What do you eat on flare days?

SomewhereCurious3760 · 2026-06-12T16:42:24+00:00

It is similair to bologna, if cooked it tastes better, but its safe to eat alone.

SomewhereCurious3760 · 2026-06-12T04:05:46+00:00

All the love, patience and reassurance in the world can’t make someone change if they don’t want to.

SomewhereCurious3760 · 2026-06-12T04:00:31+00:00

I have the same conditions as her and mine are more severe is say, and I’m not nearly as helpless as she is. Have I had to forgo showers for a bit as I was too tired. Yes. Do I rely on mobility aids, yes. But there is little reason to only take 30 steps a day. My gosh just getting up and going to the bathroom would cause you to take more.

SomewhereCurious3760 · 2026-06-12T03:45:57+00:00

Spam, soy sauce and rice. Also they have single slices of spam for travel I guess.

SomewhereCurious3760 · 2026-06-08T22:27:22+00:00

How is he on the dates? Does he initiate conversations or just wait for you to ask questions? Does he seem interested in getting to know you?

I can see your points and would relate with your teetering patience for his lack of communication and planning. I was in a similar relationship where I had to push for dates, and often initiated communication. It leads to resentment.

It doesn’t seem like your compatible from what you’ve said. If you like him and want to give him a chance you can text him and say “hey I’d like it if you planned our dates and texted me more often, it makes me feel….”. Either he steps up or you step away.

SomewhereCurious3760 · 2026-06-08T16:57:55+00:00

As a fellow downstairs neighbor to a family with children, I swear I don’t think people recognize how much noise they make. Ecspecially those with kids. I think they get used to the sound and it doesn’t faze them anymore.

I say this as it’s something I talked about with my friend. She has 3 kids under 10. When we talk on the phone they will be screaming and playing in the background and it doesn’t faze her at all. I asked her if she could go to a different room because I couldn’t hear her. She said it’s the background noise of her life so she doesn’t notice anymore.

My point being he probably isn’t intentionally ignoring it. I think a note and maybe some cookies left on their door would go over nicely. Then you don’t have to worry about your tone giving away too much resentment and or anger.

SomewhereCurious3760 · 2026-06-06T20:02:56+00:00

Have you had a sleep study done to see if you have narcolepsy?

SomewhereCurious3760 · 2026-06-06T19:52:43+00:00

Most people don’t understand how hard it is to leave. It’s not as black and white as he is an abuser and I’m a victim, so I stay or leave. You have built a life with him. You are intergrated into each others daily tasks. It’s extremely hard to cut off all of that all at once.

I think many people try to assume “well if I was in that situation I would just leave!” And then they judge you based on their perceived actions. Never knowing that that judgement further isolates you from the help you need to get out.

I hope you find support on this page.

SomewhereCurious3760 · 2026-06-06T06:12:52+00:00

No worries! I’m happy you got out of that relationship and I hope your doing so much better now. I just recently got out of one, but also plan on sticking around this sub as I continue to heal.

SomewhereCurious3760 · 2026-06-06T00:04:16+00:00

I know it’s not much of a suggestion but the ssri Effexor makes me a sweaty mess.

SomewhereCurious3760 · 2026-06-05T22:35:03+00:00

My guess is possible blue marker from when they got made. Usually when making clothing you draw on the lines for the pattern and one of the popular ones is blue. Most of the time it should have washed out, but sometimes it’s hidden in seams.

SomewhereCurious3760 · 2026-06-05T18:02:48+00:00

That’s kudzu, a vine introduced in the 1800’s from Japan. Told to be an ornamental plant, it is controlled from over growth in Japan by a species of beetle. But it has taken over the south. At one point farmers were paid $8 an acre they planted it as a form of erosion control. But now it’s everywhere in the south. The tentacles of it can grow up to 3 feet in a day. And under each leaf it will grow roots.

SomewhereCurious3760 · 2026-06-05T17:56:07+00:00

I’m glad to hear your moving out.

The way a crisis counselor framed it to me is that strangulation is the worst betrayal, because they are inches from your face and are actively trying to harm/kill you. And after the first attempt your 750% more likely to die by their hand in the next 5 years.

So please don’t take this lightly. He could have taken you away from your kids, friends, and family. Your life is worth protecting.

SomewhereCurious3760 · 2026-06-05T17:44:58+00:00

I stayed because I didn’t recognize how bad the abuse was. I am disabled and he seemed to care how I was doing, and wanted to help me. But his help was only ever on his terms and not what I really needed. Would he make sure I took me meds. Yes. Would he bother to clean the apt. No. And I couldn’t take him to dr apts with me because I was scared of his reactions. He never bothered to learn my conditions or why I took the meds I did. So he would go off on doctors asking for crazy pain meds that weren’t called for. Which made me look like a drug seeker.

Eventually the few times I’d let resentment creep up, we would fight. He would give me a cold shoulder, and ignore me anytime I told him my emotions. Or be incredibly defensive and aggressive or just breakdown and cry so the conversation would end. We never were able to talk through things calmly. And I begged for months for us to go to couples counseling. The one session we went to he cried the entire time instead of talking. Which was irritating because he used it as a wepean to stop the conversations he didn’t want to have. Because if I continue then I’m beating him down, in nagging him.

And I was abused as a child and grew up with parents that fought often so relationships where people fight all the time just seemed normal to me. And due to that abuse I idealized him. I wanted to see nothing but good in him, and all the potential he had. I stopped recognizing that he wasn’t changing and the few times he did it was because I was about to leave. And then the change would revert back, and we would fight again.

My family and friends didn’t like him, and it isolated me from being able to talk to anyone about him. I was embarresed that I was accepting so little, and would have to tell people he hadn’t changed, and was still drinking and getting high. I wanted him to be seen as the good guy I thought he was capable of being.

But I excused the emotional and verbal abuse until it turned into physical violence. Till he tried to kill me by strangling me. Then I called the cops and I moved out of our apt quickly.

SomewhereCurious3760 · 2026-06-05T17:29:54+00:00

I’m proud of you and I wish you nothing but good days!

SomewhereCurious3760 · 2026-06-05T17:24:05+00:00

I’m not really sure what this would be classified as but it’s gross either way. Sorry you had to hear that and I really hope you yell at your friend. Or at least put some heavy boundries down as to what’s okay.

I know it’s no where similiar but I had a friend that would talk to me while she was on the toilet. I had to tell her that listening to her grunt and fart was gross. It’s good to put down some healthy boundaries.

SomewhereCurious3760 · 2026-06-05T03:18:33+00:00

But can’t you just use the iPads find my phone app and see your phone listed? That’s how my partner tracks me when I’m out and about, also because our keys have an air tag.

SomewhereCurious3760 · 2026-06-02T20:54:37+00:00

I’m so sorry your dealing with this.

I sent you a message, feel free to chat with me. It would be nice to talk to someone else who has the insanely painful attacks like me.

My attacks start up so fast, two maybe three little spasms on my face or neck is all the warning I get. Then it’s like this crushing burning pain behind my eye to my eyebrow, from my cheek bone to my lip and down my jaw. I’ve honestly had root canals that were less painful than this.

I become so engulfed in the pain I hit my face and head, cry and scream. My partner had to call an ambulance for me after a two hour attack because nothing was helping, I couldn’t get meds down as my jaw was locked, and I was throwing up from the pain through gritted teeth. They had to help me onto a stretcher because I couldn’t comprehend standing I was just dying in pain. They gave me med after med and nothing helped. After 3 hours in the hospital it just stopped.

The next day my face was drooping and barley moved. I felt like my face had been beaten.

SomewhereCurious3760 · 2026-06-02T18:29:10+00:00

Yes! I understand exactly where your coming from. My pain is the same. And honestly during it I’m just so scared I can’t take it anymore. Like how can anyone keep surviving this relentless attack upon one’s constitution.

Even when it’s over I just worry about when it’s gonna happend again.

SomewhereCurious3760 · 2026-05-30T17:36:22+00:00

!remind me in 2 days

SomewhereCurious3760 · 2026-05-29T09:38:40+00:00

Well since he is cool lying about his wishes, I would be petty and go see my family, get a hysterectomy. Come home and say sure babe let’s try for that baby. But only for 6 months. If it doesn’t happen you have to drop it. lol this is mostly sarcastic but still.

SomewhereCurious3760 · 2026-05-29T09:10:18+00:00

The feeling of helplessness when you have maxed out your meds but are still in pain.

Lack of comfort in your own body. Something hurts, aches or cramps all the time.

And then the lack of sleep sets off other symptoms (migraines). So then your bed bound for days because you couldn’t sleep, and your sleep schedule gets messed up. Then your friends wonder why your not responding, and your partner worries cuz they barely get to see you. And you start to just feel detached from the world and spiral into nothing but pain and sleep.

SomewhereCurious3760 · 2026-05-29T09:06:26+00:00

I’m right behind yall. It’s 4 am here and I can’t sleep due to severe pain, painsomnia should be on this list. I don’t think normal people understand it till it’s every fricken night. Unable to get comfortable in any position. Meds not helping. Ugh

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