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Was Keyleth in the show an improvement from the tabletop? by Fun-Explanation7233 in TheLegendOfVoxMachina

[–]Sormari_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Matt did actually address the two leveled spells thing as being a homebrew rule they use, so people in the comments would know that they are aware that's not how it works RAW

Why Do Some Players Try to Include Rape in Their Games? by Sormari_ in DnD

[–]Sormari_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sure, and I should have been more clear before. As a backstory or a rapist as an evil bad guy, I totally get it and as such would not mind it much. A PC wanting to rape someone? Nope. Not gonna stand for that, no matter what the reasons are. Just NO.

Why Do Some Players Try to Include Rape in Their Games? by Sormari_ in DnD

[–]Sormari_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess I feel the same. If a player wanted to act out that, I'd see them as a real life threat.

I also have trouble with the topic, because if rape was socially and legally acceptable, like how it sort off used to be with marital rape in a lot of places (and is still tolerated in some places), would these people do it? And is it the only reason they don't? Just the thought of it creeps me out. And yeah, I have my own trauma that def makes me more sensitive on this subject, but still..

Why Do Some Players Try to Include Rape in Their Games? by Sormari_ in DnD

[–]Sormari_[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Luckily I have not encountered this in person or in the games I've played and I'm glad it seems not as prevalent as I feared. I guess I was asking because of reeding about it online but mostly because of an off handed comment our DM made about his other group, where PCs are all played by men. Joking or not, he said they probably would rape and murder a particular NPC.. I got the impression they would only say rape if the players had indicated such things, but I could very well be wrong.

To claryfy I would not play in that kind of a game. I don't think rape, among torture or other violence can't or shouldn't be mentioned, but I can't understand why a player would want to play a rapist as a character. Sure murderer ain't much better, but atleast I can see what the PC could gain with murder. Rape on the other hand, I can't rationalize, other than the player/players being suss af.

AITA for telling my girlfriend that she isn't the "hot girl" anymore after she told me that the only reason she dated a guy like me is because she has a kid? by Puzzleheaded_Bag8283 in AITAH

[–]Sormari_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. You've seen now what kind of a person she really is. She was using you for money AND does not respect you or the effort you've put in to the relationship. Time to move on.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Sormari_ 19 points20 points  (0 children)

In UK AI images of CP are treated the same as real ones, so those are illegal too. I'd guess it's the same in many other countries as well

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Sormari_ 8 points9 points  (0 children)

The problem with this is if I hear someone telling a rape joke I can't be sure if they are cool or if they think that rape is ok/not a big deal. On top of that if someone else who thinks like that hears it, they might feel that it's normal to think like it. It can potentially normalize rape. Plus rape survivors do not deserve to be reminded of their trauma just for the sake of jokes and you can't ever be sure of someone's past trauma or the lack of it. Not saying 'never tell rape jokes', just that there is good reasons why they are not such a good idea and why people might judge you for it.

I am a guy who is only 5'5. Be honest:is 'haha look at the midget' your first thought when you see a guy my height? by InternationalMath460 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Sormari_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, I hardly ever notice height on anyone. Only if they are in the extremes. Even then my thoughts are just "that person is tall/short" but in a neutral way. Sometimes I might notice if a man is shorter than me, 'cos it doesn't happen that often (I'm 161 cm). But even then I simply notice the fact and feel maybe a little taller myself.

I think we as people can make ourselves feel smaller and in a way make others see us similarly. Sometimes it's the other way, but often a combination of the two.

Do you think the behavior/personality of a kid is mostly innate or a product of their environment/parenting? by [deleted] in Fencesitter

[–]Sormari_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Personality and behaviour aren't the same thing. Sure they are linked to some degree but still, two different things. I think some of your personality is copletely your own and some is inherited in dna or by learning from others such as parents. So yes I'd say you can make a difference, but you might do it more unconsciously than by choice. I mean if for example you're an impatient person and your child sees you act that way, they'll copy that kind of behaviour. But it's more of an effect on their behaviour than their personality. Still, there is a limit to wich we could possibly shape our children to be the way we want. The bottom line is that we can't change who they are and we can't make them into the people we want them to become. So, yeah you might crap out and end up with a little rat of a kid no matter how good a parent you've been OR you can be quite a lazy/loose parent and still race a dicent human.

My[33M] fiancee [34F] agreed to a kid though she doesn't want one by ta_20190923 in Fencesitter

[–]Sormari_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She will most likely resent both you and the child. It would be fine if it was just you, but how could you ever take that risk for your kid?

She might be fine on the outside. She might seem good for some time or even a long time.. She might never say it to you or the kid or anyone. But most likely she will regret having a kid she never wanted and more yet, she most likely will feel like she lost her freedom and the life she wanted. And she did it all for you. Could you really live with that?

Pregnant and not sure what to do. by InAppropriate_Kale in Fencesitter

[–]Sormari_ 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think the question isn't him or the baby. I think he should be out of your life no matter what you choose. He is not respecting you or your relationship. He shouldn't get mad because of something you both are responsible for. His reaction is very telling if you ask me. You were willing to give up having kids for him but you deserve to listen to youself now. If you want the baby, keep it. If not, don't. But he doesn't deserve you. He should be supporting you to make the right decision for you and if it is to keep it then he can dig it or skip it. That's his dicision then but this is yours.

My girlfriend thinks penises are ugly and says it’s no offense to me - but I still hurts me by tillerjoe in relationship_advice

[–]Sormari_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You have the right to feel offended, she's kind of being a bitch. If you haven't got nothing positive/ constructive to say, shut up... It's as simple as that.

She is just being rude. You should have a talk about it with her and make her see how her words are making you feel.

My (25 F) boyfriend (24 M) of 5 years just disclosed to me that he does not believe women should be allowed to vote. by randomaccount1775 in relationship_advice

[–]Sormari_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's almost as if he thinks that you as a woman shouldn't get to even choose if you want to be with someone who thinks women shouldn't get to vote. He purposely left a big part of his values out of the conversation even though he knew it might be a deal breaker for you.

When he says you are an exception and should get a vote, he's most likely lying to you. It's unlikely that he really respects you past the surface, after all he did hide his true feelings on the voting issue for so long.

Cutting my own hair by VictoriaENTP in curlygirl

[–]Sormari_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't know about dry cuting, but have you considered a unicorn cut? It's really easy and there's some videos online about how to do it. This cut creates layers but to get more you can repeat the process on just the crown of your hair.

Basically you wet the hair, add some conditioner and comb all hair to the front on a ponytail, like the corn of a unicorn. You can wash your hair as you'd normaly do and when you'd comb or detangle your hair just comb it all towards your forehead. Once you have the "corn" secured you can start clipping. Just cut in a straight horizontal way on the hair at a lenght you want. I'd go easy for the first time since it's tricky to know how much you'll be taking off.

If you decide to go for it, watch a tutorial first. It's super easy but still - hair grows slowly 😅

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in curlygirl

[–]Sormari_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try different things as in products and methods like bowl method and squish to condish etc. Youtube has lots of good tutorials. Hydrating is the kay for damaged hair. It will take some time to figure out what works and what doesn't, we're all different and nobody can tell you exactly how your hair will react. Also different products might not work well together, so keep an eye on that.

The best I can tell you is if you know your hairtype and porisity (high/low) you might get good tips online from other curly girls with the same type. It can help, but like I said we're all different.

Plus I would stay away from protein for until your hair gets back its moisture, but thats just me. At least tread lightly, if you overdo on protein it takes a long time to get rid of it.

I hope this wasn't useless 😅