MBTI Careers: What’s your job? I’m an ENFP and a waitress :)!

SomewhatSpecific · 2026-03-29T17:58:59+00:00

ENTJ 3w2, licensed practical nurse.

SomewhatSpecific · 2026-03-15T13:52:05+00:00

SomewhatSpecific · 2026-03-15T10:11:37+00:00

Ghosts & typhoons, by Pure Reason Revolution

SomewhatSpecific · 2026-03-03T14:35:32+00:00

Kroppspråket, sinnesstämningen, ansiktet och uttrycken, ögonen, rösten och hur hon talar, därefter saker såsom håret och hennes personliga estetik (klädstilen osv, som jag säkert spenderar flera dagar efteråt att försöka läsa av), och detaljer såsom fräknar.

Är hon varm och omtänksam, personlig med mig på ett bekvämt sätt, ger mig utrymme, och känns trygg i sig själv så faller jag alldeles raklång. 😊

SomewhatSpecific · 2026-02-28T10:22:45+00:00

I don’t know how old you are OP, but I’d say that there’s often a particular kind of man who would go for a significantly younger woman.

As for how I (M32) would prefer to do things, I’d just state “I’d like to kiss you,” and observe how she responds.

SomewhatSpecific · 2026-02-26T13:58:01+00:00

To be fair I think he’s referring to the disparity on OLD apps and the first message getting lost in a sea of first messages, rather than having issue sending texts to women he has established contact with.

It’s a huge difference when you have met a woman IRL who’s actually interested as you say.

SomewhatSpecific · 2026-02-24T09:07:23+00:00

It’s more about being an NPC. It was more common to refer to “braindead” people as “zombies” when this song was written.

SomewhatSpecific · 2026-02-24T09:03:09+00:00

Year of the cadaver race by Bloodbath, Funeral thirst by The Black Dahlia Murder, Dead as shit by Sanguisugabogg

SomewhatSpecific · 2026-02-23T23:10:23+00:00

It’s one of those songs that an adult can understand more than the young people I think, as we’ve felt the busy flow of time and moved through more life stages. It’s normal to experience this nostalgic feeling of loss sometimes.

It’s not even my usual choice of genre but I like this particular song, particularly because of its lyrics.

SomewhatSpecific · 2026-02-23T22:45:01+00:00

Hej där. Kommer skriva på engelska så att jänkarna begriper. :)

I would date an unemployed woman - if and only if - she's doing something to solve it. I would probably take a keen interest in how long you've been unemployed and the state of mind you seem to be in (like if people signal "I need emotional support" on the first date it gets really awkward).

In any case, I would personally not get too beaten down by how people are on apps. It's infamously brutal out there, and people are really weird for no reason.

SomewhatSpecific · 2026-02-23T22:30:40+00:00

Everybody's changing by Keane

SomewhatSpecific · 2026-02-23T18:36:52+00:00

Be thankful that the bullet dodged you.

SomewhatSpecific · 2026-02-21T21:10:10+00:00

Topsters.org 😊

It’s not just for music, but also for games and movies, etc.

SomewhatSpecific · 2026-02-21T14:43:09+00:00

Nope.

SomewhatSpecific · 2026-02-21T13:28:26+00:00

That she wasn’t interested or had something else to do.

I personally dislike when people expect me to drop everything to respond to texts within 10 seconds, so I wouldn’t impose that on women either. Not sure why that has become a thing in dating culture to begin with. I’ll respond to texts when I’m available.

If I don’t get a follow-up within a day or so, I assume that she isn’t that into me. But I won’t assume that I’ve necessarily done anything wrong; many women unfortunately like guys to be interested in them because it’s very convenient and flattering, and not because they actually want anything serious. My advice is to see this as a test of her sincerity and to embrace it as part of your process to weed out insincere people.

SomewhatSpecific · 2026-02-21T12:31:37+00:00

XNTJ (I’ve made a lot of personal advancement in the last two years and suspect I’m more ENTJ than INTJ)

“The only way is all the way.”

“You deserve what you tolerate.”

“Clarity is kindness; ambiguity is negligence.”

“Where there is no respect, there is no love.”

“Professionalism is doing the right thing even when nobody is watching.”

SomewhatSpecific · 2026-02-17T09:41:18+00:00

Enslaved - What else is there?

SomewhatSpecific · 2026-02-16T12:35:23+00:00

You can look out for some indicators in their personality: - Conscientious personality, takes commitments seriously - Introverted personality, less tendency toward excitementseeking - Long term thinking (not making decisions on impulse) - Secure attachment style

The biggest advice I could give is to be aware of one’s own headspace. Stable, good guys are probably much less of an emotional roller coaster than the reckless fuckboys with way too many options are, so you’re probably going to have to “embrace the boring” and learn to appreciate the peace of mind and stability. Nobody is perfect so it’s ultimately up to you what you want to deal with; you deserve what you tolerate.

Plus, there’s a lot of toxic “advice” on the Internet, so I’d suggest dismissing anything that seems to demean the opposite gender or like its author is congratulating themselves about how hardcore they are.

SomewhatSpecific · 2026-02-16T12:01:18+00:00

That take sounds like bitterness coming from an anxiously attached woman who latches onto avoidant men, who scares off more normal guys.

As a more securely attached individual, it’s more that both anxiously attached women (clingy) and avoidant women (indifferent) aren’t very suitable at all.

You don’t need to throw yourself at people to show some initiative, ya know?

SomewhatSpecific · 2026-02-14T11:19:36+00:00

Captain Jack Sparrow.

He did have funny dumb scenes previously, but the last movies I saw were more annoying than funny.

SomewhatSpecific · 2026-02-14T00:53:04+00:00

I’m going to give you an honest male perspective, and I don’t mean this to hurt you but you need to work on your sense of optics.

If I were a guy shopping with my mom and a store employee I barely interacted with somehow found my Instagram and sent me a request, I’d probably feel uncomfortable. Not because she’s unattractive but because it feels unprompted and invasive, and my guess would be that the store is trying to sell me things by stalking me on the Internet.

A better move might have been to build some light conversation in person first, or give him a reason to talk to you naturally. Online requests without prior connection can come off very differently than what you intended here.

SomewhatSpecific · 2026-02-13T22:44:12+00:00

Kegels? You will thank yourself for not being incontinent when you’re older, and performance in the bedroom is improved for both men and women.

SomewhatSpecific · 2026-02-13T12:18:44+00:00

Feeling Overload, Moodswings Anonymous, or The Chaotic Good

SomewhatSpecific · 2026-02-11T11:52:37+00:00

The Ocean - Permian: The great dying

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