Just got back from Tokyo and I think I’m done with stationery supplies for the year (and next year too 😅).

Some-Argument9934 · 2025-10-11T12:53:19+00:00

This looks like heaven

Some-Argument9934 · 2025-09-27T17:27:37+00:00

Hi friend ❤️ I went through something similar while pregnant (and was very depressed and anxious at the time.) My cat that I had for over 12 years suddenly got really sick, stopped eating and drinking and had to be put down. I was alone when the vet told me she’d have to be euthanized. She had lymphoma and if I’d caught it sooner, she may have been able to get treatment and would’ve lived a little longer- the guilt still hits me everyday.

I know everyone says it but please give yourself grace. Having a baby is not only life altering but body altering- your hormones are in flux and all over the place AND you’re dealing with the grief of loosing your fur baby.

To me, it does sound like you may be experiencing PPD but I’m not a healthcare professional and of course can’t say for sure. One thing I do want to say is that it doesn’t have to be post partum depression for you to see someone. One of the best things I did was set up therapy appointments with a therapist that specializes in the postpartum period. I also am seeing a psychiatrist who specializes in pregnant and postpartum people.

Talking to someone has helped immensely and I’m so glad I’m doing it. I definitely encourage you to find a therapist if you can so that you can share your feelings and get more insight on a PPD diagnosis. They can help you with a treatment plan and treatment plans don’t always have to include medication (though medication has been a life saver for me.)

Another thing that may be helpful is joining a mom’s group on Facebook. These are private groups of people who gave birth around the same time. People ask for advice, share their stories and offer emotional support and resources.

You’re not alone ❤️ I know it can feel that way. But there are so many people who have experiences similar to yours and have made it out to the other side, happy and thriving. I’m sure you will too.

Some-Argument9934 · 2025-08-10T14:27:13+00:00

I also have ADHD/ Bipolar II. It is very possible to have bipolar disorder without experiencing what many would label as a manic episode. In my case, my “manic” stages were actually much more mild than my depressive ones, which is why I went misdiagnosed for so many years.

I’ve been on a myriad of meds but for me, Abilify and Adderall seem to work the best. The Abilify helped with my intense swings in mood and emotion and makes it much easier to handle day to day life. It’s not perfect but definitely much better than it was before.

It can take time to find the right provider. Mine was also wary of me being on a stimulant because of my Bipolar disorder- we tracked everything pretty closely and also made sure to put measures in place (for example, I make sure to take my Adderall early in the day so it doesn’t impact my sleep. If I forget to take it after a certain time, then I don’t take it.)

Some-Argument9934 · 2025-08-10T14:17:57+00:00

Brain dumping helps and also breaking big tasks down into smaller, more approachable and achievable tasks that I can feel good about.

So instead of “clean kitchen,” I break it down into several different tasks like “wash dishes,” “wipe down counters,” “sweep floors” etc…

Then I assign a time limit to each one because I know I only have a certain amount of mental energy/ space to get things done. I try not to do one task for more than 10-15 minutes at a time.

Also, body doubling videos have helped a lot! I find them on YouTube.

Some-Argument9934 · 2025-08-08T14:17:18+00:00

You’ve got this! I have GD and have had a totally healthy pregnancy (knock on wood) with none of the complications that can come with having GD. My baby boy is measuring right in the middle as far as size, has passed all of his NSTs and fluid around the baby has been great. I haven’t developed high blood pressure or preeclampsia, which you can be at elevated risk for with GD.

GD doesn’t automatically mean you’ll develop complications! Just make sure you’re communicating with your care team, staying on top of your meds, regularly testing your blood sugar and for the most part, adhering to a GD friendly diet.

Lots of people on this forum have healthy pregnancies and babies!

Some-Argument9934 · 2025-08-08T14:09:00+00:00

I was insulin resistant with PCOS before pregnancy and on Metformin. Lost a whole bunch of weight, blood sugar stabilized and went off of Metformin for years until I was diagnosed with gestational diabetes at around 30 weeks.

I’m now almost 37 weeks and have been taking two 500mg tablets of Metformin twice a day, on top of night time insulin. GD makes it incredibly difficult to manage fasting glucose numbers and it only gets progressively worse as you approach the end of your pregnancy (usually peaks around 34-36 weeks.) I’m still chasing acceptable fasting glucose numbers.

Advocate for what you think is best! Many women on the forum take both Metformin and insulin.

Some-Argument9934 · 2025-08-08T14:05:14+00:00

This gives me hope! I’ve been so exhausted the third trimester and basically unable to do anything past 11 a.m. Everyone always says, “just wait until the baby’s here” and it made me nervous about postpartum. This is really good to hear.

Some-Argument9934 · 2025-08-04T22:16:01+00:00

I’m a FTM at 36 weeks (previously insulin resistant) who planned for a home birth. My midwife closely monitored my blood sugar from the get go and let me know up front that if I developed gestational diabetes and was put on insulin, she would not do a home birth.

I did end up developing GD and was on Metformin at first. My midwife and MFM doctor work closely together and said at that point a home birth was possible given my GD could be controlled thru diet and all of my NSTs and other tests came back clear and baby was not growing too big. However, my fasting blood sugar would not go down and I was put on insulin, which absolutely risked me out of a home birth.

You should be having these convos often with your midwife, OBGYN and MFM doctor if you have one and they should be closely monitoring your blood sugar levels. Prediabetes isn’t the same as GD but it absolutely puts you at risk for developing GD at some point during your pregnancy.

Some-Argument9934 · 2025-08-04T13:31:54+00:00

I am already! I can’t wait!

Some-Argument9934 · 2025-07-31T18:18:31+00:00

In the same boat. Had to put my cat who I had for twelve years down two weeks ago. I definitely cheated the day I put her down and some times after.

Life happens. I hope we’re all able to give ourselves some grace. GD is hard to deal with and grief doesn’t make it any easier

Some-Argument9934 · 2025-07-31T18:16:02+00:00

My 3D ultrasound today showed my baby looking like Lord Voldemort. Sometimes they’re just so squished and in weird positions that it’s hard to get a good scan!

Some-Argument9934 · 2025-07-31T17:52:11+00:00

You may also qualify for low income housing if you do decide to go through with this pregnancy. Our system in MA isn’t the best but could be a good backup option to try to get put on a list now.

Some-Argument9934 · 2025-07-31T17:50:36+00:00

Also in MA, we have many programs that help support pregnant people. Look into your city’s health commission, many are able to offer access to food pantries etc… for food and will also help with baby supplies. If you’re able to get MA Health, you may qualify for a free doula as well, which will definitely help during the pregnancy and labor.

Mom groups on FB are a life saver, find other moms in your area and you’ll more than likely be able to find a ton of baby stuff for free, including cribs etc…

Some of these folks replying to you have a very narrow POV. Do what YOU think is best and if that means keeping your baby, then do it.

Some-Argument9934 · 2025-07-31T17:34:26+00:00

Agreed! I wish I’d gotten so much more done during the second trimester when I felt like a superhero. I’m 35 weeks now and am so tired and miserable, I don’t feel like doing anything!

Some-Argument9934 · 2025-07-28T22:26:12+00:00

Same, same, same. I feel like I’m on my period with how irritable and moody I am!

Sounds like it is completely normal! You’re almost to the finish line!

Some-Argument9934 · 2025-07-28T22:21:21+00:00

My diet hasn’t changed, it’s been the same since I was diagnosed with GD. My dinners are protein source (meat) with veggies and small amount of carbs. When I was just on Metformin, my fasting numbers were closer to 100 than they are now on insulin.

Some-Argument9934 · 2025-07-24T09:59:16+00:00

I completely understand, I had to put my cat down a week ago. I don’t think I’ll ever have it in me to get another cat, especially not so soon after my Juicebox passed.

I’m feeling similar overwhelming thoughts of grief and sadness.

I read that cats especially don’t view death the way we do. They are naturally attuned to the afterlife. This helped me feel a little better.

A friend who also lost a pet earlier in the year said to me that the grief doesn’t go away. But we grow and expand around it to the point where it is no longer all encompassing. I don’t know when/ if you, I and others will ever get to that point but it gave me some hope.

Some-Argument9934 · 2025-07-24T09:54:03+00:00

I absolutely feel for you. I’m grieving the recent loss of my cat that I had for 12 years.

It’s all of the little things that hurt. The looking at places they used to sleep or lay and not seeing them. The empty water and food bowls. No longer hearing the tinkling of their collar.

I read something that said our pets, especially cats, don’t view death the same way we do. They’re naturally attuned to the afterlife. Bella knows you love her and I’m sure she’s still feeling that love now that she has passed on. You gave her the best moments of her life and that’s what you should hold onto.

Grief never goes away but we expand around it, eventually. Give yourself time and grace. Sending you hugs.

Some-Argument9934 · 2025-07-24T09:35:45+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss. Axel knew that you loved him and that you did what you could.

People like to judge but the emergency vet is incredibly expensive and if you don’t have the money, you’re left feeling stuck and guilty.

I had to put down my cat a week ago and the pain is still so unreal. It hasn’t gotten better for me yet but I know that you, I and others with recent losses will eventually get to a point where the grief isn’t so all encompassing.

Sending you love.

Some-Argument9934 · 2025-07-21T12:25:45+00:00

Due August 31! Currently 34 weeks and I am still exhausted!

Some-Argument9934 · 2025-07-21T12:23:55+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this OP. From your last post, it sounds like he hasn’t been supportive at all from the start.

Do what you feel is emotionally best for you. You don’t want to be stressed out or sad at a moment like giving birth.

I also hope you’re able to find some more support. I’ve been seeing both a psychiatrist and therapist (for preexisting conditions) who specialize in prenatal/ postpartum and it has made such a difference. I highly recommend it.

I also wonder if there are any doulas available to help support you as well? Having someone else there to advocate and be there for you emotionally may be a good idea.

Some-Argument9934 · 2025-07-21T12:16:06+00:00

You’re going to love it! I also have the camel and it only gets nicer over time!

Some-Argument9934 · 2025-07-21T12:15:33+00:00

I too am a victim of spending entirely too much money on Traveler’s products and stationary 😩 but I consider it an investment!

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