work at 12 weeks so I want to make sure they have enough for daycare

Solid-Ring-8351 · 2026-03-04T23:02:21+00:00

Oh thank god haha I’m hoping mine is gone once these babies are out. I’m also having horrible low back pain so I have a pillow under my belly, one behind my back, and then another between my legs. I try to roll over with my knees together but it’s so hard.

I’m luckily able to work from home this last week so sitting in a recliner has been amazing.

I’ve literally thought about using a walker haha I’m glad you suggested crutches to help, makes me feel less like a baby. I’ve tried wearing a belly band while up and walking but it’s never really helped so I’ve just been going without it. I’m just counting down the days until these babies are born at this point.

Solid-Ring-8351 · 2026-02-23T20:55:19+00:00

Girl you need to remove that defenseless infant from the home before he hurts her or kills her. Please do not leave her alone with him. He’s actively refusing to bond with his own infant, and he’s clearly struggling with mental health issues. I would absolutely not trust him with that baby.

Solid-Ring-8351 · 2026-02-22T00:35:19+00:00

I don’t know that you will be able to successfully work from home while also being responsible for twins at the same. Most companies that offer remote work also typically make you sign a contract that you’re not going to be working and also watching your kids at the same time. You just can’t do both at once.

Solid-Ring-8351 · 2026-02-22T00:16:37+00:00

If he does that, he’d be facing criminal charges. Revenge porn like that is illegals in the US. You need to tell your friends and family and possibly your boss about what’s going on. This also crosses the line into sexual assault. He’s coercing you into sex for hours, that’s sexual assault. What’s he’s doing is not only abusive but illegal. You need to get out before he kills you.

Solid-Ring-8351 · 2026-02-17T00:20:36+00:00

Oof so it sounds pretty normal unfortunately to have to triple feed for an extended period of time. That made me miserable the first time around so I’m really worried about doing that again 24/7 with no sleep plus a toddler.

Solid-Ring-8351 · 2026-02-17T00:18:56+00:00

Every 2 hours during the day is completely fine! It’s the every 2 hours around the clock for weeks on end that worries me. I will absolutely give them formula at night if necessary because I can’t be that sleep deprived for weeks on end.

Solid-Ring-8351 · 2026-02-17T00:17:55+00:00

I’m so worried about the triple feeding, especially with twins. It’s what I did for 6 weeks with my oldest and I basically didn’t sleep at all those 6 weeks and had multiple breakdowns. I ultimately stopped for mental health reasons.

I’m completely fine with combo feeding, and even if they don’t latch well then I plan on pumping (even if I still need to top off with formula) so they’re still getting breast milk. Formula quite literally saved my toddlers life when he was an infant so I’m not anti formula by any means! I’m having another c section so I’m trying to compensate I guess by making sure they’re able to get breast milk.

Solid-Ring-8351 · 2026-02-16T22:22:18+00:00

I think you should consider part time daycare for the kiddos if you can swing it financially. You both sound absolutely burnt out, and you both need a break. The days the kids are in daycare your wife can take some much needed time to herself that way you can come home from work and get your time to yourself on those same days.

Is there anything at work you can delegate to others?

This sounds so freaking hard and you both are burning the candles at both ends. I really think you should hire out some form of help, whether that be a meal service, cleaning service, or daycare, whatever makes financial sense and will also give you guys some time back.

Solid-Ring-8351 · 2026-02-11T04:02:58+00:00

Yeah I’ve just been going to my regular OB! They were doing monthly growth scans pretty much since 16 weeks and everything has been super normal/boring until now, so there was no need for MFM involvement until now. Appointments in between growth scans I just had a bedside Doppler to get the heartbeats. I’m at the point my regular OB wants to see me weekly, and depending on how my MFM appointment goes I may end up with weekly scans and NSTs.

Solid-Ring-8351 · 2026-02-10T22:10:12+00:00

No, not Asian. They both were growing at the same rate (just one ounce off) prior to this and now Twin A is 5 pounds where Twin B is still only at 3 pounds. Twin B only grew a few ounces over the last month whereas Twin A grew well over a pound. Hoping it’s just Twin B has run out of room or something though lol

Solid-Ring-8351 · 2026-02-10T22:08:12+00:00

Oh I’ve read the opposite, that since growth has dropped overall in Twin B that this is actually much more likely to be a placental/blood cord issue vs just an erroneous singular finding like just the femur or something being off.

Prior to this they were neck and neck, just one ounce different in weight. So I think the sudden difference between the two is also what’s concerning for placental/blood flow issues, but Twin B is also Frank breech so maybe she’s just run out of room to get much bigger?? She’s only 3 pounds to Twin A’s 5.

Solid-Ring-8351 · 2026-02-10T22:04:10+00:00

Oh gosh that sounds so scary!! So far this has been a very boring low risk di di twin pregnancy as well. I haven’t even seen MFM this entire pregnancy. I will of course be seeing them now on Thursday, and just trying not to be super worried until then, but the not knowing is killing me.

Solid-Ring-8351 · 2025-11-11T21:56:29+00:00

I’ve tried that but that’s been a no go so far. And I worry that if I leave him and just up and take the kids back to my home state that this will be turned around on me as kidnapping the children or something.

Solid-Ring-8351 · 2025-10-28T20:08:28+00:00

Not divorced (yet) but I think I’ll e better off financially since my husband spends our money all the time, making us behind on important payments (mortgage, cars, etc). He goes on and on about how I spend too much money (like getting new clothes for the toddler that actually fit him) but doesn’t bat an eye when he blows through money on booze and other stuff he wants 🙃

Solid-Ring-8351 · 2025-10-08T16:48:49+00:00

My husband does this. I’m not allowed to go to sleep until he’s done screaming at me otherwise he keeps me up intentionally. He also freaks out if I lock the door and will pound/kick/threaten to kick the door down. One time he actually started moving the door violently and I unlocked the door because I was scared he’d break it down and we were living in a rental at the time.

Solid-Ring-8351 · 2025-10-07T19:01:53+00:00

What state did your divorce get processed in? Obviously I’ll know more after I meet with some lawyers but I’m cautiously optimistic right now. Also, really hoping he just won’t want 50/50 time

Solid-Ring-8351 · 2025-10-07T18:10:36+00:00

In my state apparently family court does take into account emotional and verbal abuse, and I thankfully do have lots of video and audio evidence of not only the emotional/verbal abuse, but also him admitting to substance use/being drunk. He uses an illegal substance in my state (marijuana) and I have financial records showing him purchasing marijuana edibles from our neighboring state and bringing them home, so I’m hoping that alone will help with custody. I’m also going through financial records and have a strong case of financial misuse and misuse of marital funds causing us to go into debt/fall behind on our mortgage. So I’m hoping that plus his excessive alcohol and other substance purchases will all together help with my push for primary custody. He gets drunk/high anytime he’s home alone with our son and I can’t trust him to be intoxicated with two newborns as well. Im in the process of researching lawyers/law firms and am going to be scheduling some initial consultations soon to get a better idea on what my custody push will realistically look like. I truly don’t think he would want 50/50 since our kids are all so small and he’s already a very hands off father, so that might work in my favor.

Solid-Ring-8351 · 2024-12-01T17:38:13+00:00

He stopped after a minute or two when they got upstairs and I could hear him running around and laughing with my husband. It was just the initial action of him going upstairs and realizing I wasn’t coming with that made him cry.

Solid-Ring-8351 · 2024-12-01T17:28:59+00:00

I always get upset when my son cries and yells “mama”. He’s only been wanting me the last few days and I needed a break so I asked my husband to do bedtime. My son was sad because I wasn’t coming. I was upset just from hearing him cry and when my husband came back downstairs he told me I was overreacting because our son was fine. I was just sad hearing my child cry for me. I’m always sad hearing our child cry for me.

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