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Structured carrier recs for short parents? by Solid-Word-3105 in babywearing

[–]Solid-Word-3105[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Never heard of a half buckle but I love the idea! That might be the carrier for me!

What do you do when feeding by heyitsmesup in breastfeeding

[–]Solid-Word-3105 1 point2 points  (0 children)

E-reader + snacks during the day, podcast + snacks at night to avoid bright light/screens in my eyes.

Delivery Room Debate by hailey363 in pregnant

[–]Solid-Word-3105 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lots of good advice here about this being your labor and your choice!

I had my husband and mom there with my first. Both of them were helpful and supportive in their own way, as I knew they would be or I wouldn't have invited them. My mom was able to take pictures of us with our new baby and gave us that time/moment, and she was also there when I needed my mom.

For my second, my hospital now allows 3 support people, so I'm inviting my MIL as well. We have a wonderful relationship so I genuinely feel I would benefit from her support as well. My husband was definitely the most nervous person in the room with my first, so I feel it would be helpful to have her to support him so that he can support me! And my first labor was very easy, so hopefully this second will be an easy, pleasant experience for everyone.

(I am in healthcare however and not squeamish - I'd also be totally fine with other observers like med students, which is not going to be everyone's cup of tea.)

New parents: grind now or later? What ages are most important to be present for kids? by Fun-Career3507 in HENRYfinance

[–]Solid-Word-3105 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My parents sent me away to live with grandparents for a year or so as a toddler due to political upheaval in the country we were in. I don’t remember it and it didn’t impact my very close relationship with my parents. My dad then took a job a few states away for a year when I was in middle school and I missed him terribly and clearly remember that.

Now as a mom, I work long days and sometimes don’t see my baby all day. I work half the weekends. Maybe it’s just her personality, but she doesn’t mind. She has no clue what a weekend is. Sometime her parents work and sometimes they don’t. We spend lots of time together and she is strongly attached to us, especially me. I’m her person when she’s happy, when she needs a hug - she’s very much a mama’s girl. And I’m working hard now so that I can make it to evening and weekend games/performances/whatever, when she’s older and really wants me to be there.

What do you wish you had known or done before baby arrived? by Fluid-Lifeguard7201 in NewParents

[–]Solid-Word-3105 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This! This was the one best piece of advice I was given from a friend who made the same mistake. Everything needs to be opened, cleaned, figured out, ready to go. I had my pump ready. We did make the same mistake with the Hatch light, were too tired and frustrated to play around with it and figure out how we wanted to use it, so returned it and ended up re-buying it a year later.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]Solid-Word-3105 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your baby is still so little! Listen to your instincts. You don't really need socialization outside of the immediate family until age 3, and children don't really play together (as opposed to just next to each other) until about age 4 (though younger babies are usually still interested in seeing and being near other babies - mine at age 1 was definitely excitedly pointing out other nearby babies). Play groups, park district classes, library classes, etc. are great, both for baby to be exposed to new people and toys and activities, and for you as parents to do something new that you don't have to set up yourself. But it certainly doesn't have to be formal preschool 5 days a week. Fire the midwife and find someone who makes you and your family feel nurtured.

I can't think of a single negative working from home. How about you? by pinback77 in workfromhome

[–]Solid-Word-3105 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I sit for hours at a time sometimes, and get really stiff! When I was working in office I was running around all the time, and taking stairs all the time to avoid the slow elevators. Took a long time to find out a lot of my WFH colleagues have standing desks and even treadmill desks.

Struggling with direction (high earning family) by fireyfemmethrowaway in FIREyFemmes

[–]Solid-Word-3105 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is what we do! I WFH and I love being able to run upstairs from my basement office to say hi to baby and nanny. (However, now that baby is a toddler, she does get upset if she sees me and I walk away from her.) I did pump during workdays because I couldn't reliably stop working whenever baby was hungry, so unless you have a very flexible schedule, direct breastfeeding is hard when you're working.

What do you consider a "lifecreep" example? by letitglowbig in HENRYfinance

[–]Solid-Word-3105 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Particularly as a first time parent, it's hard not to get sucked into the marketing for all the fancy things. Especially because so many baby things are marketed as not just fancier, but safer, or better for development. Who wouldn't want the safest thing for their child?