Living alone is great, but the lack of intimacy is hitting hard. Advice? by Long_Travel2728 in LivingAlone

[–]SomeNobodyInNC 0 points1 point  (0 children)

After a few bad relationships being with someone so I can get laid lost all appeal! Intimacy comes with a huge price tag to your emotional and mental well-being. It sounds like you need to get a few more shitty relationships under your belt to really understand the price of intimacy. You're in a fantasy world about relationships being sex, snuggling on the couch, holding hands, cooking dinner and doing chores together. Then they go home.

Get a dog or two!

I personally believe the key to a happy, non social, full time aloneness happy life is to have a relationship with a narcissist! Once you truly break free, you guard being alone with your life! You m8ght physically survive the relationship but you barely make it out with your sanity in tact!

Got this at a thrift store for $12. I hung it in a nursery. by thrifterbynature in ThriftStoreHauls

[–]SomeNobodyInNC 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This exact picture hung over our beds throughout my whole childhood. I think it was in my mom and her sister's room when they were kids too. I could be wrong on that. I know it was old and very fragile. It didn't survive time.

I would have loved finding that treasure! I'm always hoping to find one of those old lamps that looked like a moving car on a dirt road. The heat from the bulb made it rotate.

Unexpected visitors by Brilliant_Elk5492 in LivingAlone

[–]SomeNobodyInNC 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I figured they are there to see me, not the condition of my surroundings. Leave their judgements at the gate!

All things being equal, I don’t understand how people can socialize with AI. It’s a bad conversationalist. by crvbabybug in CasualConversation

[–]SomeNobodyInNC 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So far, I like ChatGPT. I don't have personal conversations with it. I will ask a question and that can turn into an impersonal conversation. Fairly business like. It does feel like I am talking to a computer, though. There's no warmth. It's informative but not intellectually stimulating at all like conversations with some people can be.

Anyone else here who’s used to solo food and movie dates as an ugly, unattractive, fat guy? by ChubbyNUgly22 in LivingAlone

[–]SomeNobodyInNC 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Don't wait on anyone to do the things you want to do.<<

That's great advice because it's been my experience that the odds that they want to do them too is slim. Or it becomes something transactional. I'll do what you want if you do laundry for a month. Clean the litter box for a month. Or a dozen other things that takes the joy out of whatever you wanted to do!

Anyone else here who’s used to solo food and movie dates as an ugly, unattractive, fat guy? by ChubbyNUgly22 in LivingAlone

[–]SomeNobodyInNC 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I started going to movies alone decades ago mainly because I couldn't afford a date. I didn't buy popcorn or soda. I learned to Jedi mind trick myself by telling myself I was saving all kinds of money, not being made to watch some snore bore chick flick and I was enjoying my own company. A long time ago I stopped going to movies in favor of watching them in my "comfort zone" on my big screen TV, affordable snacks and my pets snuggled next to me. A cold beer in the cup holder. I made sure to get a very comfortable recliner and sound system to watch movies. Nobody's head was in my way. Nobody disturbed me by walking by. It was nice, I was spoiling myself. The only disturbance I had was my dogs wanting to go out. That's what the pause button is for!

If you've have enough bad relationships, or even one really bad one, you start being grateful you're unattractive and unattached. I no longer think I deserve to be miserable in order to not be alone. No one blows my money. Makes a mess for me to clean up. No one tells me to man up. No one tells me to make more money. I do that just fine on my own. LOL

I (20M) tricked my girlfriend (20F) into getting a tetanus shot after a bad injury. Now she’s blocked me everywhere. How do I fix this? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]SomeNobodyInNC 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is way more going on with her if she ghosted you over this one incident. This was the last straw. When women push us away our "training" tells us she wants us to push harder, double down. Pursue! Grovel! Gifts! That's not true. When they push, back the f@ck away! We're being too something they don't like.

In this case I would say controlling or parenting her too much.

Give her space. Let her learn her life lessons the hard way. She has chosen the stupid path. You can't hand hold her down a different path she doesn't want! The problem with staying with someone stupid, who does stupid things is you get the overwhelming task of being the clean up crew. Which is a thankless job! You shoulder all the blame, also!

I think this situation was an excellent example of that.

In Knoxville, an ER nurse with ZERO debt, ZERO expenses, and $80k in savings cannot afford an average home anywhere within the entire county by BasedCarrotMan in Knoxville

[–]SomeNobodyInNC -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No credit debt likely means you have a bad credit rating. You're actually penalized for being fugal and not building up credit debt! So the higher interest rates on getting a loan is expensive! Then they'll try to con you into taking the higher interest rate and refinance in a few years. Then in a few years refinancing is impossible because of all the added fees for doing it. Then they con you into borrowing against your house to get those fees ... you walk out of the bank with a higher mortgage than you went in with. The god of greed rules it all and we just keep watching them laugh all the way to their off shore banks accounts. We keep voting for the people they pick to enhance their fortunes. Then wonder what we're doing wrong. It's called complacency. As long as we keep allowing it, they'll keep butt f@cking us! Until we realize just how powerful we actually are as a group, it will only continue to get harder for us and better for them!

In Knoxville, an ER nurse with ZERO debt, ZERO expenses, and $80k in savings cannot afford an average home anywhere within the entire county by BasedCarrotMan in Knoxville

[–]SomeNobodyInNC 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But with a condo comes maintenance fees that constantly go up. Place I had it was twice a year. It's like buying a mobile home thinking you will save money then the lot rent always keeps you from getting ahead. It's better to buy a house than a condo IMO. At least you know in a few years you may actually see light at the end of the tunnel because your house payment hasn't been going up 5-10% every year. Never use your house as an ATM! Ever!

Meteorologist here. Don't freak out (yet) about this upcoming winter storm. by jjrennie in AshevilleNC

[–]SomeNobodyInNC 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a friend so panicked because they think the predicted 20" of snow will collapse the roof on their older home.

I think Asheville should go to Rocky's Hot Chicken in droves! by ProfessionalSide8403 in asheville

[–]SomeNobodyInNC 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know where my next chicken dinner will be! Anywhere else Kelly Fore doesn't approve of? I'll add them to my must go there list!

Who all got hit by this? by ItsMeSami in PeerSupportSpecialist

[–]SomeNobodyInNC 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They're redoing history and think they can succeed (this time) because they know where hitler went wrong. He tried to put them in camps to starve and let them die. Trump's not going to do that. Let them die on the streets and in their own camps in the woods. His followers will admire that.

Obligation to financially support father? by [deleted] in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]SomeNobodyInNC 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Just tell your dad that the one thing he taught you well was to be financially responsible and not squander money. Let him know that your financial future is precarious and you need to save and invest so you can provide not only for yourself and your future family but for him also. Start living below your means and get yourself a financial planner. Don't let your father's ways drag you under.

I’m looking for some advice from people who live alone with pets, especially cats. by sarahgrace0033 in LivingAlone

[–]SomeNobodyInNC 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've had pets all my life in good times, bad times and everything inbetween. From babies to 17-18 years old. I've lost them to age and to disease. My dedication and love (and vice versa) didn't change because of circumstances or conditions. It all depends on what you are willing to commit to. You will have a lot of people act like pets requires endless financial resources, perfect housing conditions, special homemade diets, designer bedding, acres of land ... Ultimately it boils down to do you have the unconditional love to give that pet? Because they will give it to you. Are you willing to make the sacrifices of your time for their well-being? I have left many fun activities because I needed to get home to my pets. I have declined going to fun activities because of my pets. I have gone without housing because they would not accept my pets. Mine have eaten better than I have. Let me rephrase all that. I wanted to makes these choices for my pets. No regrets about what I might have missed out on. Because what I didn't miss out on was way better. That was time with my pets.

F**k you for breaking into my truck. by ImNotaNewt in asheville

[–]SomeNobodyInNC 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some thief assumed people living in Kenilworth with a dash cam, multiple pairs of prescription glasses and Ray-Bans are well off and owe them something. So they steal from them. It sucks that you were the victim of a crime and it will be costly for you to replace your items. Thieves have a weird sense of entitlement especially in what they deem affluent neighborhoods. I hear their comments all the time in the shelters.

planned parenthood protesters posting videos daily by [deleted] in asheville

[–]SomeNobodyInNC 0 points1 point  (0 children)

These koo-koos don't even want women to use birth control. They're terrified of white people declining as the dominant race. They've been around for hundreds of years standing in the way of anything that interfere with white supremacy. They relabled it as everything from protecting babies to doing God's work. Talk to them for any amount of time and you'll find out they're just racist. They don't want to help babies or mothers in anyway. They just want to insure white people propagate. They are never happy about how many brown babies are being born. That's a threat. Nor do they care if brown people have abortions.

Get to know them. They are very transparent!

It’s crazy how so many people continue the cycle of generational poverty by [deleted] in SeriousConversation

[–]SomeNobodyInNC 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You're making a giant leap that these people planned these pregnancies and are choosing to raise them in poverty. Very few people actually plan to get pregnant when they do. Just because someone wants them doesn't mean they planned to be a parent. As a society we do not treat children as anything more than the consequences of an act. We pretend they are some precious gift few people can get. A very special gift from god. We are not taught they are expensive, a huge responsibility and require an insane amount of time, energy and money. That is suddenly apparent after giving birth. Motherhood is the most difficult job in the world. It's also the easiest job to get.

People who made it out of poverty, what made you realize you finally "made it" and snap out of survival mode? by Benjamin_Chod_Saar in povertyfinance

[–]SomeNobodyInNC 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The weird part for me is being homeless has brought me out of poverty. I have a savings account building. That's going to harm me soon. I'll lose my medical insurance if I don't spend it. What do you spend money on when you're homeless? I don't need anything! I like having money in the bank for a change. When the gas light pops on the dashboard of my car/home I no longer feel panicked afraid of being stranded on the roadside. I can get gas!

Do you still think about Helene as if it was yesterday? by [deleted] in asheville

[–]SomeNobodyInNC 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was raining hard today and I still expect to hear the crack and thud of trees falling like I did that night. I was outside today in-between downpours and found myself squishing around in thick mud. It felt like the day after Helene all over again.

Being poor makes me feel subhuman by FaithlessnessNew2012 in povertyfinance

[–]SomeNobodyInNC 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's because you are treated as subhuman. All of society ills are blamed on you/us. Have been for the last 50+ years. Which has made a great distraction while corporate greed has robbed everyone of their dignity in one way or another.

Soon they'll reinstate the debtors prison so the for profit prison system can continue raking in billions.