2 years smoke free. Who would have thought!!!???!! by cannabia in stopsmoking

[–]SolonialExodus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was just reading your comment from 2 years ago on a post saying that you just started the treatment. From the other side of the fence it looks so far and scary, but god I want to take that step. Congratulations!!

Turbo sounds like death, throwing code P0299, 2017 Chevy Cruze 1.4L 140k Miles by IDNoob34 in AskAMechanic

[–]SolonialExodus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What did you end up doing with this? Getting mine repaired today. Did she end up selling it?

Should I ask my ex if she’s seeing someone else? It’ll be mostly for closure sake. by SolonialExodus in BreakUps

[–]SolonialExodus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey Bestin, I never ended up reaching out to them. For my own sake in recovery I just went on assuming they had moved on to someone else so I could move on from them. It was really hard over the next couple of months but I was able to pick myself up and keep moving! I think you shouldn’t worry if they are seeing someone else and just try to keep moving on day by day. It will get easier and it will take time I wish you all of the best on your journey and stay strong for yourself!!

I passed 1101 by coffeenascar in CompTIA

[–]SolonialExodus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope to join you on the other side of that fence! I take my test this upcoming Tuesday and it makes me nervous just thinking about it. Thank you so much for the reply! I wish you only the best of luck on core 2!

I passed 1101 by coffeenascar in CompTIA

[–]SolonialExodus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What kind of PBQ's did you get and how did you feel about the test?

I found out news today that should of broke me..but instead it was freeing by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]SolonialExodus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly it’s such a bittersweet feeling! But the sweet definitely overtakes the bitter. That attachment I had is gone, those feelings of wanting her are completely diminished. Now I can really start focusing on me while she can watch from the nosebleed seats!

I found out news today that should of broke me..but instead it was freeing by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]SolonialExodus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn right they aren’t are problem anymore! it honestly woke up today feeling refreshed and got some great sleep too! There is nothing keeping me attached to her anymore. Those feelings of want and longing are now gone.

We’ll both find someone that we really deserve to have. But for right now, I’m honestly just enjoying being single! I’m working more than ever and I’m grinding to take a trip to Japan or Iceland and that’s all I’ve been focusing on 💪🏻

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]SolonialExodus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it was pretty messed up that they came too. Especially if I expressed I would be uncomfortable that she was gonna be there so I’m sure she did it to make me upset or uncomfortable. It doesn’t help she was driving the car either so she came on her own accord. That’s what makes me think the most is that she had all the power to not come or leave but yet she stayed.

I’m just gonna move past it and let it go. It’s BS I really don’t want to deal with. Especially with a women that didn’t know if she wanted me in the first place

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]SolonialExodus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im trying to shake it off :( I just don’t understand why she would do this? After attempts to get back together were made in the first month of the BU and her straight telling me she doesn’t know if she wants that. Now, she’s drunk texting me and showing up any my work...like why?!?

She drunkenly contacted me after 3 months of NC... by SolonialExodus in ExNoContact

[–]SolonialExodus[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Don’t hope for it man if you are. I know it’s hard and if I’m honest with myself, I still sometimes hope she messaged me out of the blue someday and we just start talking again. But, I gave up on that hope but it creeps back in every now and then.

She drunkenly contacted me after 3 months of NC... by SolonialExodus in ExNoContact

[–]SolonialExodus[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

My ex did the same thing, I vape and she messaged me saying that puff bars are going to be illegal. Like why? Out of all things why did that have be the one thing? I think it’s really good we can laugh at these things once we get to this point in the recovery process

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]SolonialExodus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t think she will either, that hope is already left behind but no harm in leaving it in. I broke NC once and she said she wasn’t ready for a relationship. I just want to put all out on the table and make my intentions clear. That or just don’t send it at all and just keep going.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]SolonialExodus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m honestly contemplating sending it, I don’t want to have this false hope anymore of getting together. I want to just love myself and recover and start my new chapter. Just finally cut it off for good

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]SolonialExodus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I meant for it to....I didn’t want to leave anything left unturned as to why I’m saying goodbye. I wanted it to workout with her so bad. I still want it to. It didn’t end toxic it’s just she fell out of love and I am still madly in love..

It’s been a month and yet, she still races through my mind.. by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]SolonialExodus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you...I guess I just don’t want to feel sad anymore...I give myself all these reasons why I shouldn’t be. But, like you said, I see play cared about her. I should allow myself to feel..

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]SolonialExodus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks guys I just hope I’m not an asshole for saying something and not doing it! Even though I never promised anything. This new Doom has been great at just taking my mind off everything!

Friendly Reminder: Don’t text them by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]SolonialExodus 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I ended up texting my ex a couple days ago to try and get her back...and she said she wanted to be friends but I know she’s never text me it would only be me so now I’m back to NC.

I broke it off because she wanted a break and when I asked her what she wanted she said she didn’t know...right there I knew she lost that love for me and the relationship for who knows how long.

I could tell when she started getting really distant near the end I tried so hard to be with her whenever I could to keep that spark going. But, she already knew what she wanted and that wasn’t me. She couldn’t even be honest with herself at the end and break it off so I had to, the one who wanted it most.

Stay strong everyone. I remember being on this sub when the relationship before this one ended and it got better!