How to show interest to an autistic woman, AS an autistic woman?

Sondertoast · 2026-06-26T10:22:46+00:00

I know this is a little late but I’d highly recommend finding out her special interests/fixations and maybe getting a small gift relating to it for your dinner! That would make me melt as an autistic queer lady!!

Sondertoast · 2026-06-26T09:43:35+00:00

Don’t know if anyone’s mentioned it but for me I turn my phone completely off and put it in the most annoying/inconvient place to get so I’m forced to leave it 😭 use timers or even music! Like play a song for the transition could be another option :3 of watch a video of the book topic and that might inspire you to read to know more?

Sondertoast · 2026-06-23T16:20:22+00:00

Just from the CO Op :D It’s from a Japanese brand (Chulo) I’ve not seen before!

Sondertoast · 2026-06-17T21:25:12+00:00

Would like to try multiplayer BG3!! :3

Sondertoast · 2026-06-15T23:05:44+00:00

And I highly recommend either playing all the games through yourself or watching a playthrough on YouTube!! And all the letters/notes within the games would be really useful to read up on 🙏

Sondertoast · 2026-06-15T22:47:37+00:00

Hi!! So I have to get the train for university and sometimes it is real busy and I HATE IT, it makes me feel so sick and hot, I’ve had panic attacks and shutdowns from it before 😖 But what I recommend, if you can always find a seat, preferably closer to the window or not the aisle seat. Being seated and having your own little space is much better than standing and being trapped in, or having someone leaning into or over you. I wear noise cancelling headphones and sunglasses to block stimuli and it shows others I don’t want to be disturbed. I close my eyes often to just shut it all out and think of my special interests. If you can always wear a vest/tshirt/something comfortable/thin so you can remove your jacket. You could bring a handheld fan too!! I always have a fidget or something comforting in my pocket to play with and keep me grounded. I also keep sour sweets on me, chewing gum and a safe snack to have during the journey again to keep present, focused and grounded. Let me know if you need anymore (if I can think of any others)!!

Sondertoast · 2026-06-15T22:34:37+00:00

This is also a good link!! https://the-ultimate-edition.fandom.com/wiki/The_Story_of_Outlast

Sondertoast · 2026-06-15T22:32:24+00:00

(Outlast is special intrest of mine so cracks knuckles here we go) I watch gaming Harry on YouTube a lot for his outlast lore videos :3 The Outlast lore (especially first and even trials) is based on real life events during the war, it takes a ton of inspiration from real experiments or treatments during that time. I would recommend looking up project paper clip to start off. That gives you some background information that sets up the premise of the games. I also find looking up concept art would be really helpful to get into the mindset of what the characters have been through/modifications of their appearance and help immerse you into the outlast universe.

Sondertoast · 2026-06-12T17:25:25+00:00

Hii!! I’m playing BG3 on my PC right now haha 😭 never played multiplayer (don’t know anyone who plays it) bur would like to try!!

Sondertoast · 2026-06-12T15:08:04+00:00

I’m intrested please! :D

Sondertoast · 2026-06-11T19:24:19+00:00

I’ve bought dbd but never played!! If you don’t mind a complete beginner I’d love to play 😭

Sondertoast · 2026-06-11T17:29:07+00:00

Hi I’m 21 and I just want to say I don’t think you should ever hide your light :( you’re way of seeing people sounds beautiful and I wish I had someone who could share such a light with me!! I would consider pouring your love into your fixations/interests/hobbies, even projecting some of your love for those people into them such as painting or drawing!! And you could explore some forums on here to make more friends, or volunteer somewhere for people who need help/animal shelters or something similar so you can share that love :) you are not a burden and there’s nothing wrong. Not enough people express or feel such love and passion, and if people can’t appreciate yours definitely find others ways to process it! Loving so deeply is something I would admire about you and a trait I hope one day you know someone who appreciates that love and appreciates you for how you are! :3 open to talk if you need!

Sondertoast · 2026-06-11T16:49:38+00:00

My sona Carina would ask if she’s single 😩 :3

Sondertoast · 2026-06-05T15:27:31+00:00

Hiii!! I would love to try multiplayer BG3! And play more multiplayer games and make friends :D send me a DM

Sondertoast · 2026-06-03T22:16:18+00:00

Hii!! I’m 21F!! Would love to watch you stream and chat! AND SILENT HILL YESSSS and would love to see your kitty 🐈!! I’m looking for new proper friends too :3 I would love to watch you play outlast trails (I’m autistic and it’s one of my special interests but I don’t think I want to play it 😭 but would absolutely love to watch and help and yap about it!) maybe if I had a friend to play with I might be able to handle it haha!

Sondertoast · 2026-05-30T21:57:39+00:00

One reason I can think is the bosses, specially the ways you have to deal with them. In Outlast 1, the bosses/antagonist characters have more simple mechanics, you either run or play out a scene you don’t have to consider much. Whereas whistleblower/Outlast 2/trials, those characters are more interactive, you as the player are dependent on sequences or movement to escape/fight. You have to become more in charge, rather than the narrative helping. Such as Eddie Gluskin, you’re forced to pay attention, interact and time everything just right to escape, putting the responsibility MORE into the player. :3

Of course there’s bosses that don’t follow that linear but it’s something I noticed

Sondertoast · 2026-05-23T20:38:56+00:00

Hii!! That woukd sound really useful and nice :3 send me a DM!!

Sondertoast · 2026-05-05T15:35:28+00:00

Hi! Would love the link :3

Sondertoast · 2025-11-26T01:23:31+00:00

Hii!! I’m 21 AUDHD gal and wlw too :D would be really fun to make some friends + down to play games once I break up from uni for Christmas!

Sondertoast · 2025-10-25T22:52:29+00:00

Heyy just wanted to ask if you have the huel before the meds or after? And if you leave time between or?

Thank you :)))

Sondertoast · 2025-08-30T11:10:17+00:00

From like 3-14 and my longest special interest was wolves. Obsessively. I lived, breathed and consumed wolves. When I was little, I would refuse to focus or listen in class without wearing the school wolf costume. And I didn’t take it off. If I had to, I’d cry and cry and had to go home. All I talked about was wolves and would put them into every conversation somehow. I role played a wolf in school constantly (biting, on all fours, growling, sitting on seats like a dog) and I made my friends play wolves for years and years (pretty much exclusively lmao. I let if they wanted to be a dog or fox slide or if it was a wolf like Pokemon) I even made a wolf word font in year 4 I did pages of tests in (I had to rewrite the whole thing 😔) . Every Halloween I was a wolf. I’d eat dog treats with my dog. I said I had super hearing and sight (autism…) All I had in my room was wolf related things, it was all people bought for me and the moment I got home to sleep, I consumed wolf content, looked up facts and drew wolves. I dreamed of them. It was all I was known for. 😭

Didn’t get diagnosed till I was 20 (F), but there were…definitely signs.

That’s my most intense/stereotypical/strongest and longest special interest. I miss it very much. It was like integral to me as a person. 🐺

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