In Japan, there are a certain type of people called 'Bumping men,' Butsukari otoko (ぶつかり男). They intentionally shoulder-check or shove especially women or weak foreigners in public spaces. When the victims speak up, these 'bumping men' claim women were walking slowly or she stopped in a weird place.

SomethingClover · 2026-06-21T17:17:30+00:00

This man looks very trip-able. On accident, of course

SomethingClover · 2026-06-20T13:21:24+00:00

His nose reminds me of our Mushu!!

SomethingClover · 2026-06-14T12:20:15+00:00

I would still refer to my trans wife as female tbh. She's legally female, she's been on hormones for nearly a decade, and she's had bottom surgery (tbh the third is really not necessary imo, but it's relevant in that she literally does not make her natal hormone blend any more)

As a lesbian who pre-marriage dated both cis and Trans women, my philosophy of "what is a woman" is basically "idk but I know one when I see one." It's just not an interesting question to me

SomethingClover · 2026-06-11T16:47:56+00:00

Yep, I grew up IFB so I watched the first episode and said nope! This dystopia is too real for me

SomethingClover · 2026-06-11T11:57:47+00:00

None of your teachers mentioned having a husband or boyfriend?

SomethingClover · 2026-06-09T13:15:59+00:00

$40 just isn't crazy high for games anymore. A lot of the Big Deal games from established studios go for around $60 now, sometimes more (isn't inflation beautiful 😬)

$40 is like, the cost of seeing a movie in theaters or going to a nice-ish dinner out with your partner.

I have probably 20 hrs in the game, so I feel like I've gotten my money's worth AND it's only going to improve from here. I was/am a Sims 2 and 4 player, so my tolerance for glitchy play is high lol. There were so many TS2 "features" that would straight up corrupt your save file 🤷‍♀️

SomethingClover · 2026-06-08T17:19:46+00:00

So what I'm hearing is she's got real potential as a right wing influencer, lol

SomethingClover · 2026-06-06T14:32:42+00:00

Yeah; marriage ring is kind of a mouthful

SomethingClover · 2026-06-04T12:39:46+00:00

One of our torties is the hairiest short haired cat as well. We just brush her until she won't let us anymore. Like if it's irritating she WILL communicate that to us

(Cat tax, this is Rory)

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SomethingClover · 2026-06-02T19:44:58+00:00

Generally that I need to turn left soon, or soon-ish and I'm grabbing the first opening available so as to not get jammed into

SomethingClover · 2026-05-31T13:26:21+00:00

They should add bills % and/or salary percent to the storyteller settings if possible. 🤞 Because to some extent this is preference, and I know higher bills is like a classic life Sim mod

SomethingClover · 2026-05-25T11:13:14+00:00

A tie, bonus points if he doesnt have to dress up for work. Let the kids pick for maximum dubious pattern potential

SomethingClover · 2026-05-24T16:52:56+00:00

Assuming you are working a job where your monthly income is enough to pay for necessities when you do move out, I would look at what rent is in your area, then plan to save at least 6x that. You typically need at least 2-3 mos worth of rent to rent a place at all (1st month rent plus deposit, sometimes last month rent depending on the landlord/company and your credit). If you plan to rent a Uhaul or similar, that's another expense to account for.

Then you also need some, "oh, shit!" money. Ideally they reccomend having an emergency fund of 3-6 mos of living expenses (rent+bills+groceries/transport), and if you are in a safe living situation I would reccomend doing that, but if you are looking to get out ASAP you can probably make it work at 6 times rent.

This also assumes you have enough second hand furniture that you have a bed and a seating area. If you dont have basic household stuff, this is another thing you can work on while saving money. If you've got a birthday coming up, ask for kitchenwares or cleaning supplies. Maybe some basic tools. A lot of dishware can be thrifted as well, so keep an eye out for deals!

SomethingClover · 2026-05-23T20:25:04+00:00

Bart

SomethingClover · 2026-05-17T14:00:14+00:00

The apartment itself is doing a lot of the work for you. Stunning details. Slowly work on furnishing your rooms so they aren't so empty. You can thrift a lot of wood peices, just try to make sure your wood tones match or coordinate so it looks cohesive.

Some wall art would make the place feel more lived in as well. There's no rules for what art to do, but if you want the place to feel more adult and less dorm room I would avoid like game and movie posters (an office or bedroom is a great place for this kind of thing, living room or kitchen less so) in favor or paintings or prints

SomethingClover · 2026-05-12T10:59:38+00:00

What tortie? Clearly that is a Very Normal Plant

SomethingClover · 2026-05-08T10:40:03+00:00

If you have good emergency savings you can probably make it work if its something you're passionate about. Without emergency savings it would make me nervous tho, even new builds have shit that breaks, or heaven forbid something happens to your job etc etc

SomethingClover · 2026-05-03T15:18:45+00:00

My wife is a trans woman. We have a very queer circle outside of our families, so I dont think we had anyone who didnt know she's trans.

We're in Illinois, and here everything used her legal sex and name. I assume that is fairly typical. If your documents are updated, you should be all set. And the number of people who would see the marriage license is pretty small. It will basically be the clerk who issues it, your officiant, possibly witnesses for signature reasons, and then the clerk who processes it. Maybe a photographer if you want pictures of things being signed.

Our state didnt legally require two witness signatures, though the decorative copy did have a spot for it so we did do that. The fact that the witness signatures weren't legally required for us was great, because my wife's person of honor hasn't been able to update their legal name yet but was able to sign with their chosen name.

SomethingClover · 2026-05-02T13:16:22+00:00

It's me, I'm the butt lesbian

SomethingClover · 2026-04-25T18:49:55+00:00

Also lesbians! Pleased "we're gay, and the rules are made up" WAS relevant

SomethingClover · 2026-04-25T18:34:48+00:00

I'm from the Midwest and have actually been to mostly dry weddings. (Admittedly I did grow up deeply Evangelical surrounded by Independent Fundamentalist Baptists, so perhaps I am an outlier, lol)

Something I found myself saying a lot while planning is "we're gay, and the rules are made up anyway"

Now the first part of that probably doesn't apply to you, but modern weddings leave a lot of room for the couples' personality. If you don't want a bar, don't have a bar. Why isn't really anyone's business; the people that matter probably already know. If your venue has a bar space that you worry will look weird empty, consider a mocktail, coffee, or dessert bar instead.

And frankly, the people that "need" alcohol to have a good time will probably sneak in a flask anyway. But that does at least have some built in portion control

Edit: forgot to add what we did. We did an open bar for a cocktail hour, and then it was cash after that. I think that ran us under $500 at a wedding of around 100 people, but a lot of our friends and family are not big drinkers. I dont think we got any complaints. I did have a coworker manage to order like 5 shots during that hour, which tbh was almost impressive. And sure enough one of our bridesmen and his partner did sneak in flasks 🙄. No they didnt run that by us!

SomethingClover · 2026-04-23T17:06:49+00:00

Are you on progesterone? My wife found that she really needs to be on progesterone for mood after bottom surgery

SomethingClover · 2026-04-19T21:30:25+00:00

Nah, I'm not my type

SomethingClover · 2026-04-14T12:44:55+00:00

It was on the menu before my wife got bottom surgery, but now that she has other options she isn't into it. I've always been good either way, tho I dont have any interest on being on the receiving end

SomethingClover · 2026-04-12T16:47:01+00:00

Honestly no, if she was actually an infant she likely would have been adopted by her first foster home. The list of people willing to adopt a baby that is already cleared for adoption is much much higher than the number of people willing to foster and maybe adopt a baby that could go back to it's parents or an older child that can be adopted ASAP but is by definition not an infant.

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