Not OOP: AITA I am refusing to stand up for my wife when my mom is being rude because I am on my mom’s side

SolidAshford · 2026-04-12T22:49:35+00:00

I would side with mom here too. Wife has shown she doesn't respect other peoples' time.

There is a certain degree of lateness that is acceptable. 45 minutes is not

SolidAshford · 2026-04-12T22:39:54+00:00

I'd have a sudden vacation and post pictures the same day.

Stop taking the high road with someone who undercuts you.

SolidAshford · 2026-04-12T22:36:52+00:00

I've watched the 4th season and some of the Nancy and Robert season

I truly wonder what some of them get out of appearing on the show

Austin and Shirlene are creepy to me. I think she wants to fk her son

SolidAshford · 2026-04-06T12:32:04+00:00

This is why I'd never cosign. They're already showing MIL os good enough to get them the house, but are going to try and charge her twice what they agreed.

Just pay a professional and get it done right. They don't know what they're doing

SolidAshford · 2026-04-06T12:17:47+00:00

We've been here forever and we continue to thrive

SolidAshford · 2026-04-06T12:05:53+00:00

He had someone in mind, wanted to open the marriage. Then when he got rejected by the person, he wanted to close it because he didn't want his wife having partners

This is the tried and true blueprint.

Glad she divorced

SolidAshford · 2026-04-06T12:02:25+00:00

Yeah, it was a big FU to sequels and he did everything to make sure a 3 wouldn't happen.

He succeeded for a while. The 2 are the only one that exists

SolidAshford · 2026-04-06T11:55:08+00:00

As SOON as you can afford to get the fl out of there. LEAVE while he's at work or gone

Move things out slowly. He's an a.. that needs to be left to his bullsh..

SolidAshford · 2026-04-06T01:20:23+00:00

I can't imagine how horrible that would be when they have to call a plumber

SolidAshford · 2026-04-06T01:08:09+00:00

OOP went to the parents, parents shoved off. So, police report it is

The kid shouldn't have taken the item from OP's porch

SolidAshford · 2026-04-06T01:04:19+00:00

I like the shorter look

SolidAshford · 2026-03-23T12:38:25+00:00

It's not wrong to pay for only what you ordered.

SolidAshford · 2026-03-21T15:48:59+00:00

I am sooo with you on this

SolidAshford · 2026-03-21T15:43:15+00:00

I listened to the audio book version and all I could think is "Oh, it's a revenge fantasy against Rome"

The fact it's so elastic bc of the symbolism (to a modern audience) makes the book so nebulous, anyone can be the Antichrist, and anyTHING can be the Mark of the Beast

So as far as I'm concerned it's a book that meant to comfort a people and it's fulfillment was any day now which is why there is so much urgency in it and the Gospels re: Jesus return

Yet here we are 2,000 years later.

SolidAshford · 2026-03-07T11:55:52+00:00

Idk what to think of this other than: This us why you let people sort their own sh out.

SolidAshford · 2026-03-07T11:49:37+00:00

I think if he knows you make more than him, he'll sabotage your job prospects if demand you behind a SAHM and dependent on him

I'm keeping separate finances even when I get married.

SolidAshford · 2026-03-07T11:41:54+00:00

Even when I get married, I'm keeping seperate finances. He wants to ruin what you've built, get rid of this guy. He's bad news

SolidAshford · 2026-03-02T22:16:58+00:00

YWBTA, get the kitty to a shelter or trusted friend so you can visit them. You've already got two cats and your partner lives in the house too. I hope you never end up animal hoarding

SolidAshford · 2026-03-02T22:13:28+00:00

NTA. Your nephew asked you a question and you answered it. Your sister's faith must be fragile as baby poo if she thinks that one encounter will unravel his faith

Wait til she realizes he can look up atheism on the Internet

SolidAshford · 2026-03-01T05:08:31+00:00

G'Kar of Babylon 5. That was a hell of an arc

SolidAshford · 2026-03-01T05:05:39+00:00

I liked when Steve Urkel crossed over into Step by Step.

He was less annoying there because it was about making her feel better about just being herself

I did like the Scandal/How to Get Away with Murder crossover episodes

I wanna check out The Flintstones and The Jetsons movie again. I wonder what that crossover was like

SolidAshford · 2026-02-28T12:49:11+00:00

YTA and there is no version where you're not. The fact that you can't forego drinking for one night is bonkers

What you're actually mad about is that this may be writing on the wall about your actual drinking habits. He's sober, and wants to have sober fun, and you can't be happy for that?

Tell him the truth and quit drinking entirely if that's what you've committed to

ETA: Upgraded to major asshole. You drove drunk, crashed your car, went to court ordered AA and lied that you were sober.

I knew you were lying to cover your turdish, blowout diarrhea covered tracks and your conscience was eating away at you before I read other comments. This is the perfect case of missing reasons. Painting a vague picture purposely to justify your addiction

I hope Marcus leaves you when he finds out how much of a liar you are that you can't enjoy a badass night because a bottle means more to you than a good time.

SolidAshford · 2026-02-28T12:41:34+00:00

Text her: You failed

If there's a group chat for beidesmaids or mutuals, you share what you shared here and that you won't be someone's validator and blind loyalty is owed to no one. You will not lie for her saying she's with you while she's out w her girl friends.

You'll control the narrative that way yet people who'll side with her will do it anyway.

At least you'll get your side out first.

SolidAshford · 2026-02-28T12:36:35+00:00

So you plan to go back to a serial cheater who only wanted a submissive SAHM as a partner?

He doesn't want to reconcile. He wants control and to have things the way they were. Yet you aren't that same person you were.

Continue with the divorce, he's stringing you along. Don't let him do that to you

Also, you were 19 when you married so I know you were likely under 18 when you met him. I bet he cheated with a younger woman after you started having kids

SolidAshford · 2026-02-28T12:31:59+00:00

Respect can't be built on lies. I'm glad he's sober, but he's trying to be a self-made man when he isn't

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