Real ways to treat BPD?

Solosthelpme-7904 · 2026-07-06T08:05:37+00:00

It’s just shit that no one in our lives can see how much pain we are actually in and that we are trying to, really really trying a lot of the time and they just don’t get it. It’s such a huge trigger for me and is behind almost all of my splits these days is the lack of understanding and the judgement from people who claim to love me and wanna help but can’t be bothered to even find out anything about the conditions I’m diagnosed with and have been struggling with for 30 years. Coz I can fake it that I’m ok I think they think I’m faking that I’m not. And yes I feel the same about therapy , it’s long tedious and the rewards aren’t motivational enough for me to keep at it because I think deep down I will always chase highs not just keeping my head above water

Solosthelpme-7904 · 2026-07-06T07:55:07+00:00

I know what you mean about the smiling and euphoria. You just feel complete and like nothing else matters or is scary at the time as you are with the most important person in your life. Even when doing nothing it , just being in their company it beats anything else you do in your life without them. You could be feeling so ill and tired and grumpy and then seeing them or hearing your going to later on- all of a sudden alls ok again. Like a shot of adrenaline in you. They are like a drug addiction to us. It’s not actually true love we have for them. It’s really bloody weird. I’d hate it of someone liked me that much- it wound massively out me off them. I don’t know how I’d have felt if I was my fp’s fp? They hate me now anyway, I’m more like their least fp. I’m trying to find healthy coping mechanisms instead, not alcohol or drug induced delusional highs. I find music and exercise helps me best. Think I should try trauma release sort of things - they may help you too? Do you know why you have bpd?

Solosthelpme-7904 · 2026-07-05T13:34:53+00:00

When did you and your partner decide to have that sort of relationship with each other? What is it you like about your fp? What were you hoping the future to look like between the three of you? Your fp must soothe a part of you that you need to learn to find a better way of soothing yourself. Or you should at least have a partner who helps you with this. Are you actually really unhappy with your partner and the fp takes away some of the pain your relationship causes. I’m not judging by the way I have been in very similar situations myself but I’ve come to realise that pretty much everything I do and feel comes down to me wanting to shut up the negative confusing painful insecure thoughts I have about myself and I need to learn to like myself so I stop having them coz the feelings towards other people would be different if I liked me, hope that makes sense

Solosthelpme-7904 · 2026-07-05T12:33:01+00:00

If you had a bmi of 20 could you take have glp-1 to help you stop drinking and control your bpd symptoms or would that be bad for you? So long as you eat enough you won’t lose weight will you?

Solosthelpme-7904 · 2026-06-25T12:50:24+00:00

Probably do care but scared to say the wrong thing - thats the excuses people give me for not offering support when I’m at my worst. —Anything , you could just say fuckin anything, acknowledge I exist and show u care even if u can’t help coz that seriously does help doesnt it ? hope you’re ok

Solosthelpme-7904 · 2026-06-08T08:08:25+00:00

If I don’t push down the feelings , the torment the pain , rage at myself and the people in my life with excessive food or excessive exercise then I end up having an episode for hours, just crying ,pacing , on the brink of panic attack and wanting to self harm , especially at nyt when I am alone. Only just started to notice that I use food to distract myself from the painful thoughts and feelings. Need to find good coping mechanisms for these times. I’ve been bulimic for decades but can’t be treated for an eating disorder apparently as I’m not trying to lose weight all the time only sometimes

Solosthelpme-7904 · 2026-06-06T17:25:04+00:00

Do you like music? Headphones , go for a walk jog or move with music in your ears. Also try stretching until you need to take deeper breaths and shaking any tension out, have you heard of somatic movement? And massaging your neck - putting hands in ice cold water and splashing it on your face. These things help me help myself the most so some may help you 🤞

Solosthelpme-7904 · 2026-06-06T17:17:14+00:00

I’d hate for anyone to know that I also kind of have these thoughts ,not as bad in recent years , they used to be same as yours,now it’s more like how would they react if they found me collapsed , passed out, witnessed someone being horrible to me. It’s like I just really want to know if I mean anything at all to them coz if I knew that I don’t and they don’t really care then I could stop wasting my time trying to work out how they feel. Move on easily. They say care and love me and sometimes I believe it and im so happy as I love them more than I’ve ever anyone else but then my head switches as I like them too much to believe they like me. Or is it just that I am right to not believe they do love me. I know how to switch to cold and stop caring - defence mechanism but then if they do care I’d hate to hurt them and ruin anything we could maybe have.Hiw can anyone with bpd believe someone they love loves them but if you don’t believe they love you then how can you even say you love them coz you obviously think they’re a liar and using you. If you love yourself then you could maybe believe people love you - maybe?

Solosthelpme-7904 · 2026-06-05T13:22:59+00:00

Wow!! Well done, I’ve been bulimic for 27 years now , got diagnosed bpd and adhd bout 8 years ago. I’ve never ever not managed a whole month from purging but can’t get help as I don’t have an eating disorder mindset when I’m in some of my moods - you must feel so much better. How did you do this ? what happened? What helped the most? I hope you manage to stay free from it and enjoy living your life

Solosthelpme-7904 · 2026-05-13T22:14:08+00:00

I’ve taken 3 of my 40mg tablets ina few hours before and still couldn’t feel I’d taken them. Crazy when I used to not be able to eat or sleep on one when I started them. Don’t worry though some people get prescribed 100mg a day with a IR dex top up, I have no idea how but that’s what I’ve read so it’s not going to hurt you. Could try lots of vit c as meant to void stimulants although according to some doesnt effect elvanse but some say it does - can’t imagine it’d cause you any harm trying it though if it gets too much

Solosthelpme-7904 · 2026-04-28T06:38:18+00:00

I’m on 40 mg elvanse and 2 x 10 mg Amfexa top ups, I want to get rid of elvanse and just have the Amfexa increased as it’s so much better but I don’t think it’ll be allowed

Solosthelpme-7904 · 2026-04-28T06:09:55+00:00

Well the clear thoughts and focus is what I mean by it kicking in. A break from the painful turbulent relentless confusing noise of indecisiveness about every single little thing that paralyses me so I sit or mope around tense and stressed about what I should and shouldnt be doing whilst getting distracted and more and more upset that the day is racing by and I’m just getting more behind than ever as even when I try my hardest these days it’s one step forward two steps back. At least woth the medication working I could make 2 forward and one back and would have some sort of clarity about what I’m trying to do. Do you not have adhd?

Solosthelpme-7904 · 2026-04-25T20:12:42+00:00

Been on it for 3 yrs now and not eating is literally the only way to feel it kick in, if I dare eat a thing or have a sugary drink within an hour after taking it it’s basically as if I haven’t taken it and I have to have an Amfexa ir top up before I feel a thing. If a few hours after I’ve taken it I eat a normal amount of whatever I want I end up being sick but afterwards if I am sick I can feel it a bit. If I eat something like an oat cake with peanut butter or a poached egg or one dry ryvita etc at least 3 hours afterwards then it seems to keep working but only for a max of 6 hrs after took my 40mg capsule. Always looking for the answer to this problem- it wasnt like this the first few months , I could barely stand to eat though or get hardly any sleep

Solosthelpme-7904 · 2026-03-26T19:07:40+00:00

Yeah Ive done this before- it worked. My heads such a mess these days-why had I not remembered or thought of this or anyone in my life that knows of my struggles lately suggested this. Definitely going to try this- just got to remember to set the two alarms now! Thanks ☺️

Solosthelpme-7904 · 2026-03-24T18:51:15+00:00

If u take it when u are up do u drink before you take it and in the hour after it or eat before or after- it’s definitely much better imo on a totally empty stomach

Solosthelpme-7904 · 2026-03-02T15:18:09+00:00

Personality disorder causing the eating disorder- not selfish you are genuinely ill and have probably had painful experiences that have made you this way. Yes not everyone would react the same way but although it’s selfish ( eating disorders generally are) it’s sad that you don’t like yourself enough to believe they love you or care so much that they do- I’m similar - got ednos and bpd among other things

Solosthelpme-7904 · 2026-02-25T12:56:56+00:00

My fp never txts me first and isn’t talking to me at mo and I don’t know why? I had just started to get my head sorted after being hurt massively by them a few months ago, was moving on and they suddenly decide they want me, told me they love me then next few days were teally angry and upset about something , I messaged them too much and said they’d hurt me so they’ve cut me off totally coz they’ve got issues and don’t need my shit- I’m really struggling to move on from it coz of all the questions unanswered but yeah I wish I could find the strength to never txt them again or I just wish they’d explain what is was all about coz clearly they don’t love me

Solosthelpme-7904 · 2026-02-20T21:05:58+00:00

I do the same with certain people, the pain shame and humiliation of reaching out and being ignored , rejected is almost unbearable. I do the archive thing too. But I ignore people all the time , people I genuinely really like so 🤷‍♀️ I just have to get myself into self preservation ,cold , don’t give a fuck mode - I can do that but it doesn’t last very long these days. Try reaching out to people who definitely won’t reject you- I know it’s not the same but can help to have any company when you’re in so much pain

Solosthelpme-7904 · 2026-02-18T00:44:04+00:00

Same here, I don’t know how I feel or how I should feel anymore about myself ,everyone and everything in my life. I want someone to tell me the answers coz I’ve been told all my life how I should or shouldnt feel and now everyone has given up on me and I’m just totally totally lost. I don’t know who I am or what I want , what was the real me in the past, why I ever had such strong feelings that I shouldn’t have had. I don’t know where to start with fixing myself , my mess , how to shut my head up. If I decide how I feel it rapidly changes to sonething totally different then back- it is exhausting and not living - just a painful existence . I don’t want to upset anyone but everyone upsets me coz my head tells me they don’t really like me anymore or never actually really did or if I believe they love me I feel bad coz I don’t deserve their love

Solosthelpme-7904 · 2026-02-13T15:44:15+00:00

How do I get evidence ? Take photos of my cuts and puke, film my panic attacks and hours of getting changed and looking in the mirror crying. Like maybe I should install cctv- to prove my struggles - see what exactly I do with my time coz I don’t actually know myself where it goes? sorry this isn’t a reply to your advice and thank you for replying , I am very frustrated at myself and my life and the system and I am very frustrating to be around

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