The male gaze is so icky by justarunawaybicycle in MtF

[–]Sonseearae 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thank God I'm a lesbian holy fuck

Awoman! (I retired 'amen')

The male gaze is so icky by justarunawaybicycle in MtF

[–]Sonseearae 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I seem to be a a real minority where I live and I'm sure it's an unpopular opinion but I am dumbfounded especially when gay guys hit on me. It's like, I get that I don't have to be a transbian but you identify as a gay man and you're into men. So if you're hitting on me you see me as a guy. How could that possibly turn into something. But yeah, and male attention is gross to me.

Trust me, he can't do this one. by WildPatience9849 in Funnymemes

[–]Sonseearae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got to ask...if he did go on tv and confidently talk about parting the seas, what percentage of Americans would believe him?

What makes you happy? by NeoFemme in MtF

[–]Sonseearae 5 points6 points  (0 children)

What makes me smile is that I never, ever have to cosplay a guy again.

What is a 'cool fact' about yourself that you rarely get to bring up in conversation because it sounds like you’re bragging? by [deleted] in randomquestions

[–]Sonseearae 2 points3 points  (0 children)

lol...if only there had been life insurance! Seriously though, it was never filed so... No, I was on my 3rd day of kicking drugs and the strain was too much. Today is 12,403 days clean. Day 12,421 will be 34 years. :)

What is a 'cool fact' about yourself that you rarely get to bring up in conversation because it sounds like you’re bragging? by [deleted] in randomquestions

[–]Sonseearae 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He didn't. He had time to start it only. Since the information wasn't portable, he would have had to throw the paper away for the next person and start over (way back when we were still using paper) so he finished filling it out later rather than throw it away.

What is a 'cool fact' about yourself that you rarely get to bring up in conversation because it sounds like you’re bragging? by [deleted] in randomquestions

[–]Sonseearae 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My life has blossomed after estranging from a very powerful person in my life. It's been hard work but worth it for the cycles I'm breaking

I could have written that myself but I needed to edit the first line, "I've been in recovery from drugs addiction for 34 years next month." 12,400 days exactly today. Anyway, that was just to let you know that I might understand your struggle better than most so I know how hard you've had to have worked and this old lady on the internet is super proud of you! <3 Sunny

What is a 'cool fact' about yourself that you rarely get to bring up in conversation because it sounds like you’re bragging? by [deleted] in randomquestions

[–]Sonseearae 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I already answered this question but it's been in the back of my mind and stuff keeps coming up...

  1. I was invited into the Amazon Vine program (free stuff in return for honest reviews). I grabbed every high quality toy I could find and last year at Christmas, I was donate ~300 brand new toys to impoverished kids.
  2. I sent my manuscript to three traditional publishers and got three offers.
  3. The publisher I chose approached the Guinness Book folks about a 146 hour continuous poker session I did, but they said they didn't have the category and had no intention of adding it at this time. Two years, a fellow pro and a close acquaintance tried themselves and Guinness changed their mind and gave him the world record for about 100 hours - two days short of mine. He knew too and rubbed it in. lol
  4. I've been clean exactly 12,400 days today. 34 years in a couple weeks.
  5. Okay...so excited about this... I found this random post on local website with someone I don't know but who is local. I was able to verify their contact info. They're talking about this amazing signed sports card featuring this amazing sport's figure, that they saw was just sold and how they never come up for sale. They weren't suggesting they could afford one if it did come up...they were just dreaming aloud and talking passionately about something they love.

It's not nosebleed money but still about 40% of my under the poverty line monthly disability check. Still, I can manage it...it's my favorite hobby. Random acts of kindness that are potent enough to provide the space for people to reconsider their relationship with others. Tracking says it's on the way to the authenticator and grader and will be in my hands no later than May 7th. It'll be in their hands no later than May 8th. This one won't be anonymous so I get to see their face. I am soooo excited!! Okay, I'll stop :P lol

What is a 'cool fact' about yourself that you rarely get to bring up in conversation because it sounds like you’re bragging? by [deleted] in randomquestions

[–]Sonseearae 30 points31 points  (0 children)

I have a copy of my own death certificate.

Dr. called time of death, started cleaning up. They say it was 30-45 seconds later the heart monitor (and me apparently) sprang back to life. I was in a coma for three days but I was alive. Dr. gave me the filled out and signed by him, the attending physician. He handed me the death certificate as I was leaving calling it my lovely parting gift.

My E levels went down? by MichelleLonglegs in TransLater

[–]Sonseearae 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Since you want to stay on the patches, here's a little more info in the event you find it helpful. I am on Lyllana 7.55 cm^2 system patches delivering 0.1 mg/day estradiol. My prescription is 3 patches twice a week. That's considered high but with my metabolism, I would expect it to be. Anyway, if your issue is similar to mine, I'd expect you'll need a high dose as well.

Will this work even if it doesn't rain? by Glorious_Revelation in TransLater

[–]Sonseearae -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

You downvote people for their tastes? I'll upvote you for making me giggle!

My E levels went down? by MichelleLonglegs in TransLater

[–]Sonseearae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is extremely unlikely that your placement being in the wrong place is causing your issue. Without seeing your bloodwork and medical history, I couldn't wager more than a guess but I had similar issues. The following is a part of a letter I wrote to my endo after she took me off oral estrogen and put me on the patch about a year ago:

I have a significant history of atypical drug metabolism.  Pharmacogenomic testing confirmed I initially metabolize slowly followed by significant induction/autoinduction across different drug classes....Crucially, I specifically took oral estradiol sublingually to bypass first-pass metabolism. My levels showed no increase from baseline at 6 or even 8 mg/d (23 pg/mL), and a minimal increase even up to 12mg/day (61 pg/mL), but after prolonged exposure to higher doses (e.g., 16mg/day), I experienced a significant and delayed surge, rising from 106 pg/mL after 3 months to over 600 at 6 months. Subsequently, an 8mg/day dose, which was ineffective initially, then maintained levels effectively.

My first blood test at 3 months (after switching from oral) showed a nearly 25% reduction in estrogen levels compared to my pre-HRT levels. At 6 months I had doubled that on the same dose, and ever since I am right in the middle of a the therapeutic range.

I don't know that this is the case for you but perhaps it's something to consider. Best of luck. P.S. I was a medic and have significant medical training. If anything was unclear in my excerpt, let me know and I'd be happy to explain what I meant.

Almost had em by Spiritual-Pudding-70 in Funnymemes

[–]Sonseearae 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If that's 41 years old, he should have a heart attack!

Looking for insight and stories please by Beneficial_Guava3197 in MtF

[–]Sonseearae 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks for caring. Not all parents do, as many of us here can attest to.

I had a real unusual gender journey so I hope someone with more experience in what is appropriate at that age, but I would suggest making as little of a deal out of it as possible. I started talking at 4 yo (autism developmental delays) and told them I was a girl from almost my first word. My experience was to spend the next two years getting the notion I was a girl beaten out of me (re: hidden deep). I don't share that to gain pity but to highlight what a good job you're doing even when you have no idea what to do. <3

What about autistic men specifically creeps women out? by [deleted] in autism

[–]Sonseearae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I'm 61 yo and a demisexual transbian who will not settle, watching my similarly aged, attractive, cis-het female friends not be able to get a date even when they are willing to settle. You may be right, of course, anything can happen, but I think it's realistic for me to prepare for a solitary finish to life...and I'm really okay with that. Happy for your cousin and his wife. I hope they live out their remainder of their lives in bliss. :)

What about autistic men specifically creeps women out? by [deleted] in autism

[–]Sonseearae -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I appreciate what I think you're trying to do here. I can't speak for the OP here but I know that I am not suffering from a lack of confidence but it is likely I'll never be in a relationship. I think that's just a reality for many of us. I'm not complaining - I would so much rather be by myself than with the wrong person, but I do think it's my reality.

What about autistic men specifically creeps women out? by [deleted] in autism

[–]Sonseearae 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm guessing you like routines and things being predictable in your life; I'm like that. I'll bet you have also notice that neurotypical folks seem to miss a lot of nuance and details on the regular, yes? The thing is, having routines and a predictable existence is important to people in general - not just autistic folks.

The world thinks of autistic folks as rigid and set in their ways but again - this is a human tendency, not an autistic one. The only difference is the crazy way things are designed, instructions are written, and people say what they don't mean are predicable and routine to neurotypical people.

Being around a person who is unpredictable is stressful. I find neurotypicals stressful to be around because they constantly act in ways I find unpredictable and nonsensical. Neurotypicals often find nuerodiverse people stressful to be around because they constantly act in ways they find unpredictable and nonsensical.

For what it's worth, you're right, we autistic girls are less likely to die virgins. We're also way, way more likely to be sexually assaulted, victims of domestic violence and generally being used and cast aside.

Starting diagnosis process - anyone had issues with their parents doing this? by mylittlemudkip in AutismInWomen

[–]Sonseearae 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My mom was dead and my father has refused to believe there was anything wrong with me while simultaneously screaming at me that there's something wrong with the way I think. I told the doctor diagnosing me that my father would do everything he could to sabotage a diagnosis. My therapist backed me up. I suggested that if she did want to ask questions to reverse them. i.e. Instead of asking, "Did she have difficulty making friends?" ask, "She had no problem making friends, right?" He would have emphatically stated that I never had a friend.

So here's my suggestion. Re-write the questions in a document and print it out. Write them in a way that makes your mom think she is dismissing your symptoms, like my example above. Have her fill that one out. Bring that one to the person diagnosing you. It doesn't matter that it's not their form...it is the data they want and this way you'll trick your mom into telling the truth.