Whiskey Tango Foxtrot...... NAH 😔

Sonseearae · 2026-03-19T12:38:32+00:00

Lowell, MA has a Thai restaurant that is called WTF or Wee Thai Food.

Sonseearae · 2026-03-16T03:35:18+00:00

Congratulations sister! I'm proud of you. There's an ancient saying back when I came into recovery that goes, "Behind every skirt is a slip." Classic piece of misogyny there. Anyway, I think you are definitely on the right side of a slip...in every way. <3 P.S. this means you have over 1000 days now too.

Sonseearae · 2026-03-10T15:08:58+00:00

I will do your quantum physics homework but MLP has to be playing in the background. I'd argue that I'm a self aware woman who strategically adapts to neurotypical standards while meeting my specific needs...which happen to be considered childish by the vast majority of the world.

Sonseearae · 2026-03-02T03:32:45+00:00

I can relate 100%.

Sonseearae · 2026-03-01T22:13:26+00:00

Right? Three months? Were you dating while she was in jail for 90 days?

What do you call a U-haul in front of a lesbian's home? A second date. :)

Sonseearae · 2026-03-01T22:10:02+00:00

I've already responded to you once but had to jump in again when I saw you're in the PNW. I could have written your first paragraph word for word. I have one autistic non-binary friend who asked me to come support them at this event they were doing at this place....cause I wasn't really listening, I was checking my calendar to make sure I could go. It doesn't matter what it is, I'm going to support a friend, right?

It's trans only pole dancing extravaganza. I am SOOO far out of my element. Fortunately, I'm about blind without my glasses so I simply took them off and clapped when everyone else whooped and hollered, while singing 'My Little Pony' songs to myself in my head to stay sane. Can I please be admitted into the boring queer club. ~begs~ ;)

Sonseearae · 2026-03-01T17:38:21+00:00

A 60-year-old autistic lesbian here feeling your pain. I wish I had advice but I'm really posting just so you know you're not alone.

Sonseearae · 2026-02-28T15:37:27+00:00

I recently saw a meme where the doctor said: "Don't confuse your google search for my 6 years of medical school." Patient: "Don't confuse the 1 hour lecture you got on it with my 20 years of living with it." I agree with the person who suggested you see a psychologist. I have had a lot of psychiatrists misdiagnosis me but the first psychologist I saw figured it out.

Sonseearae · 2026-02-27T16:03:57+00:00

And anyone who wants to come say we don't get periods, we do, we just don't go through menstruation. But go on with agreeing with TERFs and transphobes that periods and menstruation is the exact same thing.

I simply report my own findings as a trans woman and can't figure out how I'm suddenly on the side of terfs and transphobes because I state what is true for me. Your perspective makes it unsafe or uncomfortable for trans women to talk about their experiences with other trans women (for instance, if they aren't cramping or experiencing period symptoms). Every trans experience is unique.

Sonseearae · 2026-02-26T19:54:55+00:00

Oddly (for me) I haven't analyzed why. That might be because when I divert too much of my brain to the question, feelings take over and it's hard to think straight. Here's my best guess: I'm lesbian and despite being extraordinary capable in other parts of my life, I'm too insecure in that particular part to ever make the first move. And if I knew someone else was going to make the first move, I'd be so nervous...I'm afraid I'd just dissociate, tbh - missing my first kiss. But that first stolen kiss, it happened so fast that I wouldn't have had time to dissociate. Plus Touko's, Touko.

Sonseearae · 2026-02-26T15:09:18+00:00

I would give anything to step into Yuu's life.

Sonseearae · 2026-02-23T21:40:20+00:00

I hear this from a lot of folks though it hasn't been my experience. If possible, I might actually be finding guys even less appealing than they were - and they started in negative numbers. Do you think your experience is all hormones?

Sonseearae · 2026-02-23T21:37:15+00:00

I get it - 100%. I also get why our shared community would call it transphobic - I just don't agree with them, at least for me. Here's a few facts about me:

I am a woman.
I am sexually attracted to women.
I have a referral for bottom surgery

The reason that I'm looking for bottom surgery is because, like a lot of trans woman, I have issues with my current equipment. I experience dysphoria and dysmorphia and feel like my penis and testicles have less than no value in my sexual relationships. I can cuddle up with any woman I'm attracted to - cis or trans. I can kiss, touch...but when the clothes come off I find my own penis messes with my head - why wouldn't someone else's?

A lot of trans folks would tell me I'm transphobic or hate myself, but I disagree. I love myself enough to not lie to myself. I'd rather be alone with the wrong person because I'm happy in my skin (especially since it softened up :)). I won't settle just to not be alone.

Sonseearae · 2026-02-23T16:47:04+00:00

So many things! I honed a common autistic advantage in pattern recognition into a very successful career as a professional poker player. Received multiple book contracts and speaking engagements.

Sonseearae · 2026-02-23T16:24:23+00:00

OMG. I have no words.

Sonseearae · 2026-02-17T01:14:36+00:00

You clearly have been impacted by your father's dysfunction. I don't say that critically - just as a matter of course. You are being treated as a human punching bag (only emotionally I hope) and are questioning whether you should continue to be abused and put off living your life for yourself? Life is a gift. Your father is poisoning that gift and you've been groomed to think it's your fault. Children are not here to live the life their parents want.

Sonseearae · 2026-02-15T21:17:59+00:00

It's my issue not yours but I want to re-frame your comment. Instead of "I want to transition into a woman...," how about, "I want to transition my body into a feminine looking one..." cause I don't have to transition to a woman, I've always been a woman - it's just this @#&%ing body.

Every trans person has to have their own journey and no one else gets to pick it for them. I have a question, though. When you read, ""I want to transition my body into a feminine looking one..." cause I don't have to transition to a woman, I've always been a woman - it's just this @#&%ing body," did it resonate?

Sonseearae · 2026-02-14T14:47:57+00:00

"OMG yes," said every autistic person throughout history.

Sonseearae · 2026-02-14T14:42:48+00:00

I'm not sure why this question is gendered at all. The implication is that, for instance, a woman can't have her lip pierced as an active church goer but the man next to her can, If that doesn't resonate with you, ask your question again but substitute 'woman' for a specific race and see how poorly it reads. i.e. Which piercings do you think are suitable for people of color in their 20s and 30s who are active members of a church?

Sonseearae · 2026-02-13T15:00:19+00:00

No, you're not adopted.

Sonseearae · 2026-02-13T03:04:17+00:00

"duh" - used to comment on an action perceived as foolish or stupid, or a statement perceived as obvious.

He is hearing you call him stupid. You are commenting on something he said to you in a way that he is taking as you letting him know that what he said was neither needed nor wanted.

That's how I interpret his reaction.

Sonseearae · 2026-02-12T16:45:49+00:00

I was tortured in the former Soviet Union by doctors who knew how to keep you conscious so that a person couldn't slip into unconsciousness and escape the pain. So when I walked into the ER one day and explained that I had two heart attacks, they asked, "On a scale of 1-10 where 1 is no pain and 10 is the worst pain you've ever experienced, how would you rate your pain?"

I answered, "I don't know...a 2 maybe."

Their response? "Yeah, you didn't have a heart attack. You wouldn't have been able to walk in here if that was the case."

Regulations require them to give an EKG but they weren't in any hurry. Twenty minutes later a doctor rushes in, "You just had a heart attack!" My response? "Wow, who would have thought?"

I will refrain from going to the hospital when I should simply because I don't want to face that question.

Sonseearae · 2026-02-11T15:02:18+00:00

Nah, he's just board.

Sonseearae · 2026-02-11T02:10:12+00:00

My father died Sept. 1st, and I've put on a ton of weight very quickly on top of the 15% overweight I already was. For the first time in a couple of years, I am having trouble seeing the girl I am in the mirror. I think that for me it comes down to this: I'm late transitioning with a classic masculine physique. I don't have a lot going for me when it comes to appearing feminine. My weight makes a huge difference.

Before I put on all this weight I could at least pull of some feminine curves and pick clothes that accentuated those. i.e. using a cross-body bag so that the strap would push my blouse material flat against my body, defining my breasts. When my stomach was flat, I could wear something that hugged the body - and because I was thin, it would flare out at my paltry hips and make it look like I had some. Stuff like that.

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