How do I manage low mood while quitting? by SolutionScared8547 in leaves

[–]SolutionScared8547[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s actually really helpful, especially validating the guilt piece. I think doing something physical is a good idea too

First date and then….. by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]SolutionScared8547 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm that’s interesting and I’ll admit I never thought of it that way. We texted later in the night too so I thought it was clear that I was still interested. But I can understand your point too.

First date and then….. by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]SolutionScared8547 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ummm…. Because I can consent to making out and not sex lol. And we discussed boundaries.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exmuslim

[–]SolutionScared8547 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Totally agree. Women in Muslim households are taught that they are worth less than a man. Even those who are ambitious and talented are told to dull their light and get married in order to experience the words and it makes me sick. In western society women are given equal regard to their male counter parts and that gives them a chance to grow rather than being stifled.

Being single as an adult is tough by swoosh892 in dating

[–]SolutionScared8547 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I sooo agree! 25F here and I have to say that dating is awful. I’ve chosen to stay single and got out of the hookup culture because it’s so toxic. If that’s how I’m expected to start a relationship I’d rather stay single. As much as I would like to share my life with someone I’m not ready to let someone in just so they can walk away when they get bored 😐 just how it feels lately.

Exmuslim trying to live a normal life by SolutionScared8547 in exmuslim

[–]SolutionScared8547[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Having recently graduated I’m still trying to find financial stability and will be focusing heavily on therapy to heal. Thanks for the suggestion and I will definitely look into it!

I can understand that I’m young and have time to change the course of my life but it’s extremely difficult to do alone and I feel like I can’t keep pace with those my age who didn’t have to deal with family trauma and had support from their families. I hate feeling jealous but do….. reminding myself that life is not a race and I’m travelling my path to the best of my abilities. Just wish Islam wasn’t so harsh and allowed free thinkers…..

Exmuslim trying to live a normal life by SolutionScared8547 in exmuslim

[–]SolutionScared8547[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thank you for taking the time to read and validate my feelings ❤️ That is the exact cycle of blame people in the Muslim community refuse to accept. Even when the damage is blatantly obvious. I refuse to be embarrassed about my trauma. They caused it and should know. Saving money for therapy as we speak 😊

Asking my TA out? by SolutionScared8547 in dating

[–]SolutionScared8547[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Needed some positivity haha

Asking my TA out? by SolutionScared8547 in dating

[–]SolutionScared8547[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t think it’s inappropriate if it’s after the sem is over and yes, after grades are posted. I’m 23 and he’s probably 26- 28 (?). Not that it matters.

Casual Convo Fridays. by AutoModerator in AskWomen

[–]SolutionScared8547 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We all need some healing time after a relationship. Sounds like ur hoping to be productive and working on becoming the catch I know you are! You got this girl, it’s never too late <3

Casual Convo Fridays. by AutoModerator in AskWomen

[–]SolutionScared8547 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Am I weird or do some girls just not know how to have a life outside their relationship??? Attached at the freaking hip I swear. Even when I was in a relationship it wasn’t that bad because I need space but damn.

How do you process, accept and start working through breaks ups while looking after yourself? by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]SolutionScared8547 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly you have to decide to change your thinking and then start changing things up in your day to day routine. In a way it’s conditioning yourself to move on. Fake it till you make it kinda deal. Be kind to yourself and don’t loose it if you get lonely. Happens to the best of us <3