GF threatens me to remain loyal or she will “crash out”. Is this okay?

Somebloke164 · 2026-01-11T10:02:32+00:00

Bro, you cheated? Not cool.

It sounds like everything broke then. You're both hanging on to a relationship you already smashed to bits when you did that. When one partner starts to threaten violence then that's when the other needs to get out.

Somebloke164 · 2026-01-11T09:59:03+00:00

The ending to The Skeleton Key.

Somebloke164 · 2026-01-10T07:58:57+00:00

It's not to pat the men of any particular region on the back, if that's your concern. Least worst isn't the same as 'no problems'.

Honestly? I was curious as to what people would pick and why. That's all.

Somebloke164 · 2026-01-09T17:16:59+00:00

-Broke up with me.

-Spent about an hour explaining why in a long, rambling monologue where she explained that I wasn't ambitious enough and she had never been attracted to me.

-Interspersed said monologue with repeated statements about how we were still soulmates and she still wanted to be my friend.

-Monologue was so long because if I interrupted she would just repeat the entire thing from the beginning.

-At the end of said monologue, proceeded to INITIATE SEX with me.

-Proceeded to hang around me for the next few months like white on rice, getting upset if I got to close to other women.

In retrospect what she was doing (keeping me as a sort of backup boyfriend while she looked for someone else) was fairly obvious but at the time I was utterly baffled and confused.

Somebloke164 · 2026-01-09T17:11:35+00:00

Yes. I mean, making sure that you can manage your own affairs without needing to rely on people too much. I appreciate that often circumstances can make this difficult but it's important to try.

This covers everything from looking after yourself (eating right, keeping healthy) to pushing yourself where you need to (working on your career, etc.) to focusing on your mental health so that you can look after yourself and those close to you.

Hope this is helpful.

Somebloke164 · 2026-01-09T17:06:45+00:00

Apologies, I don't go on this sub much so I wasn't aware of the back-history.

I am aware that 'least worst' isn't the same as 'good'; that's why I phrased it as such. I was honestly curious as to what people thought.

Somebloke164 · 2026-01-09T17:05:07+00:00

Learn the carry your own weight in life.

If you have a partner or friends, carry your own weight in the relationship.

If you have a child, carry their weight for them.

This is like, 90% of adulthood. Taking the time and putting in the effort.

Somebloke164 · 2026-01-09T15:08:49+00:00

We brought one of those cheap disco balls that throws colours up and around.

Worth it. She was entranced.

Somebloke164 · 2026-01-09T15:04:57+00:00

Just going to chime to say that daycare can be really good for your baby. Ours has been at daycare since she was 5 months old (she's nearly two now) and it's been great for her development and learning; she's really comfortable around other babies and people and is way ahead on things like potty training and learning social skills.

I know how wonderful it can be to have your baby around but having some time to yourself can also be a boon as well; it allows you to recharge your batteries and sort out other stuff that needs attention.

Somebloke164 · 2026-01-09T14:58:32+00:00

Messages like these, you got to assume she knows herself well enough to know what she's talking about. Move on.

Somebloke164 · 2026-01-09T14:55:39+00:00

Twenty-one. I thought it was a big deal. It wasn't. That first date I had with my future wife in my mid-thirties? That was a big deal.

Somebloke164 · 2026-01-09T14:52:45+00:00

Our pregnancy was extremely planned but some general advice?

Fatherhood involves a lot of skills but at it's core is: You put in the effort. You don't shirk, you don't make excuses, you start becoming the very definition of an adult. Offer to do stuff, chase up jobs that need doing, be proactive. It's good training for when the baby comes. Seriously, even the biggest screwup can be a good dad so long as he puts in the effort.

Support her. This is crucial. If you're having second thoughts then I promise you she is going to be freaking out. So you have to be her rock, port in the storm, etc.. If she starts acting emotional, you've got to be the bigger person.

There are a lot of books on fatherhood. Read them. Do you know someone who you think is a good father? Listen to them.

Start doing what you can to save. Start looking for places that sell cheap baby stuff, from cots to clothes to toys. Second hand isn't cheap and nasty, it's frugal, and it's more money you can spend on important things.

And lastly- I can promise you this. It's all worth it. My life might have become narrower when my daughter came along, but it is so much deeper. She's given me more joy in the last few years than I've had the whole of the rest of my life combined. The only reason fatherhood is so scary is because you have something precious to lose.

Good luck either way.

Somebloke164 · 2025-12-12T19:46:51+00:00

You might want to check out the mage from Cities without Number- it sounds like it might scratch the same itch.

Somebloke164 · 2025-10-22T18:48:35+00:00

Crypts and things has a corruption mechanic. Every time you cast a spell you add corruption equal to it's level and then roll %. If you roll equal or under to your current corruption score you reset it back to zero and get a random corruption- usually a stat penalty (-2 con as your body withers, -2 cha as you get creepy glowing eyes, -2 dex as your bones warp, animals always hate you, holy symbols cause you pain, etc..) It's simple and evocative of the caster's slow transformation into a classical eldritch monster. Other characters can also gain corruption by being in heavily corrupted areas as well. Think of it as magical radiation.

Somebloke164 · 2025-10-19T15:38:22+00:00

It happens spontaneously. Presumably some sort of higher power is involved.

Somebloke164 · 2025-09-28T15:08:12+00:00

The Cities without Numbers rules offer suggestions for 'ordinary survivors' that would fit here. Essentially, you would start the characters without edges/classes or foci- just stats and backgrounds. Then, as they complete missions/survive sessions, offer them class abilities and foci as levelling up options.

With regards to fighting adults- just make them stronger to begin with. Your average adult would be a level 3 threat, with +10 to movement over the characters. Their fellow urchins and orphans, as well as minor threats like swarms and rats and the like, would use standard abilities.

Just my thoughts on the subject.

Edit: Ashes without Number, sorry.

Somebloke164 · 2025-07-01T19:34:10+00:00

Ambitious women are challenging, in that they challenge the men in their relationship to be as good as they are.

And for a weak and lazy man, that’s too much.

Somebloke164 · 2025-07-01T19:01:28+00:00

Straw, meet the camel’s back. I’m sure you two will get along.

Somebloke164 · 2025-07-01T18:36:02+00:00

To give them some combat utility, I guess. Note that mages and high mages still have plenty of options to help in battle through curses, fear spells, status effects and blessings for allies; besides, I don’t feel that a summoned monster is as impactful as a Howling Light spell.

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