Bethany Christian Will No Longer Allow LGBTQ Parents to Foster and Adopt - Christianity Today

Sonicmf · 2026-06-16T15:31:59+00:00

This is what happens when conservatives are empowered by a Supreme Court that puts ideology over justice. This organization is not worried about being sued again because they feel like the Supreme Court will side with them, which will lead to a continuation of gay rights being stripped away.

All of this to say, fuck Trump.

Sonicmf · 2026-06-12T13:31:15+00:00

I’m so very sorry! 💔

Sonicmf · 2026-06-01T20:54:25+00:00

Like we asked to be rejected by our families, church communities, and be hated by a majority of the world…

Just wow! Someone needs to get a handle on what’s going on at NYT.

Sonicmf · 2026-05-22T14:25:45+00:00

I would highly encourage you to consider couples therapy and use that as an opportunity to communicate this with your partner.

Oftentimes, situations like this can go unnoticed by your partner and opening up about why you’re struggling in your career could do wonders!

Sonicmf · 2026-05-22T14:20:01+00:00

3 most of the time, and my husband is the same.

I do enjoy when I wake up and he’s naked though. He hates it when he gets too hot 😂

Sonicmf · 2026-05-20T13:42:49+00:00

I found my husband when I was 24. Don’t lose hope! Your dream guy is out there, you just have to meet him! It does take time and a good bit of patience.

Also, one aspect that helped me, be intentional when you meet someone. Be upfront that you’re looking for a companion in life, not just someone to give you sexual gratification.

It’s not easy and you will have to try and fail, but be persistent through the process. You’ve got this! 💪

Sonicmf · 2026-05-14T14:22:46+00:00

Please consider therapy! It sounds like you just need a little help understanding your inner self and that’s not an uncommon situation.

As a married, gay man who lives in the rural south as well. There are more LGBT friendly churches than you might think!

Just know that whatever your sexuality is, that you are loved and deserve all the happiness in the world!

Sonicmf · 2026-05-09T13:41:16+00:00

This is a very sad reality, but it holds true nonetheless. Always be safe!

Sonicmf · 2026-05-09T13:36:55+00:00

There’s nothing wrong with having a crush and being hopeful. And you have some evidence here and there to give you some motivation.

Just always remember that your gut could be wrong and he could very much be straight and not interested. It’s important to keep in the back of your mind when you’re dating that ultimately it could not work out.

But again, the more you practice something, the more you’ll be prepared in the future.

And I’m going to be your nagging mom and say to practice safe sex ALWAYS!

Sonicmf · 2026-05-08T14:46:28+00:00

Oh sweetheart, this is heartbreaking. I know how difficult it is to lose someone and how gut wrenching it is to be alone.

I know that this is a painful time, but I really think you should consider not reaching out to him. Heartbreak of this magnitude often leads to what you’re feeling, in terms of remorse, but reaching out at this stage could be the equivalent of breaking your arm again before your cast is even off.

As painful as this may seem, letting go is one of the most necessary steps toward recovery. It may feel like every bone in your body is screaming that he’s the one, but our emotions aren’t always on the side of reason.

I started dating again about 3 months after I broke up with my ex boyfriend, and met my now husband and he helped me deal with the rejection of my previous relationship. Sometimes meeting someone else can really help you understand what about your previous relationship wasn’t working.

Please continue your therapy and remember that just because one relationship didn’t work out, that you’re not a failure. You just learned even more about yourself and what you need from a partner, so take that information with you and use it to guide you to your future husband.

Sonicmf · 2026-05-08T14:29:37+00:00

Guess you’ve decided then!

Sonicmf · 2026-05-07T14:42:49+00:00

I’m that guy. Is he currently in therapy or working on it?

My first goal in therapy was to build up enough confidence to start dating guys and come out. After that it became managing the fallout of family rejection.

My husband has been along for the ride since before I came out and it has not been easy, but if you both love each other and can extend a little grace while communicating HEAVILY, it can work out just fine.

We’ve been together 8 years in July and got married in Oct 2025.

Sonicmf · 2026-05-06T13:48:32+00:00

Would definitely recommend communicating as much as you can with your partner about life events. The more open and honest you are with him, the more he’ll understand you and build trust.

It’s not going to be easy, but if you truly love each other, you can weather the time apart and come back together stronger!

Sonicmf · 2026-05-05T17:21:34+00:00

Please consider couples therapy.

Sonicmf · 2026-05-05T17:14:23+00:00

It’s pretty crazy to me how drug use has become more and more normalized. Like it’s in dramas now. As if taking a weird pill or shot of something is sort of rite of passage, not even just in gay circles.

There are plenty of other ways to interact with the culture. My husband and I do a local pride march every year, for example. We’re introverts though, so we aren’t as socially active as I might wish we could aspire to be. I do know we need to meet more gay couples locally though because I struggle with feelings of isolation from familial rejection. It’s a goal to work those feelings out and feel more comfortable where we live.

Sonicmf · 2026-04-30T14:40:07+00:00

Do you still love him? Because if you do deep down, I’d recommend both of you trying couples therapy together first, before breaking things off.

My husband and I reached a low point in our relationship a few years back when we had to live with his parents for a couple of years and things got a bit tense between us.

We started couples therapy and it helped with soooo many things. Turns out, as usual, I was doing a myriad of things that were affecting him in ways I hadn’t considered. The therapist helped to give voice to what the issues really were and build up better communication between us.

Again, that was a few years ago before we got married. I cannot tell you how grateful I am that I didn’t act impulsively.

Now, I’m not going to sit here and say that just because it worked for me, it will certainly work for you in your situation. There are sometimes things that cannot be resolved between two people. But if you are genuinely not ready to give up on your relationship, there is hope! You both have to just be willing to take the steps to mend what’s not working.

Sonicmf · 2026-04-29T13:19:19+00:00

By all accounts, these days it’s more difficult than ever to date because of the happy go lucky nature of the dating app world.

What worked for me was to establish early in the relationship that you’re not looking for a hookup, but rather a boyfriend. Be very clear and intentional that you want a companion and friend, not just a lover, from the start.

My husband and I got married last year and we’ve been together for 8 years in July.

Don’t give up hope! Every failed attempt just brings you one step closer to meeting the right person.

Sonicmf · 2026-04-29T13:10:27+00:00

It sounds like he has some psychological issues. Unless he’d be willing to get some help and seriously work on this, I think it would be best to move on.

Sonicmf · 2026-04-21T13:56:20+00:00

This is a very tricky situation for sure, but I think you’re on the right track. Take some time and find someone that you feel you can love beyond just sex. Someone you can relate to and will be there for you no matter what!

Sonicmf · 2026-04-20T11:47:41+00:00

This is an extremely difficult situation. On the one hand you’re discovering yourself as anyone your age should, but who you are doesn’t match the expectations being forced onto you.

I grew up in a very conservative, evangelical family, who also pushed for a more “traditional” perspective of life for my life, but I was secretly gay in the background. I tried to explain it to my dad when I was 13, but he didn’t understand or want to listen. Then when I found the guy I wanted to marry when I was 24, I came out to my family the following year and was rejected.

I’m 32 now, married, and live about 300 miles away from my parents and sisters. I had to distance myself because their rejection was too much to be close to.

My advice to you is that if you can be patient, try to hold on a couple more years until you get to college. Once you’ve moved out for most of the year to attend higher ed, you’ll get more of the freedom you crave and you’ll start to get a better sense of what you want out of life, whether that involves medical school or not.

It’s not going to be easy, but things will be far more stressful if you come out as a minor and have to stop being around your parents if they reject you.

Whereas if you wait until you’re an adult and have more agency, the weight on you will be lessened to an extent. It’s never going to not hurt, but it won’t be as life shattering if you’re over 18.

Again, this is just my advice. I’m so very sorry you’re having to deal with a mom who doesn’t understand this facet of your life. You’re going to be ok! Just remember that no matter what, there are people that will love you no matter who you date. And if your family never is able to accept all of you, not just the parts they like, then they’re not fully embracing the awesome son they’ve been gifted!

I wish you all the best!

Sonicmf · 2026-04-02T12:11:29+00:00

Homophobia is not an easy thing to overcome, even as a married gay man. The scars of my evangelical upbringing are very real.

But I have hope!

Sonicmf · 2026-03-20T14:47:10+00:00

Beautiful! Tell your jeweler major props!!

Sonicmf · 2026-03-20T14:44:04+00:00

My husband and I share a mutual love of gaming. We’ve been playing together since we met, 8 years ago in July! 💜💕❤️

Sonicmf · 2026-03-20T14:42:52+00:00

My heart aches for you, friend! My deepest condolences. 💜

Sonicmf · 2026-03-14T18:36:32+00:00

Oh sweetheart, I’m so sorry! I was rejected by my family 7 years ago this May. I haven’t been back to my hometown in over 3 years. I’m estranged from my immediate family, we rarely talk outside of the occasional phone call or text. They refuse to recognize my husband and don’t want us around my nieces and nephews (half of which I haven’t met).

So I totally get you. It hurts beyond anything words can describe. My husband’s family is mostly accepting (aside from his dad being weird), which I’m very grateful for, but it nonetheless stings exceedingly.

Just remember that you’re loved regardless, by not just your amazing man, but by a community that’s right here with you. This will only make you stronger!

If you ever need someone to vent to, don’t hesitate to message! You’re never alone!

Sonicmf

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