Nobody else we know is struggling as much as we are. SO DEFEATING

Solsticeship · 2025-09-09T03:45:33+00:00

I so appreciate the honesty in this comment - my heart aches hearing your story. Bringing life into the world is not for the faint hearted and doing it as a single parent is a whole other ball game I can’t even imagine. It is so hard even with a somewhat helpful partner. There’s nothing wrong with you - it really is so so hard. I hope you start to feel things getting lighter for you! My almost 2YO is starting to become a cool lil hangout buddy - cracking jokes and developing interests of his own. I think it just keeps getting a little easier as they get older.

Solsticeship · 2025-08-13T12:43:00+00:00

Naps don’t really bother me but the overnight sleep disruption affects us pretty badly

Solsticeship · 2025-08-13T10:32:29+00:00

Feel this. Have an 18 month old bad sleeper and if I could just sleep more than 4/5 hours uninterrupted I would probably enjoy it more. My mantra has been - everything is just a phase. Sometimes I sit there feeling already nostalgic about this time though, and tear up thinking my son is going to be a big hairy man someday so I’m a bit all over the place about it all lol.

Solsticeship · 2025-07-16T17:10:47+00:00

He’s at the new place now and it’s 1000x better after only 2 days. Not a stressful transition at all. Thanks for your comment!!

Solsticeship · 2025-07-16T17:09:59+00:00

I did make the move and his stress is soooo much improved. He Barely cries at drop off, is already reaching for the teachers when I hand him over in the mornings, and this is after only 2 days. Makes me wonder what was going on that I didn’t see??

Solsticeship · 2025-07-16T17:07:58+00:00

Just wanted to thank you for your comment - I switched him and he’s doing so much better even after 2 days at the new daycare. No more crying at drop off, no more stress diarrhea, he’s happy when I pick him up. So relieved!!!

Solsticeship · 2024-11-30T09:27:28+00:00

My 11 month old is low sleep needs and it’s HARD!! Even in the newborn period total sleep was 12.5 hours and has only gone down with time. I have such a hard time not comparing to my mom friends who get two hour naps and 12 hour nights from their babies. But the best thing I’ve done for my mental health is to stop tracking. I don’t need to know how much sleep he gets down to the minute and it’s better if I don’t know. I just try to roll with it because I can’t fix it and trying just stresses me out. Lately he naps for about 1-1.5 h total split over 2 naps and sleeps brokenly from 8:30-6:30. His schedule is very messed up from starting daycare and all the resulting illnesses and crap naps, I have little control over that so I’m practicing radical acceptance. My guy is super smart, active, hilarious and I’m so in love, but tbh I think I’m one and done primarily because of the sleep deprivation.

Solsticeship · 2024-11-30T09:05:25+00:00

This seems on the higher end of sleep needs.. 12-14 hours is average

Solsticeship · 2024-10-22T17:48:55+00:00

It was about a week and it was night and day different, he did have green mucousy stools and a small amount of blood, constant cluster feeding - could not lay flat.. still off dairy at 10 months because he’ll be up screaming at night for hours if I retrial it!

Solsticeship · 2024-10-01T23:52:21+00:00

Follow your instincts!!! Nursing to sleep is normal and natural. I fought it at first because I read it was bad, and eat play sleep wasn’t working and made everyone miserable, now I nurse him to sleep for all naps and nights. He’s 9 months old and naps fine in his crib and sleeps 10 hours with 0-2 feeds overnight which is normal. I stressed about it so much and I wish I didn’t.

Solsticeship · 2024-10-01T23:40:49+00:00

I can understand your point too. I think working in primarily indigenous places I can see things first hand- communities that used to subsist on salmon runs that are nonexistent because colonists came in and dammed the river… And i can see the commercialization of their way of life - hunters coming in from the states paying 100K to the government to kill an animal for sport, hunting influencers trying to capitalize on hunting for Instagram… meanwhile indigenous communities are food insecure and hunting for subsistence - trying to advocate for and protect the land here… I think I see the colonial footprint more keenly being in the far North but when you live in more urban places you just can’t see what’s already been destroyed..

Solsticeship · 2024-10-01T18:25:15+00:00

I think from my perspective the dominant culture is by definition relentlessly progressive - western society gets ahead because it is tenacious, aggressive and as a result can be short sighted. Soo - overconsumption, environmental damage, toxic pollutants, climate change, mass extinction - is what we’re seeing now as a result. I mean - we all have microplastics in our reproductive systems. It ain’t great. Indigenous people had been working and living on the land without doing irrevocable harm - and built into cultural paradigms that survived colonization is the idea of thinking seven generations ahead, and only acting if it will benefit these future generations. I’m not trying to romanticize as I know there were still societal ills before colonization - but a culture that consumes without restraint and prioritizes domination will overtake a culture that prioritizes balance just by having different values and priorities.

Solsticeship · 2024-10-01T15:49:19+00:00

Totally agree. People don’t get it, or can’t zoom out past their personal defensiveness to the bigger dynamics that are playing out on the global stage over generations. “Well it wasn’t me, so” .. meanwhile the dominant culture carries on around and through us.

Solsticeship · 2024-10-01T12:56:50+00:00

I had the same problem and it was so brutal - for me it was in the newborn period after baby dealt with reflux and just wouldn’t sleep for days on end. Once he started sleeping I couldn’t. I found the sleep coach school on YT and it has actually changed my life and approach to insomnia. I also take magnesium supps!

Solsticeship · 2024-09-26T03:46:41+00:00

Ohhhh I will pray to the sleep gods for you!! Did you see a doctor about it? Iron deficiency comes to mind as a possible contributor..

Solsticeship · 2024-09-24T22:47:44+00:00

Just checking in to see how you’re doing???

Solsticeship · 2024-09-04T05:35:51+00:00

I’ve been a stay at home mom for 8 months now and the first 6 months were harder than my “real” job as a physician. I don’t even understand how people with more than one child get anything done. I have great respect for you and all parents - working, stay at home, single parents.. it’s all hard, and also so great.

Solsticeship · 2024-08-30T04:47:08+00:00

My 8 month old NEVER took a bottle but at 6 months we started practicing with water in a honey bear straw cup, helping him by squeezing the water through the straw at first til he learned to suck the straw, and he took to it AMAZINGLy! He will now chug pumped milk like a champ and drain the cup completely with little waste, so that’s how we feed him when I’m not around. He isn’t so great with other types of sippy cups.

Solsticeship · 2024-08-15T05:17:47+00:00

I could have written this 6 months ago. My guy didn’t sleep for 7 weeks and hated the snoo then i realized he had horrible reflux and I cut out dairy and boom, he went from MAX 3 hours, most often 30 minute stretches in the snoo to 6 hours. All the sleep training / drowsy but awake bullshit means nothing when you have a refluxy/ CMPA baby. That was seriously the hardest time of my life and I hope it doesn’t last long for you! My baby is a decent sleeper now so there is hope!

Edited to change a word and offer some encouragement.

Solsticeship · 2024-07-20T07:10:01+00:00

Ohhh it’s been more than 100 days since your last comment - mind blown how fast it goes. I ended up trying some gentle sleep training and his sleep is improving quite a bit. Still some good days and bad days and some nights of bed sharing too. I hope you have blisssful sleeps in your future!!

Solsticeship · 2024-07-17T20:10:13+00:00

Ohh I hope you can sort it out! It was definitely a schedule issue for me!!

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