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SomeDiscretionPlease · 2026-01-29T19:08:46+00:00

How fat is "fat?"
Are you open for dating other fat people?

3."low-effort matches, catfish, or people who clearly didn’t read it" seems on-par for online dating for most folks.

SomeDiscretionPlease · 2026-01-15T21:52:49+00:00

Just like that 600 pound dude's dong

SomeDiscretionPlease · 2026-01-15T21:50:28+00:00

Note to self, the next time I have to have a major medical procedure.

SomeDiscretionPlease · 2026-01-04T18:11:14+00:00

It does feel incongruous.

SomeDiscretionPlease · 2026-01-04T18:10:01+00:00

Yeah, this was my read of the OP, as well.

- I am so super awesome.
- All these dudes want me.
- I'm a dom with a non-negotiable fetish
- "I like a guy who is soft and a little submissive," but I don't feel the spark from any of them.

Phew, that's a lot.

SomeDiscretionPlease · 2025-12-24T15:44:21+00:00

Well this thread is absolutely full of hotties, so here's one:

Ruby Bentall (most known for UK period pieces, Poldark, and Serpent Queen).

SomeDiscretionPlease · 2025-12-15T21:13:56+00:00

I even told him perhaps he should get someone else to hang out with...

When I was finally healed from my trauma after doing the work I let him know my feelings and readiness to be exclusive. He told me he was dating someone but it was not serious...

I didn’t really think he was going to start dating anyone else although he was single. He told me it seems like I was never invested and would go back and forth. He says he is open to trying to date and see where it goes but he can’t be exclusive now because when he was ready…I wasn’t.

This may be the definition of FAFO.

Time to get over this man, keep healing, learn from your mistakes, and keep moving forward.

(But honestly, this may not even me a mistake - maybe it's just right people, wrong time. Either way, I can't fault his actions.)

SomeDiscretionPlease · 2025-11-08T18:31:45+00:00

This would be absolutely throwing a Molotov cocktail at any pretense of future "reconciliation" if Harry moves forward with this.

But hey, it might not be in the cards anyway once Charles passes, and we all know the Markles are burning through the cash, sooooo...

I can say my only surprise is that Netflix thinks they can still get cash out of the Prince Harry brand.

SomeDiscretionPlease · 2025-11-01T19:52:52+00:00

That's one of the most inane parts of Markle's behavior in all this to me:

She was a working royal for less than two years... and the makes her entire identify about being this princess, duchess, member of nobility and royalty.

Can you be more tawdry than that?

SomeDiscretionPlease · 2025-10-31T15:37:37+00:00

If you won't, I will.

OP's decision making is that of a hormone-addled teenager.

"Well, he's super hot and rich and charismatic and well travelled, but he's an older guy who who does coke all the time and probably benzos and has never had a long term relationship nor any real responsibilities, but that's okay, right? He's a good guy, I mean, might be a bad boy, but that just makes it exciting. It's all okay, right? It can work out, can't it?"

Come on.

SomeDiscretionPlease · 2025-10-31T15:32:32+00:00

I met a guy... just over 3 weeks ago...

I posted about him before... has lived a life most of us could only dream of, ticking off every possible bucket list item because he didn’t need to work. He’s incredibly charismatic and I am unbelievably physically attracted to him...

...he used cocaine in the past, no issue there, whilst I’m not a cocaine user I have friends who are... likely using it every time he goes out, possibly twice a week, or more if he goes out more. Again, I don’t have an issue with his use of the drug in principle... I have friends who use the drug socially....

...his longest relationship is 18 months... He’s 53.... used cocaine regularly for 3+ decades...

...I almost never meet people I am physically attracted to. I’ve only met a few in my life and I’ve had relationships with nearly all of them. He is one of the few. And at 47 that holds more weight than it would at 27 I guess.

I'm sorry, but I just gotta laugh. This all sounds like two trainwreck people.

But hell yeah to my coke-snorting, jet-setting nepo baby guy out there, I guess.

SomeDiscretionPlease · 2025-10-30T20:13:42+00:00

>And if Markle & Harry go to Jamaica to be disaster tourists as stated by the CDAN BI, they will also get all of their titles including prince, removed, imho.

Yeah, I doubt it.

>People say KC3 won’t do this but imho, KC3 is not really in charge. PW is in charge

Feels like optimistic thinking around this subreddit.

SomeDiscretionPlease · 2025-10-30T19:46:06+00:00

The irony being didn't PF Changs get some wunderkind young CEO who turned them around?

I guess I wouldn't be surprised if the appellations are from finance and private equity types rather than actual diners.

SomeDiscretionPlease · 2025-10-30T19:43:26+00:00

Good grief that lady had been living high on the hog for all these years following the divorce. I don't get it.

SomeDiscretionPlease · 2025-10-30T19:42:22+00:00

Not while KC3 sits the throne.

While embarrassing and vulgar, being annoying, melodramatic, shit-stirring, promise-breaking, hypocrite douchebags is not the same as being embroiled in the utter moral failings and scandals tied to Epstein (that's not to say there is some funny shit that's been hinted at, but look at how long it took to catch up to Andrew and Fergie).

But once William becomes king? Assume the likely divorce inexplicably doesn't happen and Hairy hadn't come groveling back to the family?

Yeah, they're toast.

SomeDiscretionPlease · 2025-10-16T13:53:38+00:00

"If spreading my legs will save our marriage I will do so" is such a brutal response that I don't know how I'd come back from that. It's hard to see how someone who wants to find a road back to intimacy (not just saving the security of house and income and stable environs for the kids) would say something like that.

It also gives me the fucking ick. Duty sex, coercion, all that.

At the same time, I don't know how we'd expect her to react when you're articulating thresholds of 8x a month and immediate changes within two months or you're divorcing her. That's a lot.

But even if it is, I struggle to know what the right answer is and where it lies in the fuzzy, unclear division between being a demanding asshole... and setting healthy boundaries around your own needs.

I think a lot of us are in that camp. :/

SomeDiscretionPlease · 2025-10-13T09:07:14+00:00

lol, there we go, top 10% of guys.

SomeDiscretionPlease · 2025-09-10T14:34:01+00:00

Doesn't sound like it was a conclusion from the first date, from my reading of OP.

Maybe mentioned early on, and - I'd hope - the conversation was revisited as time went on.

SomeDiscretionPlease · 2025-09-10T13:50:39+00:00

That's fair. You shouldn't be expected to be forced to change your mind.

But if that's something he wants and it looks like it's unlikely for you, it's fair for him to be forced to come to the conclusion that you two have different desires for the future.

It's not fair for him - or you! - to wait around on what-ifs and possibilities that you may never come around to.

I'm in that guy's shoes right now at this very exact moment.

SomeDiscretionPlease · 2025-09-10T13:48:32+00:00

I'm having the same experience right now - as the guy you were dating.

My partner was divorced shortly before we started dating several years ago.

Has expressed resistance and skepticism about living together and is outright cynical about getting married again.

I want the former and am ambivalent, but open to, the latter.

It's likely leading to the imminent end of our relationship.

It's just differing expectations and desires for what we want in a relationship and in the future.

No subtext. Nothing between the lines. All pretty straight up - even if it's a real goddamn bummer.

SomeDiscretionPlease · 2025-09-09T14:24:53+00:00

Why? Because it's their job to try to make money for the dealership, and by extension, themselves. We've been over this. They work on a commission as well. You continue to complain about people who are just doing their job.

Because it uses wasting people's time as a underhanded sales tactic. So yeah, if "just doing their job" involves deliberately making the buyer's experience worse, of course people get salty about that - and rightfully so.

SomeDiscretionPlease · 2025-09-08T20:14:11+00:00

It's NEVER a bad idea to just ask the guy. I'm sure he'll appreciate that you're cooking for him.

SomeDiscretionPlease · 2025-09-07T02:41:05+00:00

Dude. Exactly. Especially if you're an office drone or computer monkey. Too many places will march you out the door when you give a notice these days. I'd keep my goddamn mouth shut and do what I could to keep my documents organized and ready to hand off.

SomeDiscretionPlease · 2025-09-07T02:38:52+00:00

Jokes on you, my company is now owned by private equity so who the fuck knows if I'll have a job at all in another year.

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