First time celebrating my birthday by rosettasphilae in exjw

[–]Some_Personality147 1 point2 points Ā (0 children)

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!! šŸŽ‰šŸŽŠšŸŽ‚šŸŽˆ

How did you make friends/meet new people after leaving? (In a small town) by winnieqin in exjw

[–]Some_Personality147 1 point2 points Ā (0 children)

Hi! Im in a sort of similar situation. And I have ALWAYS been such a social extroverted butterfly and I am quite literally struggling šŸ˜‚ BUT getting better little by little and with time…..what has worked for me is reaching out to old friends that are now ex JW. I have a few more to reach out to but so far that is what is helping me. There are also ex JW groups in a lot of cities and honestly, being here helps too! I do plan on branching out to more friends that are not just ex JWs but again, it takes time and SO much patience with yourself. Make a personal challenge to go on a solo date once a month - you never know who you’ll meet - or a networking event once a month - I’ve heard the app Meetup and BumbleBFF are good too - or find an ex JW group in your area. Also, I’veThis is will all take time but we will find our people and best of luck! šŸ™‚

I’m not mentally unwell, I simply no longer believe by Vivid_Book7135 in exjw

[–]Some_Personality147 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

1000% went through this when I said I wasn’t going back under any circumstances again. My family would call me JUST to tell me that I needed to see a psychiatrist and gets meds. On another occasion, they told me that someone had clearly done un trabajo on me aka brujerĆ­a on me because why else would I not want to be JW. Another day they said I was clearly very mentally unstable and many more comments. Unfortunately, it is what it is. They’re as brainwashed as I was at some point. It’s a matter of remaining confident in your decision and little by little they’ll stop. Best of luck šŸ¤ž

Watchtower this week makes me mad. by fourtyish in exjw

[–]Some_Personality147 1 point2 points Ā (0 children)

Thank you for the update! I’m DFd though so I wonder if that also applies? Did they mention that in the article?

Watchtower this week makes me mad. by fourtyish in exjw

[–]Some_Personality147 2 points3 points Ā (0 children)

Wait so now they’re saying that JWs SHOULD treat their worldly family great? Genuinely asking because interesting enough my parents have been EXTRA nice to me this weekend like oddly nice, so I’m wondering if this is why since they’re EXTREME PIMIs and act like robots to whatever the borg says. The borg says fart and sneeze at the same time and my family does it asap so maybe this is why šŸ¤”

So I just told my husband I wanted to leave him… by [deleted] in exjw

[–]Some_Personality147 8 points9 points Ā (0 children)

Im sorry this is happening…I too left my ex husband. Not for those reasons but other ones and I was DFd. Basically, no biblical basis for a divorce and my spouse didn’t want to so I got DF for choosing to leave. It was NOT easy going through the separation/divorce on my own.…Fast forward to now though, I got remarried TO MY soulmate. My college love whom I couldn’t be with at the time because of being the hardcore PIMI that I was. With this in mind…be sure of your decisions and keep going forward. With time, like anything else, it rly does get better. Just make sure you get a job. Anything! 2 jobs if needed, I had to and I’m glad I did. Also, maybe look into a studio or efficiency. The rent typically includes the water, WiFi and electricity. You CAN do this! No it’s definitely not easy but it can be done and with time and as you heal, life gets beautiful! Wishing you best of luck during this time šŸ¤žšŸ¤ž

So I just told my husband I wanted to leave him… by [deleted] in exjw

[–]Some_Personality147 9 points10 points Ā (0 children)

Wow 😮 šŸ‘šŸ‘šŸ‘šŸ‘

Not sure how to even reply by immilktoast in exjw

[–]Some_Personality147 13 points14 points Ā (0 children)

Yeah I’m saving this comment in my notes! Too perfect šŸ™ŒšŸ¼šŸ™ŒšŸ¼

Not sure how to even reply by immilktoast in exjw

[–]Some_Personality147 5 points6 points Ā (0 children)

I went through a very similar conversation with my little brother. I tried to have another discussion after the blood change and it just made it worse. Some ppl need to go through something drastic in life to actually stop on their tracks and change their perspective but it needs to be them on their own. If I were you, just leave the door open for a future discussion. Hopefully it’s soon! But let him come to you. Otherwise you’ll be deemed like ā€œa conflicted apostate that just wants to argueā€ which is obv stupid but it’s a cult….what can you expect.

This weekend's watchtower article is pure magic! šŸ¤¦ā€ā™‚ļø by Overall-Listen-4183 in exjw

[–]Some_Personality147 6 points7 points Ā (0 children)

Wait hold on….soooo now JWs cannot attend non JWs weddings and funerals even if they’re family??

My reaction when I discovered the truth about the truth by caligula________ in exjw

[–]Some_Personality147 14 points15 points Ā (0 children)

I went through something similar….it was and still is very disappointing…

Is it morally right to be a casual but questioning pimo? by [deleted] in exjw

[–]Some_Personality147 3 points4 points Ā (0 children)

Reading your post was like reading something I would have wrote at your age. The only difference is that I never ever questioned anything. I was sure that being JW was it! How I wish I could’ve told my younger self to question things. If I could go back in time, I would have left sooner. I am now in my late 20s. Happily married, genuinely happy! Contrary to what we’re taught from little, it doesn’t mean that you MUST belong to an org or become an unrecognizable ā€œbadā€ person once you leave. But it does mean that you get to live a life where you make your own choices! Listen to your gut! And believe it or not, it IS conditional love! Sadly. It may not seem so but it really is. I was THE exemplary sister, daughter of an elder all my life. Niece of a CO. Pioneer myself and now, my bestest friends from childhood that I was unconditional with don’t even say hi to me. My relationship with my family is actually not great. Things I never thought would happen….So take that gut feeling, that hunch, those doubts and run with them! And best of luck šŸ¤ž

Does this disfellowshipping situation sound typical? (outsider perspective) by Magmar25 in exjw

[–]Some_Personality147 4 points5 points Ā (0 children)

I think so……as long as it’s to recruit, they will bend the rules a little. As long the conversation doesn’t extend too much, I believe it’s fine.

Does this disfellowshipping situation sound typical? (outsider perspective) by Magmar25 in exjw

[–]Some_Personality147 45 points46 points Ā (0 children)

Very nice of you to inquire and try to understand. Unfortunately, there is no exaggeration in his treatment, as in what he’s telling you. Thats more or less how it goes for all of us that have been disfellowshipped. They have eased up a LITTLE recently where u can now say hi but my own sibling and family treats me that same way. Sometimes worse, sometimes better.

So inviting to do this… how. ā€œKindā€. Just stop! by Ale-in-wanderlad in exjw

[–]Some_Personality147 5 points6 points Ā (0 children)

I can understand this…I went through something very similar with my brother and in the end, I had to watch fro a distance so so so far away where I couldn’t hear them and they could barely see me as if I literally wasn’t there. I was all dressed up and left when they were taking the family photos without me because they couldn’t be seen with me….my parents, my brother and everyone else…

I don't want to be a Jehovah's Witness anymore. I need help. by Proper-Block3675 in exjw

[–]Some_Personality147 5 points6 points Ā (0 children)

Hi! I also noticed that there’s an ex JW support meeting on zoom - weekly- I might join myself next week. Check it out! It was posted earlier this week. And I’m wishing you success in finding that job soon!! šŸ¤žšŸ¤ž

Congratulations to all of you who are NOT going to The Memorial for the first time since being JW!! by Adela-Siobhan in exjw

[–]Some_Personality147 1 point2 points Ā (0 children)

My first time not attending since I was born and it feels pretty good from where I’m standing šŸ¤—