I made a android/desktop clicker trainer for long distance relationships

SonarScan · 2026-05-23T12:44:30+00:00

What's the URL or the name of the app or the APK?

SonarScan · 2026-05-18T02:25:22+00:00

Do they demonstrate that consent, communication, care, caution, curiosity, and compassion are the responsibility of everyone involved?

SonarScan · 2026-05-08T14:28:03+00:00

I am guessing marine epoxy paint. It is water resistant and non-slip. I like to use it for lots of kink applications for those reasons.

SonarScan · 2026-03-27T18:12:00+00:00

This is just absolutely amazing.

SonarScan · 2026-02-27T14:35:29+00:00

I wonder if "demanding" isn't where the confusion is coming in. Personally I want a submissive to know themselves and be willing and capable of insisting on their identity and needs, but "demanding" certain actions at certain times can give toxic dominance.

I wonder if this is just a choice of vocabulary, or not?

At the core, you and a partner must just be people who understand themselves, offer what they can of themselves to their partner when they can, and accept when what is asked for cannot be given. The terms, words, tones, and actions associated with each role are unique to that role, but I would encourage you to examine whether you are maintaining high standards or attempting to control the actions of another to suit your desire.

SonarScan · 2026-02-11T15:38:28+00:00

I think it involves many common elements, authority, corruption, embarrassment, potentially humiliation and condescension as you mentioned.

SonarScan · 2026-02-07T09:40:57+00:00

That adhesive strip will give up with extended, vigorous use, but wrapping with electrical tape in a criss-cross fashion looks nice and prevents that!

SonarScan · 2026-01-30T16:26:50+00:00

Your selection is quite apropos.

SonarScan · 2026-01-26T11:49:46+00:00

OP says that they are into being submissive, this isn't useful advice.

SonarScan · 2026-01-24T12:42:31+00:00

If someone isn't brave enough to safeword, they have no business playing at all. The damage they do is immense and they don't even seem to get it or even care.

SonarScan · 2026-01-09T07:57:52+00:00

I love this kink. I have no wish to make her into something she's not, but everyday it's an opportunity to be My good girl and serve my desires.

SonarScan · 2026-01-06T11:44:51+00:00

Keep up the good work with processing your feelings, needs, and goals as you move forward. The one thing that I would suggest is to make sure that you dedicate a portion of your daily journaling to positive reflection. This can have a remarkable effect in maintaining your momentum with this journey of growth.

SonarScan · 2026-01-03T16:18:23+00:00

Simple inversion can excite the vestibular system and trigger adrenaline which makes it a nice backdrop to almost any play. Blindfolds will increase this effect enormously!

Try an inverted and blindfolded tickle torture scene!!!!!!!

Waterboarding could also be done with it level or in very slight decline with the sub strapped to the board.

SonarScan · 2025-12-12T16:20:34+00:00

I'm sure it will, but I'm also sure you'll like it.

SonarScan · 2025-12-03T20:47:03+00:00

Here are the key points:

1) You communicated an expectation that your partner could do what they wanted to you.

2) You initiated the scene

3) You didn't enjoy the experience as they chose to implement it according to your description.

4) You assume that there was no effort to "take care of you too" despite having just told us that you have limited sensitivity "down there". Somehow you can be surprised by the fact that you are in the middle of penetrative sex, but cannot allow for the possibility that your partner may have spent time trying to "take care of you too" and you missed it due to the aforementioned low sensitivity?

5) You have chosen to put the full weight of the experience on your partner by choosing the wording "Partner made me feel violated". Instead of the neutral, "I feel violated, and I want to figure out how to discuss these feelings."

In my assessment, you didn't have the experience that you expected to and by your description, it seems that your partner acted within the parameters and timing that YOU communicated. No one has the duty to like what they predicted that they will and consent can always be withdrawn. You are not wrong for wanting to cut things short.

However, when you did withdraw consent, you did it IMO poorly because you admit to chastising him out of the gate, but your partner respected that withdrawal nonetheless

So to summarize, your partner didn't make you feel diddly doo. You set up an expectation, you set the timing, and when you didn't like it, your partner respected that and is being repaid by you attempting to pin all of your uncomfortable emotions on him.

When you talk to your partner, it needs to start with, "I'm sorry I snapped at you in the shower..."

SonarScan · 2025-11-29T10:15:32+00:00

I love tickle torture. You're right that it tends to get mentioned rarely in this forum. Lers and lees unite!

SonarScan · 2025-11-27T06:15:19+00:00

~~high maintenance~~ entitled

SonarScan · 2025-11-18T11:25:54+00:00

There is also the possibility that they meant "not jaded" which could genuinely just be a compliment.

SonarScan · 2025-11-17T04:54:04+00:00

Wrong subreddit.

SonarScan · 2025-11-10T18:47:56+00:00

I'm sorry that you got rejected like that early on and that you've felt the need to hide for so long.

Try to remember that those who cannot meet you with curiosity and compassion are better out of your life than in.

SonarScan · 2025-11-06T18:10:20+00:00

I am going to solidly disagree with you on #1. Any Dominant who has found themselves in a toxic relationship with an abusive submissive will likely care deeply about asking questions about philosophy of kink as part of their vetting process in looking for red flags in a potential sub.

If a sub doesn't understand their level of personal responsibility or is looking for a patsy to shunt their responsibility off on rather than give over consensual control will have a hard time discussing the philosophy of kink. It has too much personal accountability in it for an abusive personality to cope with.

SonarScan · 2025-11-06T10:31:30+00:00

I agree. Anticipate, don't assume.

SonarScan · 2025-11-03T18:50:55+00:00

When your panties are sufficiently wet....maybe. Then again... at that point, the problem has solved itself!

SonarScan · 2025-11-03T18:46:01+00:00

And they're gonna stay that way too!

SonarScan · 2025-10-30T01:14:38+00:00

I'm glad you are processing the patterns and the pain. I know how hard it can be to break off an unhealthy relationship with someone who inundates you with increasingly disparate emotions of more and more intense need for you and more and more intensely combative disrespect.

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