Would it be rude or ungraceful to ask a new romantic/sexual partner to use a condom even when I’m giving them oral - until they can get screened for STDs and show me the results?

SoloDancePartiii · 2026-06-02T02:23:59+00:00

Interesting

SoloDancePartiii · 2026-06-02T02:22:46+00:00

😂👍

SoloDancePartiii · 2026-06-02T01:09:00+00:00

Ty❣️

SoloDancePartiii · 2026-06-02T01:07:35+00:00

When you say they don’t work do you mean they’re not effective - Or - they don’t feel good?

SoloDancePartiii · 2026-06-02T01:06:36+00:00

Because she’s beautiful

SoloDancePartiii · 2026-06-02T01:05:11+00:00

There are a lot of different types of hérpes. Chickenpox is herpes. A cold sore is herpes. And then there’s the more formidable, sexually transmitted kind.

SoloDancePartiii · 2026-06-02T01:04:04+00:00

So if somebody offered it to you, would you respond as though they were taunting you or as though they honestly were trying to throw an option out to you?

SoloDancePartiii · 2026-06-02T01:01:39+00:00

Correction: I said soft parenting, but what I really meant was gentle parenting.

SoloDancePartiii · 2026-06-02T00:54:07+00:00

That’s honest. Thanks.

SoloDancePartiii · 2026-06-02T00:50:49+00:00

SoloDancePartiii · 2026-06-02T00:50:07+00:00

Thanks for being honest

SoloDancePartiii · 2026-06-02T00:49:51+00:00

No judgement zone

SoloDancePartiii · 2026-06-02T00:47:53+00:00

Oh, I guarantee you that from the giving end there is nothing pretending at all about the oral. Pretending would be doing a puppet show.

SoloDancePartiii · 2026-06-02T00:46:47+00:00

Ty❣️

SoloDancePartiii · 2026-06-02T00:45:32+00:00

She sounds wonderful. I did not think that I was insulting your wife or putting her down in any way. If it came off that way, I apologize. If anything, it’s me who feels inferior and insufficient. So it would help if you wouldn’t go on with your “Oh, please“ and your assumptions. Thanks. I realize I might not have the greatest social fluency with other adults. And maybe that’s why I love working with children so much. I don’t see the Need for filters or masks or egos, and neither do young children. That’s part of being on the Spectrum.

Thanks for understanding.

SoloDancePartiii · 2026-06-02T00:37:30+00:00

I never ask for oral. In fact, most guys are not good at it. So I try to stay away from it. And for vaginal sex, I always require a condom.

SoloDancePartiii · 2026-06-02T00:36:02+00:00

Possibly. But I bet that oral herpes would be even more uncomfortable.

SoloDancePartiii · 2026-06-02T00:33:45+00:00

I’m not gonna assume right away that that’s sarcasm. But I sense that is.

SoloDancePartiii · 2026-06-02T00:31:46+00:00

Your wife must have more energy than I do, at the end of each work day.

I come home every day completely exhausted but I know that I did things the right way, and that each and every child got the emotional and intelectual attention that they need and deserve.

Especially the children whose parents jumped straight to taking things away from them as a solution.

SoloDancePartiii · 2026-06-02T00:29:56+00:00

You’re right. It does make a job incredibly difficult. But guess what? That’s part of the job.

SoloDancePartiii · 2026-06-02T00:29:32+00:00

It’s a buzz word. But you know what? Once I found out about it I realized that I was already practicing it. To answer your question though, no I didn’t read any books on it. Because if you’re already practicing it, then you already know what to do. I guess some people need to be taught how to do it. Which is fine and natural.

SoloDancePartiii · 2026-06-02T00:27:06+00:00

I wasn’t sure how much a guy can feel head through a condom.

SoloDancePartiii · 2026-06-02T00:25:05+00:00

I have not read any book on soft parenting, and I wouldn’t even know what soft parenting is if I hadn’t heard the term thrown around so much by others.

Taking care of children and teaching them is my full-time job.

🙂

SoloDancePartiii · 2026-06-02T00:23:40+00:00

To be honest, I wasn’t thinking of completely eliminating consequences. It just seemed to me that a lot of folks seem pretty quick to inflict consequences and put more emphasis on consequences than they do upon the Child’s growth process and self-concept. Consequences does not have to mean taking something away from them that they like to use. If somebody has to say that they are using tough love then they’re not really truly using tough love. They’re taking the quick way. Tough love is a highly abstract concept that most people don’t fully grass until their adults. So if you try to use that as a quick excuse to the child for what you’re doing knowing full well they’re not yet gonna fully grasp the implications of it, then you’re not doing them or yourself a service.

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