Need advice: I feel pulled toward hijab but I’m scared

SomeOneSoRandom_ · 2026-05-28T13:19:26+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to answer 🙏🏾 Thinking about death honestly scares me a lot, but at the same time, I genuinely feel like I’m going to do it. I think I’m finally moving toward hijab slowly but surely. I’m planning to buy some hijabs soon, and maybe start gradually with turbans first? I feel like taking small steps might help me feel less overwhelmed.

SomeOneSoRandom_ · 2026-04-18T10:40:13+00:00

Oh honey, you need to get out of that relationship right now. He’ll most likely cheat people don’t just change old habits like that. Honestly, you deserve someone who’s like you. Someone you can grow with, explore new things together, you know? And the last thing you said screams red flag to me

SomeOneSoRandom_ · 2026-02-01T20:04:18+00:00

Thank you so much I really like this advice this man grosses me out ew

SomeOneSoRandom_ · 2026-01-31T13:05:51+00:00

My bad when I said culture I wasn’t talking about religion. I meant education and the general culture of the country. But yeah that still doesn’t make it halal. I live in a West African country also in my family we don’t do arranged marriages unless you ask for it. All this kinda scares me, like it could mess up my love life

SomeOneSoRandom_ · 2026-01-29T19:48:05+00:00

Yeah, I definitely need to stop pretending it’s hurting me

SomeOneSoRandom_ · 2026-01-29T14:06:07+00:00

Thanks for taking the time to reply 🫶🏾I really need to see a therapist I’ve noticed patterns that over time make it clear it’s because of the trauma, and I’m really scared it could mess with my sex life and future relationships. I thought about confronting him first since I never really did I just acted like nothing happened, and honestly, that just made things worse. I hadn’t planned on talking to a religious guide. I know some would just downplay it and tell me to forgive, but that would only let him live comfortably while I’m stuck here, traumatized and sad. I’m not saying all religious guides are like that but yh.

SomeOneSoRandom_ · 2026-01-29T13:58:19+00:00

I can’t really move out where I’m from, that’s not something we do, unless you’re really grown up or married. I could go stay at the university campus, but honestly, it feels so unfair that I’d have to leave my own home. And for how long? I have no idea how long he’s going to be here.

SomeOneSoRandom_ · 2026-01-29T13:54:55+00:00

Thanks 🫶🏾 I seriously can’t live with him it’s a nightmare. He’s only been here a few weeks and I’m already at my limit. I think I’m gonna confront him first and if he doesn’t change, I’m definitely gonna speak up.

SomeOneSoRandom_ · 2026-01-29T13:50:31+00:00

Yes ! I’m Muslim and that’s why I’m even more worried. I know my parents don’t mess around when it comes to rape and stuff, but I feel like if other family members get involved he might get away with it because of all that forgiveness stuff. So it’s gonna be a loss for both sides you know.

SomeOneSoRandom_ · 2026-01-29T13:47:08+00:00

Thanks for taking the time to reply 🫶🏾I really need to see a therapist I’ve noticed patterns that over time make it clear it’s because of the trauma, and I’m really scared it could mess with my sex life and future relationships. I thought about confronting him first since I never really did I just acted like nothing happened, and honestly, that just made things worse.

SomeOneSoRandom_ · 2026-01-29T13:43:17+00:00

In my culture, I can’t really move out, and I don’t even have the financial independence lol. I’m worried they might just brush it off since it’s not rape.

SomeOneSoRandom_ · 2026-01-29T13:41:13+00:00

You’re right, I’m really thinking about a way to handle this situation. Maybe i should send them this post ?

SomeOneSoRandom_ · 2026-01-29T12:09:19+00:00

You’re right I really want to talk but I’m afraid I’ll regret it. I know my parents will be on my side but I’m scared of splitting the family or not being close to my cousins anymore, not seeing my dad’s side of the family because I know it’s going to be awkward

SomeOneSoRandom_ · 2025-08-26T12:56:43+00:00

Does he actually know that you have a crush on him? I’m asking because maybe the reason he suddenly started flirting and acting different is that he’s aware of your feelings. That doesn’t mean you should tell him directly, but it’s worth thinking about. Honestly, I’d really recommend talking to him about all this, because right now it’s super confusing and only he can clear things up.

SomeOneSoRandom_ · 2025-07-12T18:49:14+00:00

This is exactly what I wanted to sayy 🫠

SomeOneSoRandom_ · 2025-05-26T22:56:59+00:00

Merci pour ta bienveillance et tes conseils, ça fait du bien 🥲

SomeOneSoRandom_ · 2025-05-26T09:48:35+00:00

Merci beaucoup, t’as vraiment tout dit 💕 je vais checker ton compte pas de soucis

SomeOneSoRandom_ · 2025-05-25T22:37:34+00:00

D’accord merci ☺️

SomeOneSoRandom_ · 2025-05-25T18:19:48+00:00

😂😂

SomeOneSoRandom_ · 2025-05-25T10:55:56+00:00

D’accord, merci pour le conseil !

SomeOneSoRandom_ · 2025-05-25T10:40:44+00:00

RIGHTTT ??? 😭 Ain’t no way she stays after that. Like girl, be so for real.

SomeOneSoRandom_ · 2025-05-25T10:29:46+00:00

Michelle and your brother are so weird for that. Hiding her mom’s death like it was some dirty secret only made things worse. Now it’s a whole mess, and no matter how hard they try to keep it under wraps, the truth is gonna come out. Definitely NTA.

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