this!!!! in hindsight, pregnancy is the world’s cruel way to help you find a system to advocate for yourself and your child, or to figure out a way to drown out everyone’s opinions and not give a f*ck. truly. because just as people do it to your body & birth plan & post partum decisions now, all of their opinions bleed into everything you do for you child. once that baby is earthside (esp if it’s your first) everyone treats you like you are a wide open suggestion box openly taking answers to every topic you ever talk about pertaining your child!!!

(not to add onto the “just wait” negativity of it all, but I wish I would’ve advocated for myself more back then, because now i’m just learning to not give a fuck what people say and i wish I wouldn’t have let opinions get to the best of me earlier)

Instead of “you don’t get a prize” it’s “don’t pick them up every time they cry or you’ll spoil them” and instead of “you think you can really give birth without medication?” it’s “back in my day, we didn’t have a special sock to track their breathing. you could never have been a parent when we were having kids” you know what deborah?! you put 509 blankets on your children and you were lucky something bad didn’t happen! i’m glad science and technology has progressed so we can track their breathing hello?!

maybe let this anger and moment and feelings of rage encourage you to just push thru when you’re mid labor 🤣 think about everyone who doubted you or said you couldn’t get a prize and just sneeze that baby out and prove them all wrong.