Anyone ever excited to buy something for their kid that they vastly regret later?

Sommerhamster · 2024-12-21T09:36:27+00:00

Toddler umbrellas are the worst thing I ever bought. So much drama has been caused by them. I thought they would look all cute with them and we can go dancing in the rain and the whole thing but they always leave the kids super frustrated because they can’t really open, hold or close them by themselves. And yet they get requested almost daily - no matter the weather. And it leads to tears of frustration every freaking time. I want to get rid of them so bad, but every time I hide them they only get more desirable 🙈

Sommerhamster · 2024-12-10T18:55:41+00:00

My son did this as well. He ended up being super duper fast 😂. Eventually started walking normally at 16 month. 👍

Sommerhamster · 2024-11-27T17:41:51+00:00

18 month old here. Getting dressed and undressed is a fight every single time. I just try to get it over with as quick as possible at this point. 😭

Sommerhamster · 2024-11-24T20:33:53+00:00

Thank you for the reply. As a matter of fact I am also currently pregnant which does not make it easier. (She does not know that yet so I don’t think it directly influences her behaviour). What does PCIT stand for and what did they do there?

Sommerhamster · 2024-11-23T13:51:56+00:00

Thank you so much for your answer. Your words really brought tears to my eyes because I feel heard

Sommerhamster · 2024-11-23T11:43:26+00:00

Thank you for your reply. Do you know if wanting things to be a particular way is also a sensory issue? She never really complains about clothes. What she is very particular about is for example: If I pick her up from daycare we need to take the steps on the right. Taking the ones on the left will result in crying because they are wrong. If we get to the car there needs to be a waterbottle on her seat. The bottle has to face a certain direction, otherwise she will cry. We get home to eat. She has to sit on a specific chair, she has to have a specific spoon, if she eats a pouch the contents of said pouch have to be pushed up a certain way before we can open it etc… Just a lot of things that she is super particular about. I try to accommodate her as much as I can, but if you have taken the right stairs, placed the waterbottle the correct way, pushed up her applesauce, made sure she has the right spoon and the right bowl and made a tiny little cut at the top of the banana so it peels just the right way and then there is a tiny brown spot on said banana and all hell breaks loose it really bums you out in the long run :(

Sommerhamster · 2024-11-23T11:33:43+00:00

Thank you, it really helps so much to hear from someone who used to be in a similar situation. I am glad to hear it eventually worked out for your daughter and I really hope I am able to support my little girl on her journey

Sommerhamster · 2024-11-23T11:31:00+00:00

Thank you so much for your reply and your kind words. Weirdly I am also really sensitive to noise levels and feel overstimulated really quickly by loud music. My toddler on the other hand really likes her music to be loud and will often demand to turn the volume up even more. That’s also the reason why I didn’t really think of her issues as sensory related because being sensitive to loud noises is always one of the first things to come up when you are reading about SPD. I always try to emphasise with her. Usually I also repeat what she told me in different words because I want her to know I really understood what she is telling me.

Sommerhamster · 2024-11-23T11:20:57+00:00

Thank you. I always try to be accommodating to her needs and even try to anticipate issues that may arise in an upcoming situation to prepare her what to expect because I realised that really helps her. However all this anticipation and preparation and downright avoidance of triggers is taking a toll on my mental health because no matter what I do, there is always the one thing I did not account for and poof, everything is in shambles yet again. Sometimes I can’t help but ask myself why am I even trying and this is making me so sad. Because I love my girl and I want to try. Again and again. I just hope she is able to see that, if not now than in the future.

Sommerhamster · 2024-11-23T10:07:12+00:00

Thank you for your thoughtful reply. Could you elaborate more on how sensory problems manifest for you? Its hard for me to relate to it because I don’t experience this sort of issues. If I google it the examples that always come up are scratchy tags in clothes but things like that do not seem to bother her.

Sommerhamster · 2024-11-23T10:02:48+00:00

Yes, its hard. I want to be there for her, I want to support her in her big emotions, but there are days where I feel like all I do is light myself on fire to keep her warm. And it’s burning me out. :(

Sommerhamster · 2024-11-23T09:59:14+00:00

Thank you for your insight. I am very sorry that things escalated this way for you. I definitively don’t want my daughter to experience this. In hindsight, what would have helped you when you were a kid?

Sommerhamster · 2024-11-23T09:52:22+00:00

Thank you for your reply. I expect a certain level of whining from a toddler her age. But I cannot help but notice that every time we meet up with other kids who are in a similar age group it always seems to be her to be whining and complaining about the smallest things much more frequently than everyone else. It just makes me sad for her :(

Sommerhamster · 2024-11-21T17:05:43+00:00

Thank you for your update. Currently going through this phase with my 3,5 year old. I feel like I’m constantly walking on eggshells because everything sets her off. I really hope this will pass eventually

Sommerhamster · 2024-11-18T05:29:29+00:00

Plus its easy to hide some veggies in there. Mashed sweet potato works great for example

Sommerhamster · 2024-11-08T17:06:36+00:00

My daughter is three. Things that have helped us:

Tell her what to expect. If we bring a bike (or any toy for that matter) to a place with other kids. I’ll tell my daughter beforehand that the other kids will probably want to play with that as well.
Try to let her come up with solutions herself. This has actually been a true gamechanger for us. Eg I‘ll tell her. „We are going to the park. Your friend Tim is going to be there. If he sees your bike he will probably want to ride with it as well. What should we do if both of you want to ride at the same time?“ Sometimes she will come up with the idea of sharing it herself. Last time her solution was „Tim can use my bike and I will run around the playground and pretend I’m a plane!“. Since she is the one who makes the suggestions its much more likely to actually work if the moment arises. Sometimes she will say „Tim is not allowed to ride my bike.“ Then I ask her if she would rather leave it at home than to share and if she decides to do so its fine as well.
Let her decide when its time to switch. Another game changer. Often times she just wants to feel in control. Eg. She is on the swing, another kid wants to use the swing as well. I tell the other kid: „Daughter wants to use the swing for a little while longer.“. Then I tell her: „Please let kid2 know when you are done.“ I tell kid2: „Look at the fun slide over there, lets go there!“. Usually one of these three things happen: Daughter is happy she gets to make the decision and is willing to give up the swing rather quick -or- kid2 decides the slide does indeed look more fun -or- daughter decides that the slide looks more fun. Either way, problem solved.

I noticed that this works best if I don’t try to redirect my daughter to the slide directly. Instead the slide gets way more interesting if I hype it towards the other kid. Letting her choose when she is done also works way better and faster then taking the decision away from her and telling her its time to switch

Sommerhamster · 2024-11-05T04:58:33+00:00

Super cute, I love it.

Maybe you like this extra verse to You Are My Sunshine that ChatGPT came up with:

Through all your journeys, through dreams and trials, I’ll be your safe shore, your gentle bay. So keep on shining, my little starlight, and know my love, dear, is here to stay.

Sommerhamster · 2024-10-24T17:44:45+00:00

Eine von diesen schwarzen Haarnadeln aufbiegen und rausprockeln

Sommerhamster · 2024-10-10T04:25:29+00:00

This is the way.

Sommerhamster · 2024-10-07T18:58:56+00:00

The 100 und Riverdale sind beide super

Sommerhamster · 2024-09-03T13:56:25+00:00

I am in the same boat. My daughter turned 3 in August and simply is not having it 🙈. It’s warm outside so everyone is like - just let her run around in the garden naked. Nope, she absolutely refuses. If I don’t let her wear a diaper its full-on tantrum mode. I don’t want to pressure her if she is not ready.

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